if a loved one called u and said they were never coming home?

Question

would u immediately assume SUICIDE

IF THEY LEFT AFTER AN ARGUMENT, were gone allday, then called like 12hrs later crying and said--, LOOK AFTER THE KIDS I WONT B COMING HOME

didnt happen to me, but to my sister before, and cos i assumed suicids, my @hole brotherinlaw said i should shutup and mind my own buisness, but if shes depressed cos of him- of course i thought of suicide
by the way- she just went back home- im real worried about her

Answer 1

I would wonder what prompted the situation if I was not aware of it. I'd try to find out where they were and if I could meet them and us talk. I would not immediately assume suicide. There are many other options....simply walk away and never look back. Some people can just close the door if the hurt is deep enough. With reconsideration though and for their children's sake if they have any things may look different after some time.

Answer 2

I would assume such, yes. It sounds like something someone is using for emotional blackmail, though. Oriented to get their way. If they do show up, your best bet is to tell them to pack it in and get some help. They have no need to put another human being through that kind of misery. If they are serious, non, there is nothing you can do but wait. Don't assume that it has anything to do with you because it is a choice THEY made, not you, k.

Answer 3

That is exactly what I would assume, that he was suicidal. I've been through that before.
With my situation, begging didn't work. What did change his mind was saying,
"You know what? That is so selfish. You have kids here that NEED their father. You don't care? You claim you love your kids, but you want to do this? You know what? Fine. Whatever. I love you. I will miss you. But if you wanna do that to your kids, it is ON YOU. Not me."
And then hang up.
Every time, he's been back at my door less than an hour later.

Answer 4

My friends already know my daughter ran away from home when she was 18 and left me a dirty note...
I didn't see her or my new grandson for about 2 years after wards...
I was heartbroken...
Long story short, we see each other now and visit, and I am a granny, but the wedge of dishonesty is still there, and the broken heart has a band aid on it...

Answer 5

I did that many years back..hubs thought i was gone for good.I was parked all day close to a street near our house. It was the love and thoughts of my children that pulled me back home.Otherwise maybe i would have not returned.No, not suicide...too drastic..you come to this world only once .a human being is very sensible when it comes to suicide unless you are not well mentally.

Answer 6

I'd see red flags all over the place. I might assume just what you say, and I'd probably call everyone that person knows to find out what the hmmm is going on.

Answer 7

Sad but it is blackmail. After years of abuse I found the thing to do to give me peace of mind was pack up there clothes. Clean up all traces of them except for a few photos. Get on with my life. Leaving the guilt trips they tried to shove down my throat...for peace of mind and eventually true happiness found ME!

Answer 8

That would be the first thing that I thought of. I would make it a point to get to that person as soon as I could and not leave them alone for awhile until they cooled down. You just never know what someone could do.

Answer 9

Keep an eye on her this sounds like something that you should be very serious about and treat it as such. I would not immediately think of suicide but I would be concerned.

Answer 10

It would depend on their mental history.

If they tend to be overly dramatic I may not get upset for a while.

If they're usually level-headed I would try to contact people they know and try to look for them.