Have you ever felt lonely when you were with people, like you just weren't really connecting at a deep level?

Question

I have a lot of great people in my life--friends, professional colleagues, artistic collaborators, students, audience members, a new meetup group for singers and songwriters, etc.--but sometimes I just feel like I am from another planet. In my poetry I call it being from the Planet ZXR7, where peace is peace, and war is no more, and no one there wants to even the score. Not like I'm this perfect person, but all my life I have felt like I don't fit in, or I don't get life on this planet, in some fundamental way. Ever since my recent "break-up," I have felt like this even more: like I'm here on this planet to help, to teach, to write, to sing, to love, but to never truly be loved in return in ways that are meaningful to me. I feel like I am going through this dark night of the soul, where I am admitting that I don't know what love or friendship is anymore. I tell my friends how I feel, but I can tell that they usu.do not get me. Have you ever felt like this? What did you to heal?

P.S.--Thanks for your responses so far. I 've gotten some help from each one so far. But I need to add that I am on a spiritual path of studying, meditating, and praying on a daily basis. I teach, write, perform, volunteer, sing, and support my friends. I am just trying to understand why I have so few intimates or deep connections, and what I can do about it. (or is this "normal" on planet Earth?) It might be helpful to read my profile before you respond. As for dating...hmmm...my last mistake in this area is what sent me back into feeling like an extraterrestrial in the first place, sooo...maybe later after I heal.

Answer 1

You do sound like you are supported by a great set of diverse people, your inner feelings may be right that you are alone - when you think of it in terms of being an artist -- you live on a whole nother vibe and see and feel things differently than the majority thats what seperates you from others, and helps with what you can make, your feelings of alienation. It may be hard to live like your all alone from another planet -- you gotta find others who feel exactly the same - you are not alone. I would recommend you post more updates and encourage others who feel the same to respond - you may be surprised to find your not alone with those feelings

Answer 2

Well I have felt alone but I can't say that I ever put it the way you did.

You are a deep thinker and really sometimes that can get you into trouble, sort of speak.

Don't be so tense and uptight, lighten up.

Tomorrow, walk around where there are lots of people. Kind of act like you are the Walmart greeter. Smile at everyone and if you see someone in need, rush to their aid. Make it a day of walking in the sunshine instead of burying your head in the sand.

Also, talk to your doctor, you sound like some depression meds are in need..
good luck and God bless, oh and read your Bible, it will enlighten you.

Answer 3

I always feel like this. A true friend is hard to find, and rarely do people find it in life.

I feel the same way as you, and, well...you can't really help it. If you don't feel like they give a crap, then why should you? Just talk with them when you need to and don't make an ounce of effort, i mean why should you? There are better people in this world then those that don't care...

Answer 4

i have indeed felt like that! Theres hardly anyone at my school that i "click" with.....i get along with everyone,but dont have TRUE best friends. As for your recent breakup,maybe try going on other dates,to give you more confidence,and hanging out with people who have many common interests. Have fun,go out on dates,and find out who you really are. Talk about stuff that you want to talk about,and join conversations. I hope this helps!

Answer 5

not everything is about connecting on some deep level, your expectations are to high, lighten up. Maybe you are here to teach and to write or whatever, and maybe you aren't' putting enough effort or energy into it and that is where your unhappiness stems from....