Does my mother have anger problems?

Question

Whenever I do something on accident, like drop something she starts yelling and cursing at me. Like just now. I dropped the camera on accident and she said, "YOU'RE TURNING THAT CAMERA INTO A PIECE OF ............ IM NOT BUYING A NEW ONE BECAUSE YOU'RE GONNA TURN IT INTO ....... TOO!" And just a few days ago, I was watching Chris Crocker on youtube and she yelled at me saying that he's got problems and to stop watching all that screaming.
Oh, and if my room is not the way she likes it she yells and swears at me.
So, does she have an anger problem or is it just that I'm too "sensitive"?

Well, from what my oldest sister has told me, she has been like that to her. When my sister started smoking, she would take her rights away, until she couldn't take it anymore and she had to move out of the house and live with her aunt.

My mother was also physically abused as a child, until she moved out of the house. So were her siblings. (two are dead already) I don't know if this has anything to do with it...
It happened a long time ago. She's 53, I don't think she would still be thinking about that constantly. But who knows?

I have told her that I don't like her screaming and that it makes me feel bad a lot and she doesn't seem to care. All she says is "I'm sorry!!!!" and it doesn't even sound like she's sorry. She works at home with little kids and she LOVES them. She's patient with them, and not with me when she's not working or on weekends. Thank you for all of your answers!!!!!!!

Answer 1

My friends mom was the same exact way, just snapping at my homie all day. I totally know where your coming from. We worked at it for like 5months and totally cured her. This is what we did, we made her really feel like the bad guy, and we made her feel like a bully. An example would be when she would snap we would be silent. We even went so far as to give her the silent treatment. Basically we made her take a look at herself and her actions. And we would never give her any reason to yell at us. Come to find out, she was sexually frustrated.

Answer 2

honey she definitely has anger problems. It's not you that is her problem. It's her. She needs to get some serious counseling. How would she like to be yelled at everytime she made a mistake? I'm sure it makes you nervous - try and talk to her about it when she's not mad. When it's a calm moment.
Tell her how it makes you feel when she screams and yells.
Let her know how nervous it makes you and ask her (in a nice way) that if everytime she made a mistake and there was someone behind her screaming at her - how that would make her feel. Good luck

** Here's another idea - if you have a video camera, leave it on where she doesn't know about it and record how she acts. Then at a calm moment show her how she looks. Chances are she doesn't even realize how bad it is - then she can see how bad she is treating you - and she might straighten it up

Answer 3

I have a 25-yr-old daughter, and I NEVER yelled, screamed, or swore at her. I never threatened her in any way either (you'll have to move out ...or...when you turn 18, etc.) There is NO excuse (and I mean excuse) to act that way. Your mother is indulging herself in acting like a juvenile, and she should get her act together.

My daughter has been in car wrecks (we bought her cars), dropped a large container of ketchup on the kitchen tile floor (and it flew everywhere), dropped grocery bags, etc. NONE of those things she did were done on purpose, and I knew that if she could have prevented doing any of those things she would have.

Your mom seems to be expecting perfection from you, and I seriously doubt she expects it from herself. Am I right? She's probably about 20 years older than you, and she's expecting you to be smarter and more mature than she herself wants to be.

My mother was an alcoholic when I was in junior high/high school, and she made my life a living hell. There will come a day when you do not have to live under her tyranny, and being around her hateful behavior will be your choice. Until then, try to do things to better yourself (like doing well in school, learning to play an instrument, etc) because she won't be able to take THAT away from you!

Answer 4

hey i have the same mother lol

she gets extremely angry over even the smallest things. i used to think that this was normal in the sense that i was doing something wrong, but it's not. don't get upset about it. though sometimes when i show that i'm indifferent to her screaming and cursing she gets angrier bc she needs a reaction. the only example i can give right now is one where the printer wasn't working so i got blamed, cursed at, etc about messing it up. it lasted for an hr.. ridiculous

so just don't let it get to you so much that you think you are the problem. little things like the camera are not worth getting into a heated argument over. you're not sensitive either. the blame is on your mother for not knowing the correct way to act in even the smallest situations.

Answer 5

nicely that grow to be very poetic,inspite of the unlucky scenario. Anger reflects discomfort so,in case you do get a gamble, maybe ask your mum if she is going by way of some deeper discomfort? anybody responds in a extra civil way while somebody takes an interest in how they're feeling or handling with issues. additionally,attempt to get a one to a minimum of one getting into a position far flung from the kin section. someplace tranquil and the place there is peace and shade. Even an area park for a walk at the same time is stable sufficient. you may desire to then discover that an identical undertaking will at last be shown to you by ability of your mum realising that somebody worrying sufficient to ask her,might desire to be in an identical quantity of turmoil. which will provide her risk to show you some interest which of direction is organic for any mom. She might desire to be suffering each and every variety of stress, and not getting a glimpse of a gamble to particular any of it? stable success then !

Answer 6

Any mother who swears at their child should be ashamed of themselves. One day you will turn around and give her a taste of her own medicine. She will have not a leg to stand on as you learned from the "best" HER!!! I am sorry your mother treats you this way....She really ought to be ashamed of herself....It is probably a learned behavior from her childhood. Learn from her and when you have children do not make them feel like your mother makes you feel. How awful for you. Does your mother like to be sworn at, I wonder....I am sure not...then why must she do it to you! I just don't know what else to say. Except it is absolutely verbal abuse!

Recomment: It is not that your mother might still think of her childhood...it is only that it is all she knows. When all we see is one kind of lifestyle then that is all one knows. She doesn't know to behave differently. Maybe you could seek some counseling for yourself...then one day invite mom along. Is your older sister in a posittion to help you out?

Answer 7

OMG my mother is like that too!! And the best way to deal with it, is just ignore her, or just TRY to be nice. My mom is always working, and when she's in a bad mood she gets like that. A good tip, try to change the subject. I always say.. o ya, mom, someone called for you today. Another thing to do is, when your mom is in a GOOD mood, play a game i made up, u be her and let ur mom be you, just pretend to be each other so your mom knows what she's doing and you might discover your attitude isn't that great either.

Answer 8

Is it her camera? Then leave it alone. Is your room messy? Then clean it up. I don't know who Crocker is. Was the sound loud, maybe you should turn it down or wear a head set. Sounds like there are things you could do to curtail some of this yelling. Look at what part you play in this conflict and straighten it up. You'll hear less yelling then.

Answer 9

It sounds as though she does have a slight problem, but nothing too big. She's overly abusive with her language towards you and should learn to express herself better in that respect. More like she has a problem expressing herself properly rather than real anger. I'd call this annoying at worst --- and if this is the worst that it gets, I wouldn't let it get to me.

Answer 10

She has a rage problem and she uses it as a means of control. You are not the problem!!!!!! Everybody drops things and everybody has different tastes!! Most people don't yell at their kids or say those things to them. Don't believe her degrading remarks because they are NOT true! She has the problem not you!!! You may want to check out a couple of books called "Boundaries" and "Safe People" by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend. Good luck!!