Should I be concerned?

Question

I've had 4 miscarriages within the past 18 months. Actively TTC during that time. Each time i became pregnant I would be miserable, not myself at all, I felt out of control of my body and constantly going to the bathroom to pee or vomit.

Is it worth it to go through every miserable moment to have a child of your own? and with these circumstances Is it still viable for me to give live birth to a child at all?

My husband wants 4-5 children but I'm starting to doubt if it's even possible. Should we give up and just adopt? We're both only children of only children, so it's important to keep our lineage going but I don't know what the alternatives are.
Is miscarrying this frequently normal for young couples? We're 22 and 25.

Answer 1

Why dont you stop TTC for a while, it sounds like your overwhelmed with it. The end result is AMAZING! But sometimes you have to drive a long way through bumpy roads to get there first. You are both young enough to hold off for a little while - if you were 32 and 35 then be worried. In the mean time see a doctor about why you may be having so many miscarriages. Good luck.

Answer 2

Four miscarriages in 18 months is not normal. Usually with the 3rd miscarriage they run a pathology report on the fetal remains. Did your doctor do this??? There's lots of information that could have been obtained. At this point, there's definitely something going on.

Three things come to mind: 1) low progesterone and 2) reproductive immunology and 3) genetics counseling.

The first two are easy fixes and require simple blood test. Low progesterone will allow a woman to get pregnant, but she won't STAY pregnant. Low progesterone often causes early pregnancy miscarriages. You should be tested for this. If it turns out to be the problem, progesterone treatement will take care of it. Reproductive immunology is the study of the immune system during pregnancy. When a woman gets pregnant, her body sends out antibodies to protect the baby from being attacked by her bodies own antibodies. If the baby's father's anitbodies are similar to the mother's, the baby isn't adequately protected and is almost always aborted by the 12-14th week. You AND your partner should be tested to see if your antibodies are similar. Without treatment for this you will continue to have miscarriages. With treatment, your odds of having a full-term pregnancy jump up to over 80%.

Lastly, if the first two avenues check out to be not the issue, then you should see a genetic counselor to rule out that one or both of you aren't carrying a genetic condition.

Hang in there... it may very well be an easy fix. But please look into it before getting pregnant again. Ask your OBGYN to perform the first two tests or refer you to a specialist who can.

Good luck.

Answer 3

No, that is not normal at all. You would be considered an habitual aborter now. You need to have your Gyn run some tests and see a geneticist for more testing.
If you don't feel it would be worth the possible heartache of a miscarriage again, then maybe you do need to at least consider adoption.

Answer 4

You should go see a doctor. Miscarring that much can be a sign of an incompetent cervix. Your dotor will be able to tell you if it is advisable for you to try and conceive again. Sometimes they can stitch the cervix together to help keep you pregnant. Your pregnancy would, with that many miscarriages, be considered a high risk pregnancy. You could possibly be on bed rest for your entire pregnancy. I was really sick with both of my pregnancies and for me it was worth it. But if you and your husbad want to have a baby you are going to need to work with a doctor that handles high risk pregnancies.

Answer 5

I was just reading your question and while I don't know the answer for the miscarriages portion, I do know my answer for the "is it worth it" question. IT MOST DEFINITELY IS:)

My husband, then boyfriend, and I found out we were pregnant March of 2005. The day after we found out I started getting morning sickness. That continued until I was 4 1/2 months pregnant. I would carry a big plastic cup with paper towels in it so I didn't throw up in my lap while in the car. From 4 1/2 months to 5 1/2 months I felt GREAT. When I was 6 months pregnant, I nearly blacked out while driving and had to wear a heart monitor to see what the problem was. (No one ever knew. I just never ate raisin bran and orange juice at the same time again. Problem solved!!.) From that point until delivery, I was miserable just because my son was growing so big and I wasn't and I started a new job that meant I was on my feet all day. I was taking 3-4 showers a night from 7months to 9 months just to get to sleep and get back to sleep.

When I went into labor, my husband took forever getting me to the hospital and the whole labor experience was horrible. The nurse's told me to stop going to pee b/c they thought I was going to deliver in the toilet. They had me lay on my back ( I have severe back problems) while I was throwing up (transitioning from stage 2 to stage 3 labor apparently, and told me to practice pain management when I told them I was likely to go into a seizure when they put a needle in me. I told them I hurt and they told me if it hurt as bad as people said no one would ever have a 2nd baby. I was placed in a room looking directly at the clock so I knew my contractions were every 2-3 minutes. I was told to sit in my amniotic fluid b/c it was just going to keep seeping out and there was no point in changing the pad. My son came into the world with an umbilical cord wrapped around his neck and fluid in his lungs. He was diagnosed with jaundice 2 days later. He is much better now.

With all of that, I would absolutely love to be pregnant again. My one concession to pregnancy though is that I would like to be pregnant with twins so we don't need to go through pregnancy a 3rd time:) Don't stress and talk to your baby when you find out you're pregnant. Explain that you want the baby and you're doing everything you can to keep it inside you. Stop lifting ANYTHING over about 10 pounds to keep the stress off and talk to your doctor about any sex restrictions. My bbf had some of those. Think positive and get excited about being pregnant. Lastly, get pregnant because YOU want to, not your husband. Relax and have fun. The good part about trying to conceive is all the practice you can have:)

Answer 6

You should get some medical adivce as 4 miscarriages is not normal.

Answer 7

if not, then adopt...there's are always babies that need a loving family..