why is bullying supposed to be socially acceptable & part of growing up?

Question

It seems I hear it from everywhere: "bullying is to help kids grow, get stronger for the world" or the best one "it's part of the growing process?"

Answer 1

Bullying should not be and is not socially acceptable where common sense still exists. Where it is our society quality diminishes across the boards,

having said this

it is understandable to see why you might think that it is acceptable. our current culture is filled with and driven by fear of offending any ones sensibilities, including bullies.

we must accept them as they are, certainly not judge their behavior as wrong, after all, we all make mistakes and choose poorly from time to time, who are we then to judge.

competition, seemingly branded by that same societal litmus test, is in fact what encourages growth and strength. Meeting challenges in our lives helps us to grow through experience.

bully's learn that brute force and intimidation get them what they want and they learn nothing but that so when real challenges confront them, they react with that skill set and end up in Jail, dead or worse? for the rest of us anyway.

as we allow bullies, we condemn ourselves to the fear and intimidation that they wield. Until we decide that there are some things that are just plain wrong, we will continue to see the decline in the quality of our public and private behaviors.

Answer 2

I hate bullying, even the thought of it, I've been bullied verbally and I guess it's just a way to make you stronger. Mature, get through life. When you're bullied you really learn to grow up and realize that there are d*cks out there and to prepare yourself for people like that. There are so many reasons a child could become a bully, but learning to handle a bully is so much greater a challenge and an accomplishment that it can almost be a life lesson. I'm not saying all children should be bullied to become stronger later in life, more confident, maybe it's not like that for everyone, but there ARE good things that come out of standing up to and learning how to deal/cooperate with bullies. It's a part of life. Only the aspect of bullying itself is bad - long-term effects could be potentially bad as well (ie. the bullied in Billy Madison, etc.) but for the mostpart children will learn to grow and learn more about themselves and the world.

But! I too agree that bullying should not be socially acceptable, it can be dangerous and should be avoided at all costs.

Answer 3

Our public schools foster a social setting which has far more in common with ape society than adult human society. It's incredibly harmful to the kids who get bullied. Anyone who says differently has got to be rationalizing. It's shameful that anyone would support bullying as a means to "help kids grow," when all evidence shows that it does exactly the opposite, stunting the bullied child's emotional and social development.

Answer 4

Bullying is not acceptable. It does not help children grow in the manner they should. It is a negative force. If anything it teaches hate. I just wish all the children who are bullied would learn to stand up fro themselves and if a fight is the answer they should be taught that they are most likely going to lose that fight but they should be taught to get in that one good punch to where that bully will soon not forget how it hurt. He will back down the next time.

Answer 5

well, it IS part of the world because it happens at every level of society...in every society.

I'm a teacher and usually the kids that get bullied on a regular basis deserve it. No one ever says that because its not very PC. But the kids getting bullied on a regular basis by many different people are usually ***-holes. As a teacher, I see and i stop it and I defend the kid getting bullied because I have to detach myself from the problems of children. But I certainly understand what's happening.

Now there are some kids that are always bullies. That's different. Those kids are probably tyring to fit in and dont' know how to do it. OR they are having home problems of diverging types.

It doesn't matter what the cause or the effects are... Bullying has always happened and it will probably always happen. So we either learn to deal with it or we let it take us over.

Answer 6

Because saying that is easier than actually dealing with the problem (which would require them to find the bullies and prove that they're doing what they're doing and then punish them).

Then there's the fact that a lot of adults are themselves bullies, including some of those in power, and many of the others think that it 'builds character'.

Ignorance of evidence is also a major part.

Answer 7

I guess the people who told you that bullying is acceptable are still very animal with their survival of the fittest mentality.

If I am not mistaken, humans have evolved to be able to control their primal urges, however, I guess there are still some caveman types out there. Fasinate them with fire.

Answer 8

I don't think it should be, but I'm sure that the people who say that would justify it by saying it "prepares kids for the real world" and "teaches them about adversity" and a whole bunch of other bullshit that really isn't relevent because kids can learn that without having their lives made a misserable hell.

Answer 9

In my opinion bullying does non of these things and is a highly unacceptable form of behaviour. I have no idea where you have heard his but it sounds more like the words people use when they are frightened of being bullied themselves.

Answer 10

Thats a stupid statement. I don't tolerate bullies. I never did as a kid either, one time I'd tell them off and they never bothered me. I don't expect my kids to have to put up with it either. Kids are not bullies like in the old days, they will actually kill you.