Do you ever worry...?

Question

...that the next real bad thing to happen to you you're just going to snap? Like completely lose your mind? I'm talking something really tragic like losing the love of your life etc...

Answer 1

Our emotions relate to all of our other emotions. We cannot possibly function any either way. Attitude is that relationship that connects our emotions. It is a polar function of our emotional capacity to love and hate. Our thought process may be as follows:

I love to go to the movies => I hate the traffic going to movies => Outcome.

The outcome can be one of two things. I can either go to the movies- have a poor attitude while going there- and potentially put myself in a bad mood throughout the film. Or I can not go to the movies- avoiding the traffic- but potentially put myself in a bad mood because I didn’t get to see the film.

This example is a simple illustration of a topic that could fill libraries: our emotions are complex. How we feel about something is not independent of how we feel about something else. It is because of this that one small and seemingly benign event can “ruin your day”. It wasn’t the event that ruined your day; it is what you tell yourself about that event- and the ensuing attitude about it- that ruined your day.

So, attitude is a gateway between emotions. Picture your emotional spectrum as a busy office, with people bustling around doing there jobs. Attitude is the phone calls, emails, conversations, and text messages to all of those workers. It is the connection our emotions have to each other. It is how they communicate. Imagine in this office that a worker faces a challenge at work. With his communications, his challenge affects others, and pretty soon everyone knows and is involved. If he communicates the challenge poorly and makes a bad decision, everyone in the office could be affected. Then the next decision made could be based off the poor decision, and so on. One worker is not independent of the other. And neither are our emotions.

Attitude as an emotional gauge: Because all of our emotions are interconnected through our attitude, it can be a wonderful emotional gauge. As our emotions relate to each other and fluctuate, we give off verbal and non-verbal signs of that relationship. Our attitude. It is apparent in comments, gestures, tone, and appearance. And with those indicators, others notice and make their own judgments, which in turn affect their attitude. So truly, our emotions can be viewed, interpreted, and judged by those around us.

Action => reaction => judgment => attitude => action => reaction… you get the idea

Attitude as a tool: So, how do we break this cycle? How can we take control of our attitude? How can we use our attitude to improve our life?

The answers are easily stated, but take hard work and continuous improvement.

Empathy
Self-talk
Give it away
Practice

Empathy is my key to attitude. It is the ability to step outside of emotion, and view a situation, person, or behavior from another perspective. The key to this ability is delaying judgment until more information is known. Maybe your boss yelled at you, but their attitude is poor because of marriage problems. But without bothering to find out and just getting angry, you have let someone else control your attitude. Instead if you had stepped back and realized it wasn’t you, it was you boss’s personal life, you can judge differently and have a positive attitude.

I believe we all judge. Whether we mean to or not, we all make assumptions + judgments about things around us. And with those judgments come our attitude. So, because eliminating judgment isn’t possible, we can delay and soften the judgment through self-talk.

Self-talk is one of the most important abilities a person can posses. Self-talk is that little voice inside your head. THAT YOU CONTROL. Ultimately, your self talk determines your attitude. And you can control what you tell yourself. Not all the time, but try to- I’m sure you already do. You tell yourself positive things. And negative things. And with those thoughts, with that self-talk, you determine your attitude. So, instead of telling yourself that your boss hates you and you can’t do anything right, tell yourself “wow, my boss is having a rough day; I wonder what I can do to help?” Keep yourself and your attitude out of the picture. Separate yourself from your emotions.

The final part of this process is in what you give away- the “I wonder what I can do to help?” part. I believe firmly that in order to get something, you must give it away. If you’re down- go make someone laugh. If you want love- give someone else your love. I understand this doesn’t work in all cases (seek professional help when necessary), but for everyday problems, it does wonders.

PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE!!!!!!- I think this is pretty self explanatory.

Attitude is something that is tied so closely to every other emotional capacity we posses, its hard to identify and explain. It is something that we can harness, and use as a tool in everyday life. Attitude is what we tell ourselves about our lives- so what do you say?

Answer 2

Sounds like you are worrying about that. Did something happened in which you feel you don't have your normal emotional and psychological reserves?

In my life, I've felt that when I'd just experienced a series of life disappointments. I think it is really important to surround ourselves with people who are emotionally healthy and who have good boundaries that can help us love ourselves through the pain.

Answer 3

Sometimes, but that's very rare. It's not the thing that keeps awake at night. I'll worry about it when it happens, if it happens, and I hope it never will. Don't worry about something that hasn't happened yet, when you don't even know if it's actually ever gonna happen...

Answer 4

Yes but then i see everyone around me, everyone ill ever need my family, my friends and the love of my life and remember there is no point worrying it solves nothing somethings are inevitable so enjoy the good while it lasts :)

Answer 5

if you keep worrying about the bad things in life then your honestly never going to get anywhere in life... you should try to be more positive and not negative ......if you keep being negative then I'm sure you'll have a bad life always being paranoid.....

Answer 6

i be attentive to mine are actually not little angels. We pass throughout the time of the insurrection act each time I leave them some the place in hopes it is going to sink in and that i'm unable to have some majorly embarrassing tale relayed to me as quickly as I %. them up. that's humorous even with the undeniable fact that, my oldest is in a team that has some delusional mum and dad who think of their childrens are desirable. the boys tough living house and that's needless to say the different childrens that start up it. in the event that they could basically watch they could see theirs start up basically as in lots of circumstances through fact the different boys :)

Answer 7

it can! happen to you. when my wife died i felt like every thing was going away from me. for a while i allmost lost my grip. i feel sorry for anyone!! who loses it. i know how easy it can be. believe it or not, my savior was our old dog. he had to have he's walk every day. and we kind of propped each outher up. got through it in the end.

Answer 8

I used to, then lots of bad things happened and i,m still here. 'Tin be irie man , dont worry, waste of time.

Answer 9

Never worry about what might, enjoy what is, life is too short for negativity.

Answer 10

Yes. But I try and block out those thoughts.