we got back together he said he couldnt live without me, and all that. i asked him if he went out with any girls when we were apart, he said no. i found out he did. 2 times. they held hands. i talked to him about it and he said that its none of my buisness- how can it not be my buisness if we are going to be married.???????? he said everyone needs their private things, but i disagree. i think you should be able to share everything. i dont know what to do
2007-09-08 08:51:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you plan to marry and spend the rest of your life with someone, you need to be able to trust them. You also need to be able to share everything. He lied to you. On top of that, I'd be very skeptical about the hand holding thing. What if holding hands isn't all he did? Don't buy into the "cold feet" thing either. Getting cold feet about a commitment is a lame excuse.
Breaking up with someone you have known for that long is going to hurt, but if he isn't willing to share and if you have lost your trust in him, you need to rethink this marriage thing.
If a guy did that to me, I wouldn't take him back. He wasn't trying to get some space and think things over. He was checking out the other fish in the sea.
2007-09-08 09:08:31 · answer #1 · answered by Completely Anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After reading this and then getting my head to stop spinning I feel it's only fair to tell you that this so-called "engagement" and alleged "marriage" is OVER. Your boy toy dumped you for 30 days to date (have sex with) someone else without feeling guilty. HA! So when you are married I bet he has a stack of annulments lying around so he can 86 the marriage for a night in a Motel 6 with some bimbo. You are incredibly naive to think that this relationship is going anywhere but right down the sewer. Save your sanity and what's left of your dignity and self-respect and get out.
2007-09-08 16:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would not accept his answer because he is hiding something....I have a feeling that he broke up with just so that he could go out with others and this is a lesson I leared many years ago it can apply to just about anything.....
He leaves you once shame on him
He leaves you twice shame on you....
In other words he has already left you so that he can have sex with someone else chances are he will do that gain maybe even after you are married.....
2007-09-08 16:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by Kayla 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i agree, secrets wont do any good
yes we do have private stuff things we dont want to share, but it shouldnt revolve around details about your relationship ,
any details that matter to your relationship, which his seeing other people does,despite being broken up, you are entitled to know not only what he did with them, but WHY he lied to you about doing it
thats the problem, he lied and said NO when he actually had
i think if i were you id be focusing on that not the little secret he has
you have more right to have a problem with that
his lying is certainly your business and if he cant explain himself and be honest with you youve got problems and unhappiness ahead
2007-09-08 16:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by froufrou 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sweetie, as hard as it may be to accept, neither u nor him should have to explain what went own if u were seperated, if u were already married then it would matter
2007-09-08 15:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You broke up?
2007-09-08 15:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he has something to hide
2007-09-08 15:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
why is your name buttsniff
2007-09-08 15:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋