Why do women treat virgins with contempt?

Answer 1

I don't. I respect anyone who has that kind of control and such high standards. Anyone who would put someone down for being a virgin needs to take a good look at themselves and figure out why the heck it bothers them and why it's any of their business.

Answer 2

I have never know a woman who treats virgins with contempt. In fact I have never know a woman who has checked out another women to see if she is a virgin. I guess I have led a very sheltered life to not know this. Sorry I am unable to answer the question.

Answer 3

Male virgins or female virgins?
I think women are wary but I like male virgins.

Women who treat female virgins with contempt are just jealous because they're not virgins anymore.

Answer 4

I am not aware of anyone who does this. I am not sure about anyone else, but I see another's virginity as their choice and I would applaude that decision as well. I cannot imagine treating anyone with contempt for choosing to save oneself for only one until marriage. I believe that this would and does speak volumes about a person's character.

Answer 5

I don't know this to be true. I admire them because on any given day... I wish I could go back to those days. It takes a strong woman to remain a virgin in this day and time. It is especially hard for the men. Go virgins!

Answer 6

i treat them with respect for knowing what is the right thing for them be it saveing themselves for marrage or just when the guy and the time are right.

i was a 31 yr old virgin and i started out saving myself for marrage but then along the way i decided i would just do it when the time and the guy was right and i had feelings for him.
i do not belive in sex for the sake of sex i think it should be done as an expression of love and or strong feelings for the partner you are with

so therefore i respect virgins!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

I don't treat them anyway. I think it's commendable.

Answer 8

Lets see, if it is a woman who is a virgin, other women who treat them with contempt do so out of feeling bad about t hemselves. It is easier to attack that which you wish you had been able to stay true too, but didn't, than to honor those who do. Those women who do not have an emotional stake in the status of other womens state of sexual experiance simply do not have any negative emotions regarding them. Most often they think fondly of them and hold them in esteem for the ability to hold true to their own value systems. Not every woman feels the same about the sancrity of virginity, many think that bringing experiance to marriage is a gift, rather than fumbling around attempting to please their new husands.

Sadly, men have not caught up to the most modern women amongst us. Most men still think it is super to be the first (and hopefully only) man who touched their wives. It makes them feel manly, possessive, and that the new wife has nobody to compare them to. A higher number of men still would prefer a woman come to their marriage a virgin, than those who do not care. Many men lie about how they feel about this because we are suppose to be in an "equal" society now where women can do the same things as men. However, underneath it all a man still thinks more highly of women who manage to stay virgins than for those who do not. A sort of contempt under lays a relationship between a man and a woman when the man knows the woman has slept around. He probably will never admit this but it is still true. The good old double standard is still alive and well.

Women tend to feel contempt for men who are virgin because they believe it means the man is a loser, in the sense that he was unable to "get" with a girl/woman. Some women think highly of both men and women who manage to keep to their moral belief system. However, underneath it all is still a level of contempt towards men who do not experss their virility. It is rather sad, but true nonetheless.

Society in general, at least in the Western countries has very mixed emotions and experiances when it comes to the topic of virginity. While theoretically we think staying virgin until marriage is an ideal concept, it is often viewed with more of a sentimental fondness than something which is actually attainable.

Sex fills the lives of most everyone who lives in the Western culture. It is in magizines, on billboards, TV, movies, videos, and sex sells. Sexual images are on everything from selling t-shirts to houses to cars. It even sells food. When sex permenates society is is inevetable that girls will fall into sexual activity, usually long before they are emotionally ready.

The bottom line is women view other women who are virgins with contempt because they have failed to live up to their own moral beliefs. Women view male virgins as weak, geeky, and as losers who are unable to score with women. Who wishes to be with a man who has failed in such a funemental manner? Even back a few decades ago when virginity was much more the norm of the day, men where not held to the same standard. Women expected men to come to their marriage with experiance. So, those who do not achieve that experiance must somehow be less of a man. When we view how successful a man will be often it is his very prowness which attracts us and makes us have the perception that if he is successfull in the arena he will be successfull in others as well, and thus can provide for his family more fully over the years.

Once, if a woman lost her virginity she was considered "ruined". Thank God those days are almost over. While it is important to stay true to ones own morals in order to achieve a solid foundation of self esteem and confidence, virginity or lack there of should not be a marker which measures her value in society. We are on our way to a higher perception of a woman's value, but still have a way to go.

When we arrive at a place when we can truly allow others to live their lives as they see fit without judgement, then we will have finally become civilized. Until then we will continue to look down on others and use odd yard sticks to measure their value.

P.S. My personal belief in virginity is that it has great value. I do not push my belief off onto others though. I believe that two individuals who come together inexperianced give one another a precious gift. It is of great value to not have another to compare your spouse with. It is of great value when two young people learn each others bodies together and the act of sexual intimency. I also believe that spouses such as these value one another to higher degrees than those who bring a great many others into the shared bedroom. Because that is what it really is when one or both have shared the bodies of other people. Each person you have had sex with is a connection to your soul and each one is a ghost in that bed with the couple. When you have to have discussions on who your partner slept with you also have to wonder if somebody else pleased your spouse more than you can or do. Two who come without such baggage have a higher degree of chance at a happy and successfull marriage. Less jealousy and worry or concern over how well you please your partner or who your partner may be thinking of while in bed with you. The list goes on regarding how special and important it is to a marriage when two young people come together as virgins.

Answer 9

really? I haven't noticed.