how do i get into sex again with my husband, i feel dead most of the time and not interested at all?

Answer 1

I wish you could provide us with some more info, like if there are problems in your marriage which cause you to have these feelings or if you really can't explain them.

Are you suffering from depression? Have you seen a doctor? If you are suffering from depression, get some counseling and/or meds to help make you feel better.

Have you had a physical recently? If not, go and get a full exam. You may have a medical issue that is making you feel badly.

Maybe you are just tired from working, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids (?), stressing about finances and are just feeling overworked and underappreciated by your husband---because it's easier to blame the people closest to us---the boss sure doesn't give a crap. If that's the case, you need to try to quit laying the blame on your husband and try to remember why you fell in love with him to begin with. Just decide that tonight you'll initiate sex with your husband and decide that you'll do the same thing two days from now. The more often you do it, the more you'll want to do it. Your husband will be more affectionate towards you outside the bedroom which, in turn, will make you feel more desirable and loved by your husband and then you'll want to do it even more often. Make it a point to kiss your husband at least once a day--I don't mean a peck on the cheek.

Every marriage hits a rough spot. You have to decide whether you want to work to pull yourselves through it. Talk to your husband, he may not even know you have these feelings. Or, if he feels as though you don't want to be with him, he may think you are having an affair, etc.

Answer 2

Dont know how old you are or how long youv'e been married. When I got married, I thought my wife would become a sex maniac. Not so. But then aagin, she may have been one of the last virgin marriages in that time period.

Time has a way of evening things out. I used to crave all the time. As I got old and we both had house and kid things to do, our ardor cooled off. Evetually, it turned the other way around. Now my wife requires more attention than I do. Something doesnt quite seem fair about this but there it is.

Apparently men peak in their 20's and women dont peak til much later. Jobs can play a big part in this also. I was a policeman for a long time and eventually, you become part of a little group and seldom see other people outside your job.

I am retired now, kids are for the most part gone, I work 30 hours a week and the house is paid for an no debt. My wif anfd kids like me better now that I am retired. NOW my wife is peaking. I'm not complaining, just wish our time frames were better timed. Life is better now than ever and you may just be in a slump or too busy with kids and home. It happens. Try the romantic getaway or the "Matinee" show at a motel. It wont be real spontaneus if you have to plan around work and the kids, but it's a start.

I wish you luck but dont over worry about it or it will seem worse than it is.

Known my wife since 1969 and been married to her for 33 years. ( I'll be darned if I know why she kept me though. I wouldnt have married me nor would I have stayed with me.)

Answer 3

It is kind of like anything else in life. We get bored with the same old food, the same this the same that. In marriage tough, its about that look on his face when your pleasing him the way you both feel about everything after having sex. The lights seem to be brighter, the bills don't way so heavy on your minds, so what if the yard needs mowed and mower is broke ! Get into making yourself sexy again. Shave your legs, pluck your brows, go get your teeth whitened loss ten pounds, ??? do whatever it takes to make yourself feel better. You can than feel better about making your husband feel good. I am a firm believer you have to give away what you have in order to keep what you have. Give the love get the love...SEE ? Let your light shine and start participating in your life again , life is so short and we are old to fast. Good luck.

Answer 4

You sound like you are either a young mom who may just be tired out, or a women in menopause or close to it. If you are just tired out then try to get enough rest and eat properly. If you are middle age it is hormones and the natural decline in sex. Get a physical exam to see if you are healthy. Then instead of trying to have these big romanatic nights, start out with touching and kissing. As we age it is natural to lose some interest but being loving to a spouse need not end.

Answer 5

Try spicing it up a little, go to http://www.slumberparties.com/productlisthome.cfm and check out some of the things you can order. I recommend "between the sheets" spray, it makes your sheets feel like satin and it has pheromones (which helps gets you both in the mood). And also x-scream butter cream icing, that will increase arousal and sensitivity.

Answer 6

Just try to realize what life is going to be like without him. Because that's what happens when a marriage doesn't have sex in it anymore. Everyone knows how important that is. Is it worth losing him over? Maybe that will jump start your hormones.

Answer 7

Have you ever heard that when you are haveing a bad day, all you have to do is fake your way into feeling better? It's the same way with sex. Think of it this way..... You are conecting with your husband, and he is getting his needs met. Why not "pretend" that you are into this. I have found that after a little while you don't have to pretend anymore. Either way it keeps him going to others to have his needs met.

Answer 8

oh ducks louise that's a not undemanding one all of us locate human beings pleasing it extremely is organic...fantasasing is hazard unfastened as long as you do not take it to any extent further i think of u love ur husband you're transforming into intercourse with considered one of those different adult adult males you detect pleasing and those adult adult males won't shelter you and cherish you up on your husband. you have a newborn mutually and that's particular so do not throw it away over some thing like a loss of intercourse force. issues could desire to alter. i propose counselling. you may desire to additionally be open along with your husband that your intercourse force has long previous down so he can help you and assist you.

Answer 9

Maybe it's a medical problem or maybe you two need a nice hideaway vacation, either way you can't loose. Good Luck!

Answer 10

well sometimes it depends on the reasons why....but if it's because you have younguns....why not try reading Vicki Iovine's The Girlfriend's Guide to Getting Your Groove Back.....has some good ideas, even if it's not due to having babies....