2007-09-08 16:07:15 · 17 answers · asked by albandazole 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I first left, I regretted the end of the marriage, it was inevitable, yet, I was sad to see the end. The first day on my own though, I can honestly say I was happy. I spent the whole day being amazed at all the things I did, like wiping the mirror with a paper towel that was wadded or putting the lid upside down on the counter after taking it off the pot, which would normally have been enough for him to scream and rant.. I rejoice in my freedom and for the laughter in my home now... and my daughter and I don't live in fear of her daddy anymore. life is good...
2007-09-08 16:20:02 · answer #1 · answered by Wildflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is both. I got divorced because I wasn't in love with my husband. I tried very hard for close to 6 years (we were married for 17) but I just could't live one more day faking a life that I didn't believe in. Yes, I tried all of the counseling, self-help books, romancing him etc....didn't work. He didn't care that I was unhappy because he was happy with the way things were. So I don't regret not living that life anymore, but 1 1/2 years later, I still can't say I am happy with my life the way it is. Divorce is a lonely place. Even a bad relationship is still someone to talk. However, I think 5 years from the day I left I will be in a better place than the place I would be in if I had stayed those 5 years. Divorce is definitely a process. I don't think anyone gets divorced and is "happy" about it. I think it is more of a matter that now they have the potential to be happy once they have healed and made a new life for themselves.
2007-09-08 23:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by Sleepless in Seattle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HAPPY!!! Wouldn't change it if I could. He was/is an alcoholic and I thank God everyday for giving me the courage to be a single Mom and raise my son alone and not in an alcoholic home. Its not easy, and I don't get child support (he hasn't even seen his son since he was 16mo old. He's 8yrs now)
But I have to say with all sincerity that if he and I were the last two people on the earth, not only would the human race die out, but I would probably kill him so that I wouldn't have to listen to his whining and complaining.
2007-09-15 17:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people get divorced too much! I wish that people would remember that it's for life not just until they hit a rough patch. That being said, I am divorced (not by choice) and happier now then ever before. I can't believe I lived through the divorce but not having a choice in the matter I'm proud of myself and my new life.
2007-09-09 00:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by coolmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am happy I divorced. The marriage was my bigger mistake but the divorce was a good move. It has been 12 years and he is still a train wreck in progress. I went on and grew happy in my life, met a man that had his act together and am glad I am married. Lessons learned. A life well-lived. I am content.
2007-09-08 23:19:55 · answer #5 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first I was upset and scared to be by myself. But now, I've very happy. I don't know if I will ever get remarried, or if I even want to...I like my life and where I'm going.
I was an unhappy wife but a great mom. Now I'm a happy single person and an excellent mom!
2007-09-08 23:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by Wendy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very happy that I am divorced. We had a wonderful daughter that I am crazy about. I take care of and spend alot of time with my daughter, My ex is working on husband#4, I was #2.
2007-09-16 22:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by paul s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first i was sad for a while but after i thought about it i was happy cuz i know now that if we would have stayed togeather he would have hurt me worse then he already did.
2007-09-16 18:55:09 · answer #8 · answered by bermy_badgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am sure divorce is because of some reason. if you get some one who understand you better then you will be happy that you have divorced.
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2007-09-08 23:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by PvaSha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've am elated I'm divorced...I don't have to put up with a tantrum throwing, verbally/mentally/emotionally abusive partner who was becoming physically abusive in his tantrums.
2007-09-09 00:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋