lets see, family troubles, work envirnment,trying to solve everyones problems and yours is last on the list. , caring for your family children spouse ect. not sleeping well, trying to find yourself,, when most of the time you put everyone else first..
2007-09-08 17:26:08 · 10 answers · asked by classy_n_sassy000 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I have the firm belief that more of our lives is in our control than we sometimes think. This may seem stupid and obvious, but if there's something in your life thats not right, you should fix it. If your job sucks, find another one. You won't convince your boss to stop being a jerk, and unless you own the place, they're not going to let you run the place, so why bother thinking about what the higher ups are doing wrong? ITS JUST A JOB! Identify exactly what bothers you about one thing and write it down. Consider the pros and cons, and write them down. Sometimes just seeing the list can make a decision a whole lot easier.
With interpersonal relationship problems, I have found there are 3 possible ways to resolve the problem. You can change, I can change, or we can both change. Sit down and think about one relationship, and see which one seems the most reasonable. Usually, the best way is to just talk about the problem with the other person. Lots of times, there are simple little stupid problems, things that the other person doesn't even realize are problems, and that person will fix the problem because they care. Don't forget the give and take, I imagine there are some things about you that your spouse finds annoying, and you may not even know about it.
Finally, you have to know when to let something go. So many things are just not worth worrying about!
2007-09-08 17:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best I can do is late late hours of the night I devote to myself and what ever I want to do but I'm not working as of yet I'm still a student. But I try and take care of everyones problems as well and I find it easyest to just forget about myself for a moment and do what ever they want within a certain limit. I also make a note of everything i say yes to so I don't get over loaded and stressed.
2007-09-08 17:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by someone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cope by realizing that if I don't take care of myself I can't take adequate care of my daughter and that at the same time I"m teaching her that taking care of yourself isn't important. That also translates to not loving yourself enough to care about yourself is OK! Is that the message that I really want my children to learn? No I wan them to learn that they are important enough to take care of themselves and that if they want to care for their families in the future the best way that they can do that is to take care of themselves. If you get sick from excushtion who takes care of the family than?? Are they able to stay home or would they have to go some where else while you recuperated? I watched my mother go into the hospital twice and once spend months in bed while she was sick it wasn't any fun and confusing as heck to the kids especially the very small ones. That taught me to take care of my self first so that I could take care of the others.
2007-09-08 17:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by Kathryn R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the key is your last phrase. most of the time you put everyone else first...you need to be sure to schedule some time for yourself. life will pass you by quickly...you can't afford not to live at least SOME of it for yourself. own up to the problems you have, help with problems that matter to you, and shed the problems that are simply dragging you down without significance to your life.
2007-09-08 17:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by The Beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my life is like that.. full of pain, but I assure you, that If i can make it through ok, then you can too. Take things one step at a time, and do the best you can to give at least 20 minutes to yourself each day.
2007-09-08 17:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As best as one can.
Remember you can't care for anyone else if you don't care a little for yourself too. Make time for yourself every day, just to remember why you are here. :)
2007-09-08 17:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by expie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the main issue and also a wrong one ie putting others first, all the time.Balancing and priortisation help in restoring equilibrium in life.
2007-09-08 20:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots and lots of prayer, friends, laughter, and my little boys smile. For sleeping a good swig of night quil works well.
2007-09-08 17:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With patience
2007-09-08 17:33:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must take things one at a time or you can't have order in your life.
2007-09-08 17:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋