You love your husband or wife, no question about it, but you found this special person later after marriage who fits those qualities you sought for before you got married.
Surprisingly, your relationship with this special someone is not just a fling for you, but more of the TRUE LOST LOVE you found so late in life. You can't imagine yourself anymore living life without him/her beside you. You dream of growing old with him/her. But you can' imagine leaving your wife/husband just for this special someone.
2007-09-08 19:54:33 · 13 answers · asked by Calla R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it is very possible to 'like' two people at the same time. you have a need that is being satisfied by the other which the other one can't give you. find out what those are and decide where you want to go. but be very careful and be very objective when you do this because there's a fine thin line between love and lust, especially during the early stages of a relationship.
Some pointers:
loyalty of the other person (are you going to be left behind later just because he/she finds another interest)
maturity (nothing more satisfying than any partner who is mature and confident of himself/herself; it's like solid rock relationship)
imagine yourself done with your 'choosing'. will u able to stick to that choice and able to work on it really hard with all the ups and downs that will come along?
i would imagine you have a deep perception of love by asking this and by saying that you can't imagine leaving spouse 'just for this'. having said that, what do you mean 'JUST for this'? you know what I mean? by the way, this other person, what has he/she done for you to say you can't live without this person anymore?
in other words, if this feeling of love confuses you, go to the next level of being practical and make yourself the winner in the end. learn from this experience and accept the fact that no person is perfect for you. everyone comes with a package.
2007-09-08 20:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Desiree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont beleive you can love somebody with the same intensity. Its always gonna be something that stands out. You make think you click with that other person better but do you live with them? and how long will you click? The one you married is that special someone and I would say think back to why you feel in love with them and that may solve your problem. If you married bc of a reason other than love then maybe you should consider leaving bc it wasnt right from the beginning.
2007-09-09 03:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by Shandlan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call it what it is an affair, so you are now in love with that special someone you sound like a little school boy. Let your wife know what you been doing to her behind her back.Let your wife know what you been up to then you won't have to decide she will do it for you. Just think you will then get to live your life out with your special whore,any female that will sleep with a married man is nothing bout a ****.
2007-09-09 04:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you can...
but you have to respect the rules of the game in a marriage..
how about this - if your better half tell you the same, how would you feel? what you will do?
you can love and like as many people in your life as you can, but if you want to be in a relationship, follow the rules of the game else you are playing with fire.
there is no best love, person in life, it's all about making a choice at that moment in time.
if you give yourself excuses now, you are going to meet another best love along the way till you sick of handling the mess you may have created.
true love doesn't mean a must to be together.
2007-09-09 03:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by lost man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah because me and my husband have been married 2 1/2 years we have a child with one another and we dediced to work things out and be a family and two days later he decided that his ex gf (who he cheated on me with) he loved her so much and he can't imagin being without her but he loved me to. You know what I have to say to that.....grow up and decide what is important in life some person who you have a few months with our your family.
2007-09-09 03:00:15 · answer #5 · answered by jennie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I dont think so. You may like the person outside and love your wife/husband at home. that someone outside can give you what your wife/husband cant give you but that doesnt mean you will give up your marriage because of her/him cause that is only liking. It's the fun that you enjoy with that someone outside and not the responsiblity.
2007-09-09 06:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think that it is possible, but there is one stipulation. Because our cultures definition of love has a foundation in trust in order to truly love both people, both people must have knowledge of the other and be good with the situation. It's my understanding that one cannot love and cause harm. This is why polygamy is sometimes acceptable.
Then again, because the reality of love is formed by culture, perhaps our definition of love is not true. Perhaps, love is not what we think it to be at all and that stipulation of trust does not apply. I suppose it depends on your philosophy and reality. I think it be ideal that your reality reflects the reality of your loved ones, of course!
2007-09-09 03:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can love two people with the same intensity but because of a different set of personality characteristics. No one person can be and do all we need/desire; and we might find those other characteristics that match (other parts of) our personality type in someone else...
2007-09-09 09:12:30 · answer #8 · answered by Tonya R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i don't believe u can love 2 people at the same time equally. eventually u will leave your spouse for this other person because the other person will not be satisfied with not having all of u. u couldn't love your spouse if u were willing to cheat on them.
2007-09-09 06:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. true love wouldnt have anything to do with betrayal.
It's either, you think you're in love, when you're actually not, when it's just an obsession, a long-lasting crush, or the excitement of experiencing someone new in your life.
OR MAYBE you never truly loved your wife...
Only you have the answer. Think Quick!
TWO ROBBERS HAVE YOUR WIFE AND LOVER. YOU ARE FACING BOTH OF THEM. IF THEY SHOT THEM BOTH AT THE SAME TIME... WHO WOULD YOU JUMP IN FRONT OF FIRST?!
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Whoever you thought of first. should be the person you are truly in love with.
i hope my little psychology helped. sorry if it didnt =/ hehe...
2007-09-09 03:11:12 · answer #10 · answered by MQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋