Okay, i need help. Here is a short version. ABout 6 yrs ago i was going out with my first bf, i loved him to death, and 1 yr into the relationship he got arrested and sentenced for 5 yrs (when he was out he use to disappear once in a while) anyways while the time he was in jail we use to talk, i use to go and see him. 2 yrs 1/2 into his sentence i met a guy, and we started dating. i did so, to keep me company, but i fell in love and after the years we got engaged, (we have been engaged for 2 yrs, and also living with him) i have been with my fiancee for 4yrs. and all of those yrs i have thought about my previous boyfriend, and i did everything in my hand to forget about him, but always thought about him. 2 months ago he finally called me, (he is out now) i went to see him, we had sex, he knew i had a couple, and he does too, and we did it anyways. b4 i went to see him which was about 2 weeks, he use to call me everyday, now after that, doesnt call not once. he is hiding? what to do?
2007-09-08 08:02:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
BY THE WAY I NEVER HAD SEX B4 W/ MY PREVIOUS BF, UNTIL FEW WEEKS AGO, WITH A CONDOM. WE WERE PLANNING A FUTURE 2GETHER OF GETTING MARRIED, BUT HE CAME OUT AND I WAS ALREADY W/ SOMEONE ELSE, THE BF TOLD ME EVERYTHING WE USE TO TALK ABOUT, AND ME BEING IN THE SITUATION I WAS W/ A FIANCEE, AND HIM WE DECIDED TO WAIT TO BE 2 GETHER UNTIL THE PERFECT MOMENT, BUT HE HAS DISAPPEARED, ITS BEEN ABOUT 2 WEEKS. HE DID SAY HE WILL ALWAYS LOVE ME AND HE WILL CALL ME BUT HE HASNT. SHOULD I JUST FORGET ABOUT AN ASSHOE LIKE THAT, AND BE HAPPY WITH MY FIANCEE
2007-09-08 08:15:15 · update #1
Break off your engagement with your fiance - he does not deserve a b*tch like you, nor does he deserve whatever new jail house diseases you are bringing home.
2007-09-08 08:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What were you thinking. You cheated on a great guy who loves you so much and to whom you mean a world. I think deep down your still in love with your ex bf but he doesn't love you. He just used you and thrown you away. He knew if he call you will come running to him. He knows he is your weekness. Forget that loser will you. Don't tell your new guy about all this because he will never forgive you and accept you if he finds. Either you forget your ex bf or him choice is your. How will you feel if your fiance would of cheated on you and did what you did. I bet if your ex bf calls again you will again run to him.
2007-09-08 08:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in love with your current fiance if you cheated on him-don't bother sending out the invitations- it wouldnt' be fair to the man you're with to marry him...
The very best that you could do..is be up front..and allow your fiance to decide if he still wants you or not.
I know I would never knowingly wed someone who cheated on me.
Forget about both men- why would you want someone who disapears? reapears? goes to jail? has sex with you and disapears?
You should start with a clean slate, and be true to the man you are with..and forget all other men..you are making excuses for yourself, what you did was unexcusable. I hope you find it inside yourself to be honest, and upfront, and a good wife to a good man.
Teej.
2007-09-08 08:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by Teej 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, grow up. Don't be a player. Choose.
You have a guy who has supported you and loved you for a long time, and another who has spent time in jail and came out, got his booty and hasn't responded since.
Just choose, can the fiance make you happy? If yes then DON'T EVER tell him about the fling, get over that guy, never talk to him or meet up with him again. Don't ever put allow yourself to be in a situation where you will cheat.
This is gonna sound harsh but its true, you had a guy willing to commit to you for life, and you have ****** it up by being a skank, you need to put it behind you and hope he never finds out you betrayed him so badly. Cos trust me, as a guy, he wont forgive you for that, ever. Its in our nature to be territorial, and once you break his trust it wont come back.
2007-09-08 08:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by Danny N 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well he wanted to show you that he could have you anytime he wanted and you proved to him he could so why waist his time chasing something he knows he can have. You must not love your fiance because if you did you would of never did what you did and you need to tell him the truth. There are to many diseases out there and you don't need to play games with someone Else's life
2007-09-08 08:13:05 · answer #5 · answered by ~~Just me~~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were easy so he called you. You risked your fiancee, your new marriage and your whole future for a roll in the hay with a convict who is now ignoring you. Do you feel good about yourself?
2007-09-08 08:05:59 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
picked a real winner to cheat with, huh? you two deserve each other. tell the fiance, and end things with him. then when the other guy goes back to prison for 5 years again, you'll find someone to pass the time with again.
good luck!
2007-09-08 08:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wanted to get some, and now you jeopardized your relationship with your fiancé for no good reason but a quick screw.
2007-09-08 08:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dope. hes just in to you for a jolly. get back to your real life. not with the loser of a jail bird.
2007-09-08 10:42:51 · answer #9 · answered by ROB W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋