i'd been going out w/ my boyfriend fr 4 yrs & was engaged, when i met this married man, 6 yrs older (he has 3 kids, oldest is 7). we hit it off at once -there was definitely a lot of chemistry.didnt help at all that he put me up at his place for a while when i relocated to his town fr work. i became REALLY good friends with his mom, sis etc. the time came for me to get married - i couldnt take it any longer and told this guy about my feelings...he felt the same way, he even asked me at that point if i wanted him to marry me, but i dint take it seriously - i thought id be fine n only needed it to get it outta my system - i hoped that this was a phase and my feelings would subside once i got married. but its been 2 yrs and i have NOT forgotten him. we meet up at times fr lunch etc, b/c we value the connection we have. but twice in 2 yrs we have broken down and told each other how much we miss each other. i cant think of anyone but him. my feelings for him r too strong. what should i do?
2007-09-08 09:50:28 · 12 answers · asked by Karine SwissArmy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't get together with this other man at all. you need to sit down and sort out your feelings and figure out what you need that your not getting out of your current relationship. if you hook up with this married man it will lead you down a road of heart ache that will leave you devastated. trust me i have been there and done it, please, please don't do it.
2007-09-08 10:03:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine how you would feel if you knew another girl was with your husband all the time? I'm pretty sure it would crush you, and even though you have this amazing connection and he'd probably choose you over his wife, I think you need to make him choose. If he can't leave her then in a way that's for the best. If he can go behind his wife's back then he could easily do it to you even if he chose you. He didn't tell you that he was married for a reason remember. I know you love him, but it takes more than love. If he does choose you though, then obviously give him a chance to prove himself to you. You love him, so if he gives you the opportunity to be with you then take it and see what happens. I'd be careful and not get too attached though, cause this guy doesn't seem like the most trustworthy. Honestly, I think you should just leave him. A guy like this isn't worth your time of day. I don't know how far your relationship with him has gone, but id it's gone pretty far then you need to tell his wife. She deserves better and although things may be weird, he doesn't deserve either of you. Either way, it isn't fair to you or his wife if he's with you both. You deserve better than to be someone's bit on the side and she deserves to have a husband who isn't going behind her back. I hope things work out for the best xxxx
2016-05-19 21:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never a good idea to become too close to a married man...unless of course he's close family. Because you both have feelings for each other, I think it is best that you restrict yourselves from seeing each other. I know it will probably be hard at first, but if you keep in contact it will just keep bringing back old feelings. Plus, if you do stay in contact with him and he ends up leaving his wife for you, who's to say that maybe someday he will leave you for another girl or even his first wife. I mean, he obviously has feelings for his wife or he would have never married her! Hope I could help.
2007-09-08 09:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by Hope 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
been in your shoes before,my suggestion to you is to stay away from this married man and stay with your boyfriend,you can and will only get hurt in this and for what it's worth you don't want that married mans kids thinking of you as the home wrecker,and taking their daddy away.Honey I know exactly what your going through,believe me leave this man alone and stay where you are.
2007-09-08 10:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man is willing to cheat on his wife to be with you, how do you think hes going to respect you later on down the road in your relationship after his divorce. He will cheat on you just the same and you better not fool yourself thinking hes a great guy because its true, he will cheat on you to.
2007-09-08 10:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by nelppik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me married men are not worth your time so stop thinking abuot him and move on he has a family and needs to be with them. take care of your self and move all the way on.
best of luck
2007-09-08 16:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit meeting up with him - go home to your husband and he to his family. No good can come of this and you only reignite the feelings when you talk to or see him. You are creating your own misery.
2007-09-08 09:55:00 · answer #7 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should respect your husband and stop daydreaming about this other guy. He has a wife. Leave him alone. What you have done and are doing with him is wrong.
2007-09-08 09:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this man still married? how can a you have a boyfriend who is married.....?
find someone single is what u should do
2007-09-08 09:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by lynna 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you both made vows
keep them, you are bloth wrong... you are married, so is he
stop seeing him
fantasize about your husband!
2007-09-08 10:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋