Two of my friends brought this lifestyle to my attention and although I have no interest in it, I am curious over it. How can one be sure the Head of Household is correct over an issue. Many times, I know I have been wrong and if I had disciplined my partner, I would have done her wrong. In the case of my friends, the woman presented her partner with a contract. Should not the man also be held to a standard?
2007-09-08 10:08:33 · 11 answers · asked by StatesideNow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In a Christian marriage, the wife is asked to obey her husband and he in turn should be loving, wise and a good provider. He makes all the decisions but a good Christian husband seeks his wife's advice on all matters and then makes his decision. Ultimately, his sole purpose is to treat his wife like a queen and give her everything within his power. His wife should trust his decisions and obey them. The husband has a huge responsibility and if wrong should concede this and admit it and beg forgiveness from his wife. This is how it was meant to be but as you will probably have realised, the way that men have translated these parts of the bible is laughable. I have met a few very good Christian couples but not one of them would give 'domestic discipline' as it would be seen as a lack of respect to the partner. A contract is also not required as the marriage vows are seen to be plenty! Its an interesting twist on true Christianity but I really wonder what Christ would have to say if he came across this now!
2007-09-08 10:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As with other answers I find the term "discipline" rather ominous.If the relationship is one of absolute surrender to the other partners will ( as with certain fundamentalist beliefs) there will be no questioning on any subject.That rule is law.
To give a contract merely suggests that this woman is being completely submissive.Its not a question of standards but two loving people with a bond uniting equally.
2007-09-08 18:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my marriage I also have Domestic Discipline. Before we got married it was decided that my husband go out to work and i stay at home and keep the house. There are many ways to discipline a partner and it is my husband who makes the decisions and if he is wrong then he punishes himself but if was to argue with him then i would be the one getting the punishment. its a good life style if you are both interested. I have been married for 22 years. and regularly spanked and punished.
2007-09-10 14:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by bb 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It takes all sorts to make the world and while in most marriages the partners are more or less equal I do know some where the wife is given orders and is regularly spanked by her husband and some where the husband is subject to he wife's control and is disciplined by her and all parties seem to be happy with their particular situation. So as long as it works it's okay in my book
2007-09-08 17:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by Maid Angela 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just play some slap and tickle games on a limited basis to see if you like it? It's one thing to play BDSM games for fun- it is totally another to enter into a full-time lifestyle.
And yes, the top should be held to a very, very high standard. That's someone's whole life you're messing with. They should never be disciplined incorrectly - that's messing with her head too much.
2007-09-08 17:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by nicolemcg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like something straight out of the Dark Ages. What do you mean "disciplined"?
2007-09-08 17:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am unsure what you mean by discipline. it doesnt sound healthy or loving. two heads together are better than one in case either is incorrect. i would not check out this philosophy any farther just in case because it really sounds weird to me. my hubby is certainly not my father and what a turn off in a big way should he try to be. ewe sounds pretty ugly and just not right.
2007-09-08 17:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by WORKING OLDER SMARTER BLONDE 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have never heard of that, but both partners are equal in a marriage, if there is a contract, both should agree to the terms, and both should sign it.
2007-09-08 17:13:17 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Always Right 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Never heard of it as well.. Sounds like a good idea, but of course who says one will stick to it... If both parties agree who is to say its wrong... not knowing more about what the contract is about.. would be hard to say
2007-09-08 17:15:48 · answer #9 · answered by lynna 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
equal partnership makes a good marriage
2007-09-08 17:37:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋