my friend wants to know if you start to have sex then make him stop by saing i cant do this im married. Is it still considerd cheating and if so to what degree. Shoud she tell her husband?
2007-09-08 09:21:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my opinion, if this was my husband it would be considered cheating just him putting himself in a situation like that. Not as serious as if he had actually went through with it, but cheating none the less. And yes, I think I would have to confess.
2007-09-08 09:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
The fact that she even ended up in the situation that she was in is cheating. As to whether she should tell her husband or not, I'm not sure. She really needs to look into her self and figure out why she ended up in the situation that she did. Is it true feelings for this other guy? Or maybe that he was treating her with some type of respect that her husband doesn't? Knowing the problem is half the battle. From there the issues need to be worked on and if they involve him then she may want to talk to him about some marriage counceling.
2007-09-08 16:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by Kara 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I still think its cheating. There are so many chances to stop yourself before it gets to that point. You dont just go from hi to sex in like 2 seconds. (well not usually) There are actions that lead up to naked and doing it. Married people shouldnt cross those boundries.
Question for her would be the same..if her husband started having sex with a woman and stopped wouldnt she be a little upset?
My husband cheated on me. It doesnt matter to me if he did it once or one hundred times he still did it. He let it get to that point and he didnt stop it.
I can be flirty with guys but never do I ever let myself be put in situations that would jepordize my marriage. I know my boundries. I just wish my husband would have too!
2007-09-08 16:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by she_sucks@life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got that far it's cheating. If your husband does not know,,,DO NOT tell him. But you need to break off contact with the "friend" and get some counseling about why you cheated. Start by thinking if "the shoe was on the other foot" and how you would feel.
2007-09-12 15:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by jokat71 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is cheating her husband out of her being honest and open with him. For her to put herself in this situation, she was either physically or emotionally drawn to this man. Before allowing it to get to the point she did, she should have sat down with her husband and told him she was having these feelings for someone else; not to hurt her husband but to be honest with him so they could talk about it openly. If more people would turn to their spouse if or when they start feeling these attractions to others, there would be less infidelity. Perhaps she felt something lacking from her marriage and she should discuss that with her spouse.
So, it is a form of cheating, but not as devistating as actually performing the act; she was right to pull away and reject this man.
2007-09-08 16:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by pussycat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She should stop being a tease is what she should do. She knows she is married. Starting sex to wait until the last moment to tell a guy no I can't I'm married. That is being a tease. And she can end up hurt...or worse. If she doesn't have in mind to cheat she shouldn't be doing or saying things that lead to it.
2007-09-08 16:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by Red Rose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating, infidility begins in the mind...that's why our hearts are treacherous...BUT once in the mind & heart it's hard not to follow through...and once it's become physical it's just another step in the entire process....so it doesn't matter if you stop midway or not....we KNOW we're married before we start, so by saying "I can't because I'm married" is a mute point...and a little late for the conscious....but I've been there, and totally understand!!!
2007-09-08 16:45:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is considered cheating. And, no she should not tell her husband, if she wants to stay married. If you kiss another man, its considered cheating, and it is exspecially, if they were almost or started to have sex but she stopped it. Absolutley, she was cheating on her husband. Good luck to her.
2007-09-08 17:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she was my wife i would say she was cheating she should not have been whith him anyway or at the point where they could have sex so yea she was cheating ist a pretty hight degree to..sex.. its bad and its her call on her husband but tell the hole truth
2007-09-10 20:33:53 · answer #9 · answered by Dakota 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cheating started long before the sexual act...It's her call as to whether she tells her husband. She has to live with or without him. She knows him and herself better than any of us. .
2007-09-08 16:24:39 · answer #10 · answered by Tonya R 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋