I like my friends husband i dont know if its a crush but i want him .... sexually is that bad ? I been feeling like this for awhile and im also married but no happy !! What should I do tell her or just stay away !
2007-09-08 11:54:30 · 22 answers · asked by Emi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Youre ight about the bad situation so chalk it up to infatuation and let it die completely. Your friendship is far worth more than any fling anyway but dont ever mention it to anyone
2007-09-08 12:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you’re not getting the attention u need or desire from your husband. Communication is the key word here. Talk to your husband. Tell him that u r having these feelings with someone other than him. Maybe then he will know he’s not doing his part in keeping his wife satisfied. In any relationship you have to communicate and compromise. It makes for a healthier relationship.
If she is a friend why put yourself, and all parties in that situation (including kids). Just to fulfill your sexual desires. You do realize if you tell her your feelings for her husband. She is going to tell your husband, so u better tell him first. She’s going to demand her husband to stay away from you. If he wants his marriage to work he’s doing to do what his wifey says. Then you just lost 2 friends.
So if you’re unhappy and not willing to communicate and compromise. Then get a divorce but still stay away from your friend’s husband. Does he feel the same way as u, you may find out its just one sided. Yours…
2007-09-08 12:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by blueyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from your friend's husband!!
If your own marriage isn't going very well, you're probably just trying to see in her husband, what you wish you saw in your own. It sounds like a crush.. nothing more. However, it can be a very dangerous thing, and it has the potential to ruin not only your friendship, but both marriages as well.
Do everyone a favor, and stay away from him..
2007-09-08 12:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First get a grip you can't go jumping in to every desire you may feel. You need to resolve your marriage issues first before you act on anything and always stay outside the friend circle you will also loose a friend, your husband and this dude after he is done. If you are sexually frustrated beat your husband down if he don't do the trick do it yourself, but don't go wrecking two homes to fill a void............okay.
2007-09-08 12:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kornbred 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, the grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence. Remember why you fell in love with the one you married and try to rekindle that love. The failing marriage could be an example of your next relationship. It is typical of our human nature to run from our problems for a quick fix but I assure you the best answer is to fix what is broken in your marriage. Love is not always a feeling, it's a commitment and a choice. Too many people react to fickle feelings only to find themselves worse off than if they would have worked on what they have rather than running from it. Please don't learn it the hard way...you will have so many regrets.
2007-09-08 12:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously youre feeling this way BECAUSE you arent happy with your marriage, I think you should figure out what is making you unhappy in your marriage first. If your husband still means alot to you and you still love him please try and work things out, but if youre over the marriage then dont try and stick it out, especially if youre feeling like this. As for your friend's husband maybe you should try to avoid seeing him, out of sight out of mind usually works :) Dont tell your friend anything yet until you have control of yourself and the situation, because the worst thing that can happen aside from losing your husband, is losing the trust of a friend.
2007-09-08 12:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by kira ~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is good that you're honest with yourself. I think you should only visit her when he isn't around or you should let her come to your house. We all are human and if you're constantly spending time with a man that's not your husband, you will eventually start wondering things. It's one thing to think about it and another to act upon it. If you tell her, she is going to do the smart thing and that's drop you as a friend. I think you need to work on your marriage and focus on your husband. Don't try to destroy your friend's home because your house is. Now that is bad.
2007-09-08 12:46:57 · answer #7 · answered by KSR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not happy in your marriage, fix that issue first weather its by talking to your husband about what is wrong with your partnership or a separation.
Dont hurt your friend by telling her you want her husband, it sounds like you need your husband to hold you and show you some love and hes not giving it.
2007-09-08 12:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by nelppik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your marriage is not working out, its okay. But you have to find out if your friend is happy with her husband. If they are happy, then stay away from them. But if they are having problems, then you could have your flint with him to see what happens. What ever you decide, do not ruing her marriage if she is happy. Because what goes around, comes around.
2007-09-08 12:04:29 · answer #9 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be it is just a sexual desire???
how can you know that he also like you??may be by saying anythig to him can create problem in your married life???first of all if you are not happy with your present relation then just step back and find someone else. it is nothing bad that u have a sexual desire for someone that means u r not satisfied! just simple.
2007-09-08 12:03:47 · answer #10 · answered by sherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋