So me and my cousin have been talking for a while now and we know we want to get together sometime. Eh, just a date for starters and see where it goes. I dont care that shes my cousin (my dads brothers sons daughtor=2ndcousin. her dad is my 1st). Of course we do worry about what the family may think so when we do, we'll just keep it on the downlow. I've done some homework on this and I know "don't have sex, babies may be mutated", a small chance with 2nd cousins. Anyway, I want to know what you all think. Oh, no we havent kissed, we've just flirted together. Im 24 and shes 18. and I dont care how many of you say EWWW, but it would be nice to see how many do.
2007-09-08 18:24:38 · 56 answers · asked by madkoopa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would like to add that its not "illegal" to date anybody. Semi distant relations or not. Its as "illegal as a male dating another male".
2007-09-08 18:36:47 · update #1
You shouldn't care what society thinks. You should worry about your family. You should try to talk to someone in your family that you trust about it and see what they think. Society doesn't know she's your cousin unless you make it known. Find out if she is worth losing the relationship with your mom and dad over?
2007-09-09 03:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by KristinaRM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I said something like this before in another question...in the 1800's, people would regularly marry their cousins. There was absolutely nothing wrong with that. It's just that there has been so much "inbreeding" so to speak that genes are less mixed and it's easier to have children with problems now days.
While I don't think that it's such a good idea to get hooked up with your family, if that's what you want, go for it!
Just remember, there are other special girls out there who you'll have no problems with whatsoever.
Good luck!
2007-09-08 18:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mandy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
im sorry but our world is so closed minded about these things that youll prolly will have a hard time finding someone to accept it...also if its just a date for starters and you sound like your not looking for it to be serious then why would you even want to considerate starting with your cousin...the way i see it as you REEAALLLY like and that if she likes you as much this is going to be a lot more serious than you let on in your question so my adivce is : based on your question i get that you just want to date for starters so i sugggest not dating your cousin because if your admittingly not looking for a serious relationship then why on earth would you think about dating your cousin in the first place 2nd cousin or not....and if you are serious thennot only is your question kinda misleading but you have a problem because then you say you want to keep it "downlow" so what happens when it does get serious and you cant keep it "downlow" nemore...hows your girlfriend/cousin going to feel about being your dirty little secret? and i dont norm care about age difference but this girl is barely legal so give her sometime to think about whats shes getting into...im 18 and i can tell you now that i dont want to say to people "hey im an18 year old girl whos dating my cousin but dont tell anyone because we're trying to keep it 'downlow' and if we ever decide to get serious then its illegal to marry my cousin depending upon where i live so we could never get married or have kids and no one would except us"---and YES it is illegal in SOME places to marry your 2nd cousin
2007-09-08 18:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait if shes your cousin's daughter then doesn't it mean shes your niece????....but anyways u should really have a talk with a psychiatrist to know if u guys r really wanting to b together or if its just a phase or if this has any other explanation.but if both of u are really sure of this then go ahead because feelings are never planned they just happen i just hope you dont make the wrong choice...just before announcing it or telling anyone make sure you have a plan in case the family rejects this relationship
2007-09-08 18:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly i say go for it. But remember this man, many girls (related or not) tend to want relationships to last! So if you want to hang out, like you are saying, it might, MIGHT, lead to something else. But if you are willing to go lengths to hide it and to be with her. Go for it. Oh and the retarded kids thing, (THIS IS AN OPINION NOT A FACT FROM ME SO DON'T TRUST MY WORD!!!) i think parents say that to make sure that you don't do anything weird with any family members!
Hope this helps! Good luck!
2007-09-08 18:32:04 · answer #5 · answered by Blue Man Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend's Mom and Dad were cousins. wnd or 3rd cousins - I think. I always tease him that he's inbred. It is a little creepy. Probably okay though, if you're not FIRST cousins.
I think it's against the law to marry your first cousin in the U.S. I remember a girl I went to college with - and she wanted to marry her first cousin - so they were going to move to France. I guess it's legal there.
As for you - you don't want to get into a relationship that is going to upset your family. Not a good idea.
2007-09-08 18:31:55 · answer #6 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is a little strange, call me old fashioned. it's a big world out there and i think you're just looking a little too closed to home. her dad would will want to kick your *** and i wouldn't blame him. wouldn't you if the tables were turned? for all concerned, hold back the urge. and please, flirting, then dating will lead to sex, so i would be concerned about your mutated babies too. why not go find someone that looks like your cousin instead. bad idea, stay away from her!
2007-09-08 18:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by deidre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just look at England's loyal family. They marry within the family alot and now the youngest son looks like President Bush. Do you want your son to look like Bushie? :0
2007-09-08 18:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
incest is not good but love is you in a tricky situation i mean thats a dilemma .if i was you i would try to avoid the situation as far as possible well do you reckon that a lot of problems would be following you if you do that family will definitely oppose in almost all relationships like that and people would look bad at you saying that you gross or ewwww .how can they do that are they nuts .but who are we to judge if i were you i wouldnt but you not me and you make your own decisions knowing that cosequences would be folloiwing you
2007-09-08 18:56:55 · answer #9 · answered by librian sexxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2nd cousin is to far down the list to worry about. Between adoptions, and affairs, people moving around and losing touch...we're probably all related to someone we don't even know.
2007-09-08 18:32:57 · answer #10 · answered by curious115 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋