My husband and I have been married for almost one year, we have a 9 month old daughter. But are love life has droped because of me. I am always tired and after spend all day with the baby i don't want to be touched. I also just don't feel pretty. I have some strech make from being pregnant and still have about 15 pounds to loss to be where i was before i had the baby. because of these thing i don't want to ever have sex. I don't know how to get my self back. If anyone has any ideas please let me know?
2007-09-08 16:36:00 · 10 answers · asked by Slim1206 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You and your husband need to get away even if its a local hotel for a night get a sitter for the baby.....What your feeling is normal cause I am going through it a second time with my wife...we have to boys 3yrs and the other one 7 months. It sucks but you will get yourself back....Takes time and alot of understanding on both parts. Talk alot about how you feel and listen to how he feels....
2007-09-08 17:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide whether to leave or not. You ask why he did it but there is only one answer: he did it because he wanted to. I know that sucks but the sooner you and he can both grasp that, the better. No excuse he gives you will suffice or make you feel better. :( I also found my husband looking for "intimate encounters." I forgave him (he said he didn't meet up with anyone) and later I learned a lot more stuff about how long he had the profile and that he lied and eventually did cheat. We did divorce. I never trusted him again and still don't do this day. He really broke my heart. If your husband wants to commit to you he will have to end all of that because it is a form of cheating. Get into marriage counselling. I never ever had any reason to doubt my husband so I was blind-sided when I found out the truth. Good luck.
2016-05-20 00:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by dianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the things you cite here are normal. However, that doesn't mean you shouldn't try. You want to preserve your marriage so that your child can grow up in a good home. Try getting a sitter once a week and going out with your hubby. It doesn't have to been anything fancy, just a bit of time for the two of you. And, when you're not feeling like being intimate, try to remember how it feels after you've had a very lovely session with your husband. Hang in there - it'll come back.
2007-09-08 16:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by Terri J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not uncommon. You must be very tired taking care of baby its a lot of work and can take the sap out of you. When baby sleeps you should sleep so you can get that much needed rest that will help alot. Or else you will be draining yourself of energy. Also get some walking exercise by walking baby in a stroller twice a day. You will soon be back to your normal self. Dont be worried everything will be ok.
2007-09-08 16:40:54 · answer #4 · answered by live and let live 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you take some much needed time for yourself. Start jogging or going to a gym. It will help you lose weight and it will improve the way you feel about yourself. I know how hard it is when you have a new baby but you need time for you and for your husband. Do it now, the longer you wait the more distant you and your husband will become. Good luck.
2007-09-08 16:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Slim, You have a common syndrome with mothers within a year or two...So let's see ...lets work with what we have to work with.........the stretch marks allot of men kinda find them attractive believe it or not but if you don't for what you tell me that's OK and what you want to do is get a very long and loose fitting nighty (but sexy and fitting in all the right areas if ya know what I mean) and as far as 15 pounds Haaaa that's nothing it worked for me and my wife when she gained about 36 pounds so try it...Now I don't know if YOUR hubby feels any better now because you haven't been having sex with him so put on your nighty and just kinda walk over to him and sit on his lap because no one will turn down a pretty lady in a pretty nighty......NOW I know that you said that you don't feel pretty so if you want to get back into the swing of things than you must masturbate for about 4 or 5 minutes just before you sit on his lap and seduce him like you have never before..............and he will love you forever........trust me on this so please don't waste time on this MEN love sex so I know for a fact that he will wind up throwing you down and making mad passionate love to you and you will be back where you started....and by the way please let me know if it worked for you as it has worked for many married and unmarried woman that I know of....Good Luck,,,Bob.
2007-09-08 17:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start taking time for yourself.If you have a sitter take at least hour a day go to gym or walk..(babies love outdoors and would love walk)this will help your mental state and physical.Then you do need one night to yourself have grandma or someone watch the baby once a week to go to dinner with hubby alone ..you need time for youselves and to remember relationship about you two...it takes time and mental awareness...
2007-09-08 16:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by hugsandhissyfits 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need some time away from the baby. You're too tired and he doesn't want bad sex.
2007-09-08 16:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by krollohare2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look like you don't wana make love it normal for some people
2007-09-08 16:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly RIch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes a little while dont fret it will come back
2007-09-08 16:38:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋