My husband and i have been happily married 16 yrs but i dont think he has sexual needs like most men cause he rarely initiate but yet says he is always horny for me so i think he is full of **** and actions speak louder then words..I love making love with him and i have NEVER said no so that is not the reason he doesnt initate more often...He says he likes it and it turns him on when i initate and thats great but it would be nice if he initiate more often it would make me feel wanted so i still think he doesnt have sexual needs like most men cause IF he is always horny for me then in my opinion he would initiate more..There have been times we have gone a week or 2 without making love cause i will wait to see if he will eventually initiate like now its been almost 2 weeks and i am waiting to see if he will but i doubt it..
2007-09-08 17:37:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
When i do initiate he is always ready for some action..I have told him a few times he can have it anytime he wants it and i have also told him a few times he should initiate more but nothing has changed..This makes me feel unwanted and said...I cant be certain about this but i think before i woke up this morning he masturbated but i dont know for sure i could be wrong..Cause he was wearing different underware this morning and when i went into the bathroom the underware he was wearing last night was hidden under other closes and when i pick them up they seemed a little sticky..i dont know lol.
2007-09-08 17:40:59 · update #1
I think if i dont initate that he wont miss having sex cause he doesnt seem to miss it now.
2007-09-08 17:46:02 · update #2
Ruben he is not gay.
2007-09-08 17:46:36 · update #3
Answers he is not gay and i already said he is a good decent men,a great husband and wouldnt hurt me like that.
2007-09-08 18:02:34 · update #4
lol well i didnt already say this but he is a good decent man,a great husband and wouldnt hurt me by cheating plus i know his views on cheating.
2007-09-08 18:10:05 · update #5
Mid we dont have any porn and he doesnt go on the computer so he isnt looking at it on there either.
2007-09-08 18:53:37 · update #6
What is the hang up on initiation? What does it matter who initiates? You better get over that before he decides masturbating is better than....
2007-09-09 03:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by Solo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, I had a husband like that. There was always an excuse.
He got his hormones teasted. The honey moon was awful. We had sex once then he didn't touch me for four days. Gosh I was very young, what did I Know.
I finally left him after 26 years. It was the best thing I ever did.
I think he is just not sexual or maybe a little bit gay. But I can't imagine him being bold enough to do anything about it.
When we divorced he didn't date at all for several years.Then he perchance had something in common with a lady and they got married quicklyl
Poor lady
My X is a sociopath. He is cruel to me now.
I am so glad that I have been able to experience amazing and wonderful men who enjoy a woman.
I realized that I was pretty, smart & interesting. My X had belittled me so much that I was very low when I finally was set free.
I married forever. I had made a promise to love & honor.
I finally realzed that God didn't call me to be in an emotional and verbal destructive marriage.
I have no regrets for leaving.
Get some counseling.
Contact me if you need to
2007-09-09 00:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I met when we were 13 and still are together today... he just probably isn't horny. We have a similar problem but its the other way around, so speaking as a person with no sexual needs at all.. you should try something new. He could feel akward about asking for any sex. My fiance and I havn't had sex for about a year, but thats because we spend time doing other things and I think its a waste of time. He feels differently, though. Just try talking to him about it. If you get an answer you don't feel is good enough (or a lie) keep bugging him about it. If you have been together 16 years, everything should be open and he should have no problem telling you truthfully.
2007-09-09 00:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My reactions in the order that I had them:
1) He's gay
2) He's bangin' another chick
3) He's tired of initiating it. Your idea of initiating and his are two different things.
Also, are you doing the things in bed that he wants? Or are you just doing the same ol' missionary thing every time?
Edit...
You seem to have an answer for everyone's suggestions. Cheating, being gay or bi, etc... has nothing to do with him being a good and decent man. Well, cheating can, but people do make mistakes and once the mistake is made, it is a lot easier to do it again.
Get some "adult" movies. Maybe your sex life needs to be spiced up.
2007-09-09 01:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by Answers is run by hippocrites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i think our husbands are twins! so are our reactions. my guy is willing and able but he will rarely initiate. (the closest he gets to initiating is to rub my arm or look at me!) anyway, when i ask him about it (because i have felt unattractive and insecure with his behavior) he says that even though he knows i will say yes, he still feels scared and shy. it is very confusing to me. but like your husband he is a great guy and great father. i always wonder if he was like that with other girls before me or maybe it just bothers me more than it should, i don't know.
2007-09-09 01:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by adelaide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart for some men it is an absolute turn on when the initiates lovemaking and that is the answer I think
2007-09-09 13:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by john h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably masturbating so much that he does not care if he has sex with you or not. Confront him. Does he look at Internet porn? Have Internet relationships with females. If you suspect something is going on, go with your gut feeling. You are probably right.
2007-09-09 01:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by midnitrondavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get it by initiating it, go for it. Don't worry until he doesn't respond to you.
2007-09-09 00:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by onceisenoughilearnedmylesson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayB hes shy lol
or possibly disgusted by a girls vagina
or GAY
2007-09-09 00:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by Sup 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he likes it when he's not incontrol.
Or perhaps its a depression factor. How's his sleep? eating? social skills?
2007-09-09 01:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋