2007-09-08 09:53:48 · 11 answers · asked by Autumn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just let her like him. Some people don't need reciprocation to like someone, they just do. Since it wont go anywhere she will eventually find someone else to like.
2007-09-08 09:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that easy. From experience with the same problem I learned that you pretty much just have to let her feelings run their course. If she has strong feelings for him, just hearing that he doesn't share them probably won't make her feelings for him disappear. Eventually she may get over him and find a new guy that she is interested in, and hopefully has an interest in her.
The fact that this guy doesn't like her in return may hurt a little bit and make her feel bad about herself and a little bit insecure. Just be there for her as a friend to reassure her that he's just one guy, and that there are better ones out there for her - that it's his loss. Make sure you help her to keep her confidence up, and talk to her about just being friends with the guy.
Hope this helps. :-)
2007-09-08 17:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by Peatea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy doesn't like your best friend then you should just explain to her that he isn't worth it, and she could probably do much better anyway. Chances are he doesn't know what he's missing out on, if she actually likes him that much. But of course you can't help how you feel, it may take her a little bit to get over him but give her time. She'll come around and realize he isn't worth obsessing over.
2007-09-08 17:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard for someone to stop liking a guy even if they know that guy is the one for them. So I would give her some time she will come around. Now if she gets really depressed then maybe you should try convincing her that he's not the one.
2007-09-08 16:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by crymeariver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it up, honey. The girl will get over him eventually, and nothing you can say in the meantime will make it better. A person who loves/wants/cares for another person won't change their mind or heart for all the good information in the world. Been there, done that.
2007-09-08 16:58:27 · answer #5 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what it's like to be in that situation. As a friend, especially a best friend, you might want to help her but even mentioning him around her is going to make it harder for her to move on. So just pretend like he doesn't exsist. Don't talk about him, don't say anything that would make her think about him. She has to move on, on her own. Unfortunately, no one can do it for her.
I hope this helps. It worked for me.
2007-09-08 16:58:41 · answer #6 · answered by shamax3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there's two answers.
One, Let her like him, it's okay for someone to have an innocent crush on someone, as long as it's not hurting her. Thats the point of a crush, People like people who arne't necessarily reachable, because, a) They are their version of perfection,, or b) they need something to like in order to avoid who they really like, or they are trying to avoid with dealing with a real relationship. generally until she lets go, she cant be told not to like this person, or else she will always compaire her current relationships with this person, and there will be a hint of mistrust from her partner, knowing that she's googling over someone else...
I"m guessing there must be a reason you want her to stop googling over this guy, it may be hurting her, or you might just find it generally unhealthy, or you know someone who likes her.
The best way to approach her about this, is to explain to her what you are feeling exactly, tell her why you dont think she should be liking this person, tell her how you feel she should let go of the fact that she's obessive about this guy, because liking someone even when they told you they dont like you, you should atleat understand that this person isn't the write person. explain that to her, maybe she just needs to hear it from a nother person....
like i said before, people idol people they sometimes cant get, they dream up things they like about a person, and generally that idea person is nothing like what they want. They only see the good in the person, weither it be, popularity, they want to be popular, it might be that they are heroic, they want to be save, or the guy may be an outcast, who does whatever he wants, they might want that personal freedom. Whatever the guy posses, she wants, and the best way for her to get that she feels is to be with that guy... you need to show her, she doesn't need someone else to make her feel good.
Looks play an imporant part, Many people crush on people from looks alone, eyes, hair, or body, are generally key points, if she's stuck on just that one guy, ther'es got to be more behind that. Does he look like someone else she knoewS? does she make referances to him looking like someone else? She has to know that guys is not that person...
Find out why she lieks him so much, and show her that she doesn't need a guy who doens't like her, to make her feel happy with herself, and it's best to crush on people, that actually make you feel good, adn take care of you, and love you the way you are... not someone you idolize,
2007-09-08 17:06:01 · answer #7 · answered by anjui63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell yourself the truth first, you like him, then admit it to your friend. Otherwise, stay out of it and forever hold your peace. Thats what Best Friends do.
2007-09-08 17:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by Doughboys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe u should just let her because if he told her that he didn't like her and she doesn't get it, it just hard to make someone stop when they don't want to.
2007-09-08 17:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by morena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm well if the girl really likes this guy just let her like him even tho he dosent like her ...in time she will stop liking him and move on
2007-09-08 16:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by lizz p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋