Trying to conceive... does this hurt our chances?

Question

Me and my boyfriend are really trying to start a happy family. We desperately want a little one running around and we already know all the responsibilities,but we have sex about 2-3 times a day to assure that we will conceive. We have both heard that havingsex so much "weakens" the sperm. Is this tru and what does it mean?
But most importantly, what will help us be able to bring a baby in the world?

And for the record, we plan to get married.

Answer 1

Having more sex does lessen your chances of falling pregnant as the quality of the sperm isn't as good.
There would still be a lot of semen but not as much sperm in the ejaculate.
What you want to do is know when you are ovulating (buy ovulation kits, chart temps or find a ovulation calculator on the net )
Then have sex once a day, 2 days before ovulation, on the day you ovulate and 2 days after ovulation to ensure the ejaculate has quality sperm in it. Try to abstain from sex 2-3 days before this time to ensure your man's little swimmers have plenty of time to rejuvenate. After ovulation you are free to do as you please!
Ovulation happens generally 10-14 days after the first day of your last period.
Also after sex, stay laying down with a few pillows under your hips/bum to quote, 'bathe your cervix in sperm' (a very clever midwife tip!) for about 30mins. This helps keep them in there and better's their chances of finding your egg!

Most of all, have fun doing it and try not to wear your man out or his little men might not be doing their job very well or there might not be enough of them either!

~best of luck TTC~

Answer 2

Sorry, this might sound old fashioned, but if you two are not committed enough to get married, then what the heck are you doing trying to have a baby??? How can you committ to a child when you cant committ to each other?
No, having frequent sex does not weaken sperm. But, you might want to re-think having a baby. Having a baby does not mean you will have a "HAPPY FAMILY." It does mean you will have a lot of sleepless nights caring for the baby and you will never have enough money because you will always be spending it on diapers and formula. You might think you know the responsibilities, but you have no idea! Try this: set your alarm clock to wake you up every 2 hours for the next week. See how ready you are after that. See how that affects your relationship. See how happy you are then. Having kids is great, but it's not all wine and roses like you make it sound.

One more thing, if you are not smart enough to know that sperm can live for 24 hours and there is no need for sex three times a day, you are not smart enough to have a baby!

Answer 3

I read all of the other questions you've posted. First of all you're too young, at 17. Atleast finish high school, maybe go to college, then have a family. If he loves you enough to have a baby with you then he should marry you. Also, I don't think you really know the responsibilities. Do you have an extra $400 a month excluding childcare for a baby? Most likely you'll get on government assistance so we all have to pay for your baby. It sounds like you don't know how to get pregnant. You ovulate the 4 middle days of your cycle, sperm can live for 5 days. You shouldn't even be doing it every day then because the sperm do get weak.

Answer 4

Well once you stop trying so hard BAM it happens. So I'd say cool off for a little bit : ) I was int he same situation and as soon as I settled down within the next month I had morning sickness and a positive preg test. And yes having htat much sex weakens the sperm and puts the number of sperm he ejaculates down. They say that having sex every other day or every two days is best so that his sperm can rebuild up. Good luck and God Bless the both of you!

Answer 5

Ok. according to your other questions, you're 17, just started dating an older guy barely a month ago and you're already ready to have his baby? Besides that you said you both dropped out of high school and maybe will try to complete your GED later.

It's obvious that both of you are thorougly unprepared to support a baby. About 20 other answerers all said the same thing, but I guess you're ignoring all the advice.

My concern is that you say you're both trying to have a baby. But very few 19yr old guys are trying to have anything but some sex. I wonder if he even knows that you're TTC. Even if this guy sticks around after the baby comes, it's almost guaranteed you won't be able to afford it alone and the taxpayers will have to pay for your poor decisions (WIC, public assistance, etc.).

Instead of trying to bring a baby into this world, how about cementing your relationship, finishing your GED, and making him give you a long term committment that he will support you and this future baby for the next 18yrs?

Answer 6

Relax ... often nothing happens when we are stressing.

You can get something similar to a Preg Test kit that measures the hormones that indicate if you are ovulating. See your chemist and find out what is available. Then you can be more specific about the times to try. There is some more info on the weblink below about how to detect if you are ovulating.

Good luck

Answer 7

If you want a happy family, I would strengthen your relationship first. I'm not trying to be condescending but look at the laws regarding common law marriages in your state.
If you choose to start a family before marrying just make sure you are prepared for what *might* happen.

As for conceiving, having sex any time two weeks before your period works.

Answer 8

Having sex too much will lower the sperm count temporarily and reduce your chances of getting pregnant. You would have a better chance if you switch to every other day and try to have sex around the time of your ovulation.

Answer 9

truthfully, different things work for different people....and i truly believe that having sex serveral times a day does weaken the sperm count. try every other day......but the most important thing really is to relax and not think about it.....and trust me, i know its hard to not think about when you want a child badly......but it was just when me and my fiance stopped wanting a baby so bad, and just made love, that we finally conceived..........it took us well over 6 months though.there are many different things you two can try out.....like elevating your lower half after he has ejac and stay in bed for at least 30-45 minutes to allow travel time for sperm......if all else fails, we tried me going back on birth control once for about 2 months (nuvaring) and then stopped, went back to unprotected sex and was pregnant the next month. but again, different things work for diff people.....GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 10

I've never heard of such a thing! It must be an ol' wives tale...kinda like using a thread to figure out whether it's a boy or girl.
Take prenatal vitamins while trying to conceive. Eat healthily, stay active, consult a doctor and have faith that everything will turn out perfectly. Good luck!