dressing like biker chicks. My main thing is I want to do something too. Not playing cards, I have no girlfriends or family. I want attention....... again, not going to movies. He is there googling women and maybe more....why are women expected to be MaDonna? (Not the singer/actress)
2007-09-08 07:44:35 · 11 answers · asked by lrlseuell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, dear lrlseuell, I'd have to say, why don't you just give it a try.
On a nice day, a ride on the bike should be completely exhilarating. Who cares what you wear? Who cares where you eat lunch?
You're with him. You're out of the house. The day is georgeous. You'll have something in common to converse about after the ride.
Go for it.
2007-09-08 08:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've read both of your questions.To answer your first one no.There is nothing wrong with wanting to hire a sitter.And find a hobby for yourself.It is o.k. that you don't share his hobby.But just because you aren't really into bikes.Doesn't mean you don't have to support his hobby.You should atleast learn something about his bike.Has for the whole I don't want to ride or be around those kind of place.Where is it you think he is going.And whom do you think he is around?. Have you actually been to these places with him.I don't mean to offend or make assumptions.But it sounds like you are trying to be snotty.Towards bikers and I would be willing to bet.You haven't even been around any.You are going based on what you have seen on t.v. or movies.Its not like he has ran off and joined hells angels now is it.Has for how the ladies dress not all "biker chicks" dress badly.I have owned several bikes in my short 34 year life span.My hubby has a Harley that I ride and we are going out next month and buying me a new bike for an early B-Day gift.And if you were to look at me and the way I dress.You would think I look more like a soccor mom.Than someone whom rides a bike infact I even own a new high end SUV.Like the other soccor moms in my area drive.I know a lot of people whom ride.People like my hubby and I whom have never been in trouble.People whom have families and own business.Good people so you should'nt judge someone for what they drive.I have been married almost 16 years now.And take it from me having seperate hobbies are good for a marriage.Everyone needs time to themselves.So don't be angry with your hubby for wanting to do something for himself.I enjoy bikes and I don't go to many of the events my hubby goes to.Because I want to give him his space.Get yourself a hobby and leave your hubby alone about his.And everything will work out.
2007-09-08 09:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, your mind is jumping all over place. How many questions did you just ask?
If you need hobby, find something that interests you, not your husband or someone else. You shouldn't pretend and force yourself to do something that you hate just to please someone, although marriage is about compromising and doing what another person likes. You could ride bikes with him, he would go shopping or whatever with you.
You need attention? I think you need to get a life. No one likes a needy person and maybe that's why your husband is turning to the Internet. Make some friends, be friendly to your neighbors or people you meet all the time. If you find some hobby, you might meet people and it will be a great opportunity to make some friends. Volunteer or do something to keep yourself and your mind busy. Then your husband will appreciate you more, if you are not around all the time, nagging and maybe complaining how unhappy you are.
If he is cheating on you, it's time to face a reality and talk to him. Even if you were like Michelangelo Madonna, it still doesn't mean your husband would love you. Sit down and talk to him honestly what was happening to your marriage. If you still want to fight for it, offer to go to a marriage counselor together.
2007-09-08 07:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by terliuke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are expecting yourself to be madonna...If you want to do something then DO it. Frankly biking is a hobby that I see many couples enjoying and your stereotypical view of how the women dress shows your ingorance of the subject. There are bike clubs where the group gets together and go camping, they go to events that involve bike racing, they participate in charitable organizations, they travel all over the globe. Your own ignorance is keeping you from having a good time and enjoying your husband's hobby with him. Don't blame him because you have your nose in the air.
2007-09-08 11:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When spending quality time with your husband the most important fact is that the two of you are together but if he cannot control his wandering eyes you need to sit down and have a serious conversation with him. Marriage requires honesty so please let him know exactly how his behavior upsets you and ask him to to stop it "immediately" because it hurts. Help him understand how uncomfortable you feel in the midst of his biker friends but don't expect him to completely stop connecting with them because he needs to be happy too. The answer to you dilemma is "compromise" - find a pleasant resolution so that both of you can feel content when in the company of others. Also, you need to find your own group of friends because it really isn't fair to expect your husband to always be with you. Everyone needs his or her own special time away from husbands/wives even when they're very deeply in love with each other. Give your husband some breathing space and allow him to do the same for you.
2007-09-08 08:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quit thinking about yourself, and put your husband and his feelings and needs before your own. You sound really selfish, you want to spend time with your husband which is good, but only on your terms.
You don't have to dress like a biker chick. But have you ever thought that it would mean alot to your husband if you rode on the bike with him?
Sometimes even if you don't care for it, to spend quality time together, take interest in things that he enjoys, and vice versa.
2007-09-08 07:53:44 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a rider myself, i will comprehend the could desire to leap on your bike for a relax on my own time. as quickly as I first offered my bike, that replaced into the biggest reason. i had to do some thing for me, time on my own and far off from the ex hubby. even with the shown fact that as a women human beings, i will think of the spouse been all week at living house with the youngsters and searching forward to the weekend to appreciate together with her husband as a kin. The resentment of not having on my own time herself. bike could properly be troubleful in a courting. If the rider get contain in too plenty driving, club time, tooo plenty time aside without get right of entry to to cellular telephone, partying, ladies, new acquaintances and so on.... Please be useful, bike environment isn't a kin pastime! i'm announcing this, through fact i replaced into in a motorbike club and observed the spouse attitudes in the direction of us (particularly me for been the only woman around). i will lied if I dont sympathized, even with the shown fact that it replaced into my determination making use of birthcontrol pills. lol it extremely is likewise the case in bicycle proprietor.
2016-10-18 08:26:31 · answer #7 · answered by herrion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems he's taking you for granted and a little or a lot immature. Communicate with him. But if your trust in him is gone..I don't see why you would want to be with someone like that.
2007-09-08 08:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by M. J. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look you ***** your husband not attention to you we say join you just want to cheat and be reckless go ahead do your thing when your marriage fails don't blame answers
2007-09-08 08:24:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Get over yourself!
2007-09-08 07:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by nottwoshort 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋