My Mother in law is pretending to be sick to get attention!!!!!!Grrr?

Question

Oh I hate her sooo much! she lives with us unfortunately! all she does is say oh I feel sick, Oh this hurts, If I say I have a headache she will say she has one too! If she sees a sick person on Tv she'll say she has the same symptoms. Whats wrong with this lady! I know she is pretending to feel sick! I cant stand living with her! whats worst is that its not her home, but she has to live with us beacuse my husband wants his mommy near him because he said shes old and needs him, She's only 64! I mean my Grandmother is freaking older than her and still works! I just try to ignore her stupid conversations about her stupid pretend symptoms! arrrrgg

Answer 1

Sit your husband down and explain to him that not only is this his home but yours too and if her being there is causing issues than maybe it's time for her to get an apartment. A lot of older people go into assitant living communities there not nursing homes but apartments for senior citizens.

Answer 2

You have every right to feel this way when two people get married they are supposed to leave their families and make their own. Lay down the law to your husband do not move whatever you do don't move!! ( iread your other ?) If he wants here there he needs to build her a little house of her own next to yours how are you ever gonna have a relationship if she is always in your business that is very unhealthy and needs to be dealt with or she will cause you two to divorce

Answer 3

Is there something wrong with her, or as you say trying to get attention. If she is really lonely she could make her self sick, so why don't you try and find somewhere for her to go and have some friends that she can get out and do things with. She is not that old, but needs to have something to stimulate her brain. she is getting stagnet from sitting. Oh, and by the way if you weren't so jealous of her maybe you'd find out she isn't bad company.

Answer 4

Wow have you got a problem or what! She seams like a evil stepmother. Well heres what you need to do in my opinion. Contact a local doctor. Have him come over to see her with or with out her knowing.And if he sees nothing ask to put her under some sort of medication( Maybe mental). If she doesnt take it call the doctor and ask for some sort of care group she can go to or somewhere where she'll just leave you and your husband alone. Good luck!

Answer 5

Of course, you're a qualified doctor who has put her through all known tests . And all of the tests show no sign of any ailment .
Age is not always the yardstick to use in determining strength or health. Some die at birth, while others live past one hundred . Please don't be too eager to judge that which you have no way of knowing .
Get the chip off your shoulder . Treat her as your own mother . Get her to think of you as her own daughter. Become a family - - - - - you might not get a second chance .

Answer 6

I am so sorry to hear that, because I know how you feel. My husband is a mama's boy too and he is constantly going to visit her and she complains about pains also. The good thing is she does not live with us because if she did I would of accidentally smacked her in her face. I know that this is cruel of me, but I hate that bit*h with a passion and she hates me too. We are moving to a bigger place in two mth's and my husband better not even think about bringing that women to our home. Good Luck to you and I hope things get better for you..

Answer 7

she dont feel loved and is crying out for attention. Too bad for all of you involved. At her age there are so many positive things she could be doing. Singles groups, senior groups, volunteer services. Even dsating. Her behavior is nothing new. They get worse with age and in later years hurt those that are closer to them. Do not hate her. Try to help her get her life under control

Answer 8

i have the same problem except its my grandma. when she arrived from the airport she was pretending she couldnt walk and making up stories about how her veins would explode if she turns a doorknob....... the next day when she thinks everyone left i see her walking fine in my backyard. we bought her a wheelchair that looked nice and was pretty expensive and the first thing she says is "its to small and i cant push myself because my veins will explode"...... she also complains to my dad saying nobody talks to her even tho everyone trys to talk to her, like the other day i talked to her for 1 HOUR then she complains 5 seconds later about me not talking to her.all she does is lie and make everyone uncomfortable. everyday she tell my dad lies about me just to get him mad at me, she even said my 13 year old cousin was a prostitute and thats how i know THIS ***** IS CRAZY.

Answer 9

You may have to do something very uncomfortable here. Basically tell your husband that if his mother needs more care, she needs to live in an assisted living facility. You may have to have him make a choice between you and she. Tell him in no uncertain terms that you can no longer share a roof with his mother, and either she goes, or you do.

If he's smart, he'll send mommy dearest packing.

Answer 10

You need to talk to you hubby and tell him to grow up and stop being a mama's boy. There's no reason why you should be putting up with that crap. I f my mother in law came to live with us, I would move the hell out.