2007-09-08 09:54:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A cheating spouse can be a one time only thing, but was it a carried on affair, or a one night stand? It is up to you and what is in your heart. Can you forgive and ever learn to trust him again? If the answer is yes, then go ahead and give a second chance, but if he strays again, then it is time to leave. If you can't forgive, then you will never get past it and things will never work out and it is better to leave now.
You will get a lot of "once a cheater always a cheater" answers, but that's not always true. However, some guys feel that once you forgive once, you always will, so they continue to cheat. That's why if they stray again, you end it.
Follow your heart and what it is telling you to do. Only you know if you will be able to fix the problems that led him to cheat in the first place.
2007-09-08 10:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Always Right 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the cheating. i know a man (well more than one) who cheats constantly and his wife is ok with that bc they seem to have an unspoken agreement that he can cheat for sex only, keeps it a secret, and that he is going to be with her no matter how many affairs he has.
if it was a stupid one night stand, maybe i could tolerate this. if it's a pattern and he's like doing it all the time when you are not looking, i don't think you could stand up with it very long.
2007-09-08 17:06:21 · answer #2 · answered by sarah kay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Men can be quite stupid at times, and let things get in the way of the common sense. I'm sure he feels guilty and would love to make it up to you. Obviously let him know that you still love him, but you were extremely hurt by his actions. If he really loves you, he won't want to hurt you. Also, it is so nice for a child to grow up with both parents. That is becoming a rare thing nowadays. Let him know that because of this action, he has lost your trust...but you would love to someday be able to trust him again.
2007-09-08 17:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by Hope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hhhhmm he cheated on you? are u sure? u caught him? or just a rumor? how big deal what he did? first i suggest u guys talk perhaps there is something wrong with you? but anyway if he cheats on you that means he is not fully content with you, so talk to him why he did it, chances are he may do it again, or he may learn from his mistake, ask yourself! if u still love him, or feel the same way for him, if u can forgive him, if u hate him for that, and u cant forgive him, i guess thats should be termination of relationship. make sure you can cope with it,
2007-09-08 17:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by cover girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just had a child with my soon to be husband(In Oct.),my baby is 7m and i couldn't image him doing so, but to answer your qt. it depended if he was really sorry,or not.--but as i told my fiance he ever cheat i would do the same, just to get back at him to let him know how it felt. If he continued to cheat--then of course i would have to let him go..theres plenty of guys out there so why be with one like that. I always had the saying "WHAT GOES AROUND...COMES AROUND.."
2007-09-08 17:02:49 · answer #5 · answered by J-LO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay for what? More children? More Cheating?
2007-09-08 17:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by Tonya R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should leave, you deserve better than that...
btw were you married to this guy? cuz if you werent then you kinda brought it upon yourself to be cheated on, cuz he never said that he was commited to YOU... sorry in any case... i feel very bad for you... btw i WOULD get revenge somehow weather or not you were married to him he still deserves revenge... but thats just my opinion... and btw learn from your experiences, dont believe men when they say they love you unless they actually show you thru commitment and stuff... GOOD LUCK!
2007-09-08 17:02:55 · answer #7 · answered by Ruby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it dont matter if you got 20kids with this bloke..once a cheat always a cheat,staying together for a child is wrong coz its the child who suffers long term..id ditch the t.wat
2007-09-08 16:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by greyhound mummy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you referring to before, or after, you shoot him? No, you should not stay with him. If he's cheated once, and he gets away with it, he WILL do it again. Good luck.
2007-09-08 16:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's for you to decide.
Is he a keeper?
Will you be able to move and look beyond that betrayal?
Can you two work together in building trust in your relationship?
Is it a one-time thing?
Has it happened repeatedly?
Whatever you decide, be strong and commit to your decision.
Good luck!
2007-09-08 17:03:29 · answer #10 · answered by Melkiha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋