Hubby has found old friend/pash buddy online.
She flirts, tells him she has "yummy" desserts with male dance partners while her hubby has "frozen dinners" She calls him babe and asks him to chat at 2am (he hasn't).
He met her for brunch at an upmarket cafe and doesn't understand me going psycho as he is being above board and honest.
I have disliked this woman, sight unseen for many, many years.
We have been married over 10 years with 2 lovely kids.
What do I do?
Am I overreacting?
2007-09-08 02:47:52 · 14 answers · asked by Drama Queen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is inappropriate behavior. Your husband should not allow another woman to talk to him that way out of respect for you. They absolutely should NOT be meeting with each other. The past is the past, the ex is the ex. It didn't work out, so both parties should move on. An email just to say "hey, how's it going?" would not be such a terrible thing, but for people who have no respect for others, like this woman has no respect for you, will continue with this crap. Your feelings should come first and foremost. If you are not comfortable with this and have explained this to him, he should stop immediately. It doesn't matter if he "tells" you he is doing it and that does not make it okay and right if you have a problem with it. Explain to him that you would never put him in this position and that you are very disappointed that he is putting this other woman's feelings before yours. Good luck sweetie and stand up for what you feel in your heart is right!!
2007-09-08 05:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by 2008girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not overreacting at all. Just from what you've written, she sounds like a real piece of trash. She obviously has no respect for her own marriage, so why would she have any for yours?? If I were you, I would start going with your husband whenever he sees her, and also.. put an end to the constant "chatting" online. She's obviously wanting more from him than just "friendship" and it would be best to put a stop that that now, before things go too far. I'm not so sure why your husband would even want to chat with a woman like that.. she sounds just plain tacky and disrespectful.
2007-09-08 03:34:42 · answer #2 · answered by arkiegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not overreacting...Your husband is disrespecting you by carrying on with this woman. How would he feel if the shoe were on the other foot? Would he support you going out for brunch with an old friend?
2007-09-08 03:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are overreacting and your husband should be respecting your feelings. Perhaps his ego is being stoked by this woman's attentions. When is the last time you called him babe and flirted with him?
If you tell him to cut contact, he'll just go behind your back.
So you're going to have to live with it.
2007-09-08 02:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess if he wants to chat with her, you can join him for his chats. Hey, you can all be above board and honest together. You can accompany him to his brunches and stay up till 2 a.m. with him. If he's going to insist on a friendship, then you join in. Don't leave him alone with this woman. She's only out for her and what she wants.
2007-09-08 02:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by Kyle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your husband is not attracted to her because he feels they connect on an 'intellectual level' if you know what I mean!! We're not talking about a very classy woman here. She's up to no good that's for sure. I would not approve of this friendship, I would make it clear to him.
2007-09-08 02:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a big problem. In my opinion it was wrong of him to contact her in the first place, especially since he is married to you. She is throwing herself at him and if you don't nip it in the bud now he may end up cheating with her. Maybe you should contact her or atleast threaten to and that wil bring about a change.
2007-09-08 04:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by TELO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's married to you. He gave up his rights to socialize with ex-girlfriends when he said "I do." You absolutely have a right to be upset. Instead of freaking out, explain to him that you appreciate him being upfront and honest about talking to her and seeing her, but ask him to see your point of view. How would he feel if this was you with an ex-boyfriend???
2007-09-08 03:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin' it's called emotional cheating...the Internet is simply another vehicle. Trust has been broken...you have to decide if you can trust your husband again....get some counseling, either together or separate
2007-09-08 02:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband has honest intentions.
She does not.
You are right not to like her.
Chatting on line isn't so bad, meeting...well...perhaps not a good idea.
2007-09-08 02:55:28 · answer #10 · answered by saloon girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋