My way of dealing with the whole thing has pretty much been simply not thinking about it. However, at 39 weeks...the time is nearing. i am beginning to fear the pain and process and I was wondering for other women when this fear, if ever, developed? was it before the whole thing got under way, on the way to the hospital, laying in your hospital bed? how did you deal with it?
2007-09-08 17:06:16 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
my fear was always the first thing...
By the time I was near delivery I was so ready, I didnt care... Then once it all comes down.. All you care about is getting it over with.
I swear to you... It is so much worth it.
Thing about us woman with more than one child. If it was sooooo bad we wouldnt have done it again.
It will be the great few seconds of your life. When you hear that baby cry for the first time, you will forget about every little pain you had....
Congrads... Sweetie, you have the best day of your life coming.
Stacie
2007-09-08 17:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by stacie m 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I was usually scared only when I thought about the things that could go wrong (from labor to raising the kid). I dealt with that by first crying (I couldn't help it) and then talking to my husband about it. He assured me that everything was going to be OK and that I would be a great mommy.
Everyone says that after the baby is born, you forget the pain anyway (I know, you're probably sick of hearing that)...it's true though. My baby girl is 6 weeks old and from the time she was 6 seconds old, I forgot how much it hurt.
Also, while in the delivery room, there was a moment when I swore I couldn't do it anymore (push, have a baby, and raise it). I heard that when that is felt/said by the mom, then the baby is almost out. Litterally within minutes after saying that, my baby was born and all those feelings went away. I was just so happy to be a mom. No more doubts. So keep in mind then when you want to give up, the end is near and just push one or two more times!
One more thing....drugs are wonderful. I told myself that I wanted only an epidural and no other pain meds. However, my contractions were pretty strong and the doctor offered me Nubain. It kicked in within 5 seconds of being injected into the IV and I giggled a little and fell asleep for hours...without feeling a single contraction. They woke me up a few hours later and I had dilated 4 more cms without even feeling it! I got the epidural too, and that was nice! The only pain I felt was at the very end during pushing. I felt what I was supposed to feel in order to push, and I felt a bit of stretching down there...then she was out and that was it.
Recovery is tough...so expect that. Hopefully you have a great support system that will help you along the way.
Enjoy the little one soon! Good luck....and remember that our bodies are supposed to do this! It truly is a miracle!
2007-09-08 18:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by TheMrs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I made the mistake of watching those Baby story shows near the end of my pregnancy and it seemed like the only times I tuned in were the times where the women were having complications. It was then that I started to fear that something might go wrong and about the pain. Sure there was pain but once I started having regular contractions I for some reason didn't have any fear, and was a lot calmer than my husband who was running out the door panicking. The doctor put the epidural in wrong so I had no drugs and I had horrible pain and then she got stuck and I had to have an emergency c-section. Even though I had originally wanted a c-section in the first place once I heard that I had to have one I started to get a little upset. One suggestion is to make sure you get a good nurse. I started out with a horrible nurse that made my experience awful because she kept yelling at me that I was pushing wrong. Well then I got another nurse and she was great and after awhile she called the dr. in and it turned out that my pelvis was way too small and there was no amount of pushing that would have gotten her out so I really wasn't pushing wrong like the first one thought. If you don't like your nurse then ask for a new one they can make a big difference. Another thing that helped me get over the pain a little bit was that I kept telling myself that I would not be in labor forever and eventually I would have a beautiful baby that would be worth all the pain. In the end I went through the entire labor except the c-section without drugs -thanks to the stupid dr. and as I look back I was right I would go through it all again in a heartbeat for another baby. Good luck to you.
2007-09-08 17:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by Vikki 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get your fingers or your nail painted, you'll have to remove it... As for the diarrhea, the midwifes are pretty quick to clean it up if any but usually in the week before your labor your body flushes it all out lol sorry tmi... The part i fear was the unknown!! I didn't know what was right and what was wrong or if this is normal and that normal etc I cant believe some people were saying i need to make sure my epidural works or i get it on time... if you can tolerate pain, you'll be fine... there's alot of other pain meds to try before the epidural.. to be honest if you can handle a needle being shoved into your spine- why cant you all push out a baby?? I didn't think it was that bad, i found it all more uncomfortable than anything else and very hard on your back...
2016-05-20 00:48:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was never afraid.
I understood that there was nothing I could do to prevent labor and delivery, so why bother to stress about it? I took the time to learn as much as I could about the process and what to expect. I was more curious as to what my experience would be like compared to what I had read and what my female family members had experienced. Cruiousity over powered fear.
Millions and millions of women before me have given birth. It's not like I was going through something new and rare. Besides, there has never been a safer time in all of history to have a baby.
Enjoy your last few weeks of pregnancy. Life will get a whole lot harder when the baby comes. Relax and don't worry about it. You'll be fine.
2007-09-08 18:53:37 · answer #5 · answered by GoldfishPond 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I was 4 days early so I didn't really start thinking about it because I thought I still had a few days lol But before that I just didn't really think about it. My contractions started and progressed so quickly all I had time to think about was getting the medication lol but I would have never guessed the epidural would only work on one side... But the whole time I wasn't really focused on the pain I cant really say what it was, but everything just kind of went blank and while I remember the day, the pain isn't what I think of when I think of my son being born. It really wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. I just breathed through it and it all worked out. I never believed anyone when they said that you forget all about it, but it's only been 12 weeks and I can't wait for the next one
Good luck to you and it is so worth it in the end. It's an amazing experience
2007-09-08 18:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was SOOOO scared when I found out I was prego because of the labor and Delivery part of it. But I did understand that it was the inevitable. I was more scared of having a c-section. I didn't take any class or anything either. at 34 weeks my water broke and I just didn't think about it, I just knew my kids would be counting on me so I needed to be strong for them. After being through it I would do everything over again the same way. Best wishes and you will be fine!
2007-09-08 18:44:28 · answer #7 · answered by mother of twin girls 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was never really scared. Of course the whole birth thing was new to me so that was a little concerning, not knowing what to expect. But I found that when I was actually going through it, you don't really worry about it. You are surrounded by people whose job it is to look after you and guide you through it. You will be fine - just go with the flow and you will soon be enjoying your little bundle and all the challenges and rewards ahead. Good luck and try to enjoy the moment.
2007-09-08 17:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by oompadoompa123 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't fear the pain but if you do I suggest an eppidural in lamaze class they tried to scare us away from it but it was the best thing ever I had to have a c-section and was doped up on so much other meds I could hardly make a decision about what kind of they should give me for my c-section they numbed my back so I couldn't feel the needle and when the meds hit my system I was wide awake trying to watch them do it I wanted to see my baby so bad..if in doubt get the eppidural GOOD LUCK and TRY NOT TO WORRY
2007-09-08 17:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by Amy D 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I never had any fear about labor and delivery. I was fortunate enough to witness my sister do 5 100% natural (4 homebirth) labors, and I knew that it was nothing to be afraid of. I found that the pain was not unbearable - in fact I don't even like to refer to it as pain but I have yet to come up with another description. I looked forward to it all during my pregnancy and I can't wait to have another and do it all over again!
2007-09-08 19:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by ShellyC 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋