Should i go without sex rest of my life? Should i go seeking sexworkers (i dont like exploited sex).?Should i divorce her, continue to pay all her and kids expenses but try to remarry? should i seek another woman (dont think it is easy!)while continuing status quo with present family? I love her and my family but I want to enjoy life too.. what are my options?
2007-09-08 03:41:03 · 27 answers · asked by kumar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your options are what you want them to be. But, if you married this woman for better or worse, when did it stop for you? Think about it, what if the shoe was on the other foot and you was in her place would you appreciate it if she felt this way? If you truly love this woman why would you ask this? After she is gone then live your life with sex, there are other ways of fullfilling your needs by yourself. She needs you now more than ever.
2007-09-08 03:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 12⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to my wife. Rather than ask a bunch of anoynomous people who have no vested interest in your well being, ask the person YOU chose to spend the rest of your life with. Chances are you will make more progress talking to her then waiting for a brilliant answer here. Is it the sex? Why would you remarry just for sex? Would you look for a third marriage if something happened to your second that limited or prevented the new wife you have found from having sex? You are running from the problem, not trying to fix it. Either your love is more important or it isnt. I am not trying to diminish the role sex plays in life or in a relationship, but the solutions you pose don't really address the issue.
Good Luck!
2007-09-08 03:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by Tony A 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't believe anybody would judge you in this type of situation. You are only human.
I think you should forget about the sexworkers. You don't want to develop bad habits or get chronically ill yourself.
I think that your situation is very delicate.
Maybe you should try some sort of online dating. It'd be easier to develop a proper friendship on there, while telling a bit about yourself. Then take it from there.
Good luck.
2007-09-08 04:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont go to sex workers and catch AIDS and become chronically ill and die young.
I think you need to find friends so you have something to do after work so you dont focus on sex. It would help if there were some girls also in your friend circle enjoy their company, relax have fun. Go out with friends and do fun things together, sex is not the only things which give happiness.
You need to support your wife because if you were in her place you would expect her to do the same thing for you. She is ill so dont blame for something she is incapable of doing. Talk to your wife and spend time with your wife and relax with friends. You can find lots of things to do with your life which give a lot of happiness besides sex. Stop thinking about how you are losing sex because your wife is sick because this will only aggravate you and frustrate you so take responsibility for your own happiness in your hands and stop blaming your wife because she is sick. if you support your wife during her illness that good feeling will stay with you for the rest of your life.
2007-09-08 10:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by Pramod R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i could communicate with my spouse. extremely than ask a gaggle of anoynomous people who have not have been given any vested pastime on your well being, ask the guy you chosen to spend the the remainder of your existence with. probability is you will make greater progression chatting together with her then waiting for an surprising answer right here. Is it the intercourse? Why could you remarry basically for intercourse? could you seem for a third marriage if some thing exceeded off on your 2d that constrained or prevented the hot spouse you have got here upon from having intercourse? you're working from the concern, not attempting to repair it. the two your love is greater important or it isnt. i'm not attempting to shrink the place intercourse performs in existence or in a courting, however the recommendations you pose do not probable handle the concern. solid good fortune!
2016-10-18 07:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by jeremie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your vows said,in sickness and in health,till death do you part right?.it don't give the option if your partner becomes deathly sick that you can fool around on them.i can only imagine how hard this is for you but think about her.she's sick and can't or don't want sex with you or anyone,she's the one thats got it bad here.you can at least jackoff to where she don't even think about it anymore.i have known of some couples that when their spouse was gravely ill that they talked and made things ok for the other to find a sex partner because they loved them that much and wanted them happy and satisfied even if it meant them having sex with someone else.could be an option maybe to talk and see what she thinks.better that than leaving her when she needs you more than ever now.
2007-09-08 04:18:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
SEX and LOVE are two different issues and in the past, we had a tendency to mingle both; discuss with your half to avoid a break which should be the last resort; one plausible solution is to choose a "spare" agreable to both of you; there is nothing wrong in that; living with a wife without sex must be very painful I think; don't hesitate, go forward!
2007-09-08 06:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by dayapin39 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under these circumstances, feel you are responsble for your own sexual gratification; sure you know how to do that. I'm not making fun or jest; just you vowed to be with her through sickness and health and you can get gratification by yourself. You can still get closeness by hugging, kissing and nuzzling her and all. You really don't need to go outside of your marriage at all. Sure you would want her to be by your side if the roles were reversed.
2007-09-08 04:29:04 · answer #8 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is your wife. You promised her on your wedding day to take care of her through health and sickness. You shouldn't even be thinking about leaving her when she is chronically ill. At times like this, it's not about the money that you give her for her medical bills, nor the money to support the children, but rather YOUR presence there with her and YOUR support to help her go through these difficult times.
Just watch **** and jerk off...!
2007-09-08 04:01:47 · answer #9 · answered by Miiii 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
u love or not is the issue. had i been in ure place i would try to be most with her. i am also very keen about my sex life, but my sexlife is not important to me than my wife and kids. do anything see po rn videos masturbate and satisfy ureself. do everything that needs to be done for the treatment of ure wife. bearing expenses for them is not your only duty. be with her its her bad time and as u r married to her its a mutual bad time. wait for her to recover. give her love and support she will recover fast and u will get all u want from her. dont run away from your responsibilities.
2007-09-08 09:33:15 · answer #10 · answered by yourfreind_forlife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋