DO you treat a fat person differently than a thin one?

Question

I have just lost 100 pounds in 9 months. I have noticed a definite difference in the way people treat me from 9 months ago. More people will stop me on the street and visit. As well as much more attention from men than I use to have. What is this??? I am the same person inside as I was 9 months ago!!!

Answer 1

Ms Crone, face it, there are SOME folks who are just too shallow for their OWN good. I have ALWAYS lived by the principle that any person, no matter HOW good looking is only ONE serious accident away from looking butt ugly. Therefore I treat everyone as though they WERE butt ugly and love and care about them the smae as anyone else. My personal mantra is, "ugly gals need love too" and I have found that it's the Plain Janes who end up being the most loving women any way.

I have tended to notice the same thng about women. They tend to seek after their "Knight in Shining Armor". I refuse to be a Knight in shining armor, those kind tend to have NO time for the woman because their too busy "polishing their armor" to have time for you. I've always called myself "The Knight in rusty bent-up armor", I may not be flashy and pretty, but I don't spend ALL my time keeping up my outward appearance so I have plenty of time for my partner.

BB,
Raji the Green Witch

Answer 2

Of course you are the same person, its just the way people see you. People are taught to think that skinny is pretty and perfect. and fat is ugly so most people are too shallow tot see the person that you really are. The same thing happened to me. I used to weight 30 or 40 pounds more than I do now and since I lost all that weight I have a lot more friends and people definitely treat me better.

Answer 3

I'm with you, sister in weight loss. people treat me differently, especially men, who ogle me in my cute young low rise jeans and stuff. The attention is nice. I only lost 37 pounds so the change is not as dramatic as yours, but there is a difference also in how I feel about showing off my body.

As to treating a fat person differently than a thin one, i guess most people do to a certain extent. We all make these judgments about others that are pre-judgments and are unfair. I try not to let it happen, and as a person who did lose some weight, I remind myself that fat doesn't change who you are inside, and getting thin doesn't either.

Blessings sis,
Lady M )0(

Answer 4

No. I cook a lot, and try to force feed everyone I know. People get tired of me talking about this dish, or my grocery list, lol, really.
I'll be anyone's friend, as long as they're good people and like me for who I am.
Most people, in my opinion, don't want to work hard at friendship's, so choose the outside of a person to make friends and ignore their inside, if you know what I mean. I guess that's why I don't have many personal friends, because I know through experience how people usually think of themselves first, before anyone else.
It has always been so, and perhaps always will be so, but true love starts from within yourself, not from another. Once you can love yourself for who you are, you won't care what people think who have only cared for your outside.

Answer 5

I don't but a lot of people do. I am overweight and I KNOW I am treated differently and people judge me based on appearance alone. I think they look at someone who is overweight and assume they are stupid and lazy. I have been to job interviews and know I did not get the job based on my weight. And these were accounting jobs, not anything that weight would have mattered. Discrimination against fat people is the the last form of acceptable discrimination. It is sad but true.

Answer 6

There are two ways I have to answer this question. First: It makes no difference to me what you are physically, so far as I would treat you as a person, in general. Second: I am not sexually attracted to large women, and although they may be a great person, I would not find a large woman adequate to suit my needs as a potential lover. So, in the first place, the answer is no. In the second, the answer is yes.

Answer 7

If you live in America which I'm guessing you do then the answer is easy. Most people here are just plain assholes. 99 percent of guys only like hot girls with huge boobs and blonde hair. You're obviously being treated differently because all of america is brainwashed that if you're not considered "hot" by most peoples standards then you're wierd or gross. I on the other hand say **** america and stick it to the man by not caring what somebody looks like and just being nice to anybody i meet.

Btw this is def best answer ;)

Answer 8

good for you on the weight loss!!! I had gastric bypass surgery almost three years ago and lost 105 lbs. YES people do treat you better. alot better, even friends and family for some reason. it made me mad at first but I guess it is just human nature, I think that some peope don't even realize they treat big people differently. sad I know, I know exactly what you are talking about.

Answer 9

you are stil the same person from the inside but i belive that you must have more appealing looks now that you have lost you desired amount of weight. this happend to me wen i was younger i was quite large .. now ive lost some weight and i get alot more attention and feel more confident in myself.. this isnt any judgment by anybody .. its just human natre working the mind the usual way=)

Answer 10

No, a person is the same inside no matter if they weight 120 or 300lbs.