She is so mean..she yells at us in the store...she doesnt listen to us when we tell her stuff...shes all about this guy shes talkin to...she even gets mad when we walk into her room cuz she doesnt want us to see her conversations on yahoo and aol...then this random guy calls our house and she starts talkin to him and wants us to leave the room....why does she do this....she doesnt have to sneak around...my dad found somebody else...so if she found a guy why sneak around??
2007-09-08 03:33:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its not that i dnt respect her privacy its just she is always in my business and i never have any privacy...plus if she really wanted her privacy she would actually close her door and not leave it wide open...
2007-09-08 13:06:27 · update #1
i came up with a few posible reasons.
maybe its ur dad and theyre trying to reconcil things and dont wanna tell you incase u get all optimistic and it doesnt work out.
she's having cyber sex / phone sex and doesnt want you in the room.
she's dating someone she's not supposed to like another married man or a friend of her husband etc. some guy who for her to date would be taboo.
She wants to feel young and attractive and her childrebn being in the room could effect her fascade.
or it might be another woman?
or it might not be her boyfriend at all but a drug dealer who she has to preform sexual favours for inorder to get her drugs.
she might be a prostitute and tries to earn extra money, since she doesnt have ur fathers financial support anymore.
these are possible reasons but i think the top 3 are the most plausible. however if it worries you so much confront her and tell her how you feel. she might not know how much her words/actions are effecting you.
well all the best.
2007-09-08 03:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mom is uncomfortable having her children know about her personal life (dating, etc.), and it's really none of your business unless the guy becomes a steady influence in her life. I don't know how long your parents have been apart, but your mom may be having trouble getting back into the dating game and she just doesn't need an audience while she is doing it.
You need to learn to respect her privacy (you shouldn't be barging into her room without knocking anyway). And there is no reason for you to be listening to her private phone conversations. You wouldn't like it if she did that to you.
You need to learn to respect your mother's privacy and to get over yourself. You're not the parent here.
2007-09-08 03:41:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write down some notes of things you want to tell your mom. Tell your mom that you have something really important to discuss with her. When she is ready to discuss your issues, sit down in a quite place and calmly and nicely tell her your concerns. Tell her that you think it is ok for her to find someone who she likes. You need to give her privacy to talk with her friends, and don't read over her shoulder. You have to be ready to hear her side of things. The more you talk with each other, the better things will get. God bless.
2007-09-08 03:51:29 · answer #3 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, she shouldn't yell, but how old are you? it sounds like she wants some privacy and for you and your siblings to behave in the store. being a parent ( a single one at that ) is EXHAUSTING work that you can not fathom right now at your age. sounds like you should calmly gather your frustrations and sit down as a family and don't approach her all screamy because you allready know how she will respond to that. it's all in the way you say too. instead of saying "stop yelling at us" say " i hate it when you yell at us because ____________" you and your mom both have issues to work on. try working together not against each other.
2007-09-08 03:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for your mom! She really is a human being and DOES have the right to have a private life that you do NOT have the right to know about. You do not own her. Let her have some space. Every mom and especially every divorced mom NEEDS some time and activities that do not involve her children or responsibility.
2007-09-08 03:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by Indianamom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you should ask her directly, not us. She probably feel awkward cos you guys are around. But it gives her no reason to treat you guys like this. And make it known to her that you guys do not tolerate such a manner from her, even though she's your mum. The next time she embarass you guys, tell her you'll meet her in the car or the entrance, and just walk off.
2007-09-08 03:39:32 · answer #6 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW...
I think she is ashamed to let you kids know that she is on the hunt for a guy. Just give her some space and when the opportunity presents its self, just talk to her and let her know that you love her and understand whats going on in her life.
2007-09-08 03:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by Bear~~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because mothers don't want their kids involved in their relationships until they are sure they like the guy. It prevents the kids from getting attached to a guy that doesn't stick around.
And quite frankly, she's an adult and it's none of your business.
2007-09-08 03:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's worried that her children (you and your siblings) might be worried that she's found someone just to spite your dad. She is also afraid that her children will not be able to accept the fact.
2007-09-08 03:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by Ashlyn Ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried speaking to your mom about this, tell her how you have been feeling, and see what she says, goodluck
2007-09-08 03:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by TRIKER CHICK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋