My friend recently died whilst in Tunisia. He was trying to renew his visitor's visa so that he could return to the UK. He died on 30th August just 6 days after flying there from the UK. I miss him so much, my heart is broken. I know that one day my pains will be so that I can bear them, but will I ever get over his death. He was 23.
2007-09-08 02:41:14 · 14 answers · asked by tunisianboy46 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hi dear.
I know you're in a lot of pain now, & many thoughts must be running through your mind. From what you've typed I can see that you were really close to him, & you'd be wondering how this could ever happen to him.
You will get over your friends' death, this I am sure of but there'll always be a place for your friend in your heart. You definitely won't forget him, & each time anyone asks you about death or someone close you'd think about him once again. But don't worry it's only normal cos he was so close to you.
So all I can say is, live life to the fullest cos sometimes you just won't know what will happen the next day.
Take care, God bless.
2007-09-08 02:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by ♥MusiqueEtAmour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,you will never get over it but in time you will learn to live with the loss.. I too had a very good friend who died from cancer at the age of 23 and for a long time i was unable to accept his death..I still think about him and sometimes read the letter his wife sent me breaking the news but what good does it do? Cancer also took my husband from me and i thought i would die,i was so grief stricken but you will get through it and if you need support i can recommend the Samaritans,they are brilliant..xx
2007-09-08 11:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by trish b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over his death given time. The important thing is cherish the time you spent together and remember the good times, not to focus on his death but his life. We all die and when it is our turn all thats left will be peoples memories of us. Really good friends are hard to come by which makes it all the worse when they pass away but there are still alot of great people in this world so there are more friends to be made. Sorry to hear about your friend
2007-09-08 02:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by Aaron Russo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so very sorry for your loss. I know you feel empty inside. I have lost several friends due to early deaths caused by cancer, drunk drivers, and even an aids case.
You will feel better eventually, I promise. Please take this as a life lesson. Life is so very, very precious. Live each day to the fullest, try to be a good person and an asset to your friends and family, and be kind and compassionate toward others. Your friend would not want you to be unhappy, they want you to live your life. So, do that in honor of your lost friend, and know you will see them again someday.
2007-09-08 02:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your friend, it really sucks. I to lost my best friend, five years ago now, we were more like sisters having grown up together. I KNOW it really hurts, your friends are your chosen family.
Bereavement is hard, and long, but each day it does get a little less painful, trust me, you still miss them, you always will, but I guess you learn to live with it?
And now, as I hit the big 6O, I find I still talk to her, more in my mind, especially when I get a bad day, I get cross with myself, and thank God that I made it, and guess what she would say about it, and LIVE the life for BOTH of us now. I know that is what I would want for her, and know its what she would want for me. Hang in there, its a long journey, but well worth it - x
2007-09-08 03:33:25 · answer #5 · answered by SUPER-GLITCH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes--- believe it or not you will with time ,the amount of time will vary from person to person. One way is to remember the good times you had the fun things they / you did.Talk about him and his life with family and friends .Put a nice picture of him up on the wall as this is a way not to forget them.
Sadly death comes to us all and fond memories are all we have left.
2007-09-08 04:26:58 · answer #6 · answered by kevinmccleanblack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about your lost, I lost my teacher two years ago she was so help full to me in every way and she is so strong but when she got cancer she was so sad and I could not tell her anything so after her death I could not forget all the things that we did together and I know that she is all was live in me so just give time to your self just let him go don’t give in to the pain just let it go.
2007-09-08 03:20:29 · answer #7 · answered by ima 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes u will get over it and move on....i know it hurt like hell the now,but things do get beta beleive me.
I lost my nephew 6 yrs ago to cancer and i thought i'd never gt over that and i did,but there never goes a day by that i think of him.....He'll always been in ur thoughts((hugs)) Tcxx
2007-09-08 02:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends what you mean by 'get over'. You have already answered your own question by saying that the pains will, in time, be bearable, but as to whether you will ever forget then from your tone, the probably not.... but would you want to?
2007-09-08 02:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by eriverpipe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
losingv ppl is hard and it hurts alot,
but 1 day u will get over it and just think about the good times u had with him, u can laugh again about the crazy stuff u both did
and dont 4get, we dont lose the ppl we love when they die, they will always be in our hearts
2007-09-08 02:48:37 · answer #10 · answered by natascha_maas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋