An affair.. with a teacher.?

Question

I have a "special relationship" with my teacher, who's 7 years older than me. She was my biology teacher in second year, then we formed some special bonding. We would go out regularly, and would have a fun time. Until, we did have sex. We still go out, now that I'm in my Senior year in HS and she's still a teacher in the High School Department. Problem is, I really don't know what's going to happen between us. She's engaged to somebody. But still, we hold hands, kiss, and would do sensual things. One thing that confuses me more is that we're not really in love, but why are we doing these things? Why would she still be with her fiance even though she spends a lot of time with me? And what is her REAL feeling towards me? Help!

Answer 1

Your teacher needs to be reported to the appropriate authorities because she is most likely breaking the law and is majorly violating the code of ethics that is followed by educators.

Please tell an adult you can trust so that this matter can be dealt with correctly especially as your well being is at stake.

Answer 2

Don't get anxious. Just give an end to the sex relationship and try to keep the "just friends" part of it, just for a short time. Give TIME to yourself keeping a distance from this situation. Many students are falling in love with their teachers, but (young) teachers sometimes are feeling an attraction (physical, mental) to some students, especially in High School. It is something normal and it should be dealt as not important or illegal. There are roles and there are borders and this is something that mainly a teacher has to keep on mind.
So,despite the "not legal" part and the age difference, you are still her student and she is your teacher.
You can't escape these roles and this is unfair for a relationship.
It is simple: imagine yourself as just yourself (X) and her as just (C) forgetting her profession, look into the person. Then you will see what I mean with my poor english (I am not from US).
For me, the saddest of all is that she is more immature than you are in your 17's, so you have to guide yourself and her too.
Give an end to the sexual relationship and retaine your inner balance. There is nothing real in it and nothing (good or bad, I hope) is going to come out of it.
Take action!

Answer 3

For starters, she is seven years old then you. She is using you for sex. You are still a minor and she is an adult. You are in a psedu-relationship because you asking for advice on Yahoo Answers. If you was to become of legal age and you want to extend your relationship with your teacher then questions are going to come out like, "Did you know that you are not suppose to sleep with your teacher?" or "Did you know that teachers are not suppose to sleep with there students?" So that is going to be trouble because you don't want her to go to prison and end her career. In this relationship she is the man because she getting something from you and somebody else. She is engaged and has something to show for it. She can't show your relationship because she will be in big big trouble. Don't you know that when a student sleep with his teacher that it makes headlines. I am pretty sure that in the locker room the guys talk about which they would want to do but you are one who actually did her. You have bragging rights while everyone else (your friends) eagerly want to listen to every detail. Your teacher is in it because it is risky and odds-defying. She wants it both ways. Your in this thing because of the element of surprise. Each time when you do with her it is cheapened because things will come to an end. It was a good ride while it lasted. She spends a lot of time with you because it is easy while an engagement is commitment which is like exercising. That going to a higher level of exclusivity. She is the one that is confused because she can't decide what to do. Here real feelings I believe is that with you there is no challenge. It is like the New England Patriots facing the Houston Texans. There is no challenge for the Patriots, where as with her fiance it is like the New York Yankees versus the Anaheim Angels, which would be the element of challenge. In other words, a relationship is like trying to maintain a house, is is hardwork. 50% of married couples get divorce because marriage is hardwork. You and her is not work because it is easy and that is what you have. However, you want that element of overcoming and being victorious which you and her cannot have.

Answer 4

There is a double syandard in society. If she was a man the same age and you were a girl the same age, then she would have been in jail now and never allowed to teach Biology again. She is taking advantage of you. Having a license to teach does not give anyone common sense.

Answer 5

First off, your teacher is breaking the law, what you are both doing, is infatuation ... lust for lack of a better word. She could lose her job over this, and possibly do jail time. Maybe its the thrill for her doing this with you and getting away with it, I really do hope you can move forward from this, its an awful position she has put you in.

Answer 6

No one could ever answer why you and your partner is doing your thing. No one can read your mind or your teacher's mind. It is only you who can answer your questions.

However a guidance counsellor may help. I suspect your case is codepency, that is you and your teacher are doing it to meet each others need. She meets your need, you satisfy hers. If I were you I am going to see a counsellor who can help you diagnose the problem.

And, it would be better to stop your fling because your are fiddling with disaster

Answer 7

she likes having her cake and eating it too. she is with her fiance because do u know the trouble she would be in if found out. she can be arrested and jailed and never be able to teach again. she sticks with the fiance to throw people offtrack. she is so wrong to take advantage of u give her up and find someone your own age this will lead to nothing but trouble good luck

Answer 8

I'm a teacher and I could never imagine doing anything with any one of my students....even though it is first, third and fourth grades....still....a student is a student. No line should ever be crossed!

Answer 9

first of all not only is it immorale for a teacher to do that , if you are in high school it is also illeagal. basically she raped you. if you care about her at all, quit seeing her and never ever say anything about it again.

Answer 10

Biology?