one of my bestfriends told me that i should open up coz she knows that i have a problem that makes me sad yet im still pretending that i dont have one,well...what she said was true,the problem is that i just want her to trust me that everythings gonna be fine...i just dont want her to worry...i dont know if im afraid to open up or im just pretending to be strong...got any advice?
2007-09-08 02:22:27 · 7 answers · asked by bUrN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
pipol..my problem is that im in love with her...
2007-09-08 02:57:17 · update #1
that reason why im sad is because i dont know how to tell her...not because i love her...^^
2007-09-08 03:01:10 · update #2
By keeping everything locked inside, it just makes it worse. Iv been there. trust me.. you should talk to a close friend about your problems regularly, they will be happy to listen if they are true friends. And then you will feel much lighter and cheerful because a huge load would have been lifted off your shoulders. Even i realise that by sharing my problems.. everyone helps out and soon its all back to normal again! good luck =]
EDIT:
You're in love with her? Okay.. heres my solution.. if you decide to tell her you could be putting your friendship on risk . are you willing to spoil your friendship? Im in love with my best guy mate. I told him about it. His very understanding and told me that he treated me like his sister and hadn't thought of being more than close friends. I was happy with that because were very close now and tell each other everything. This is a decision you need to make yourself because it is you that would loose out if things went wrong! good luck =D
2007-09-08 02:26:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well prentending u are strong is not true. Just because your afraid to open up does not mean your not strong. Needing people does not mean your aren't strong.I am a single mom that takes care of a home and a child.I don't ask anyone for money.But I do ask for advise and I tell people that are close to me my problems. I am a very strong person and I hear it alot. If u really want to be close to this person then they have to get to know the real u. The only way that is going to happen is if u tell her how u feel. Plus it sounds like that is what she is trying to get u to do. So that means she cares. You need to take a chance and tell her how u feel.Look at it like this.You won't die and maybe something good will come out of it.Good luck
2007-09-08 09:33:51 · answer #2 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to be strong, then you have a problem that is bothering you. You want her not to worry, but how can she if she is a true friend, and is worried about what is making you unhappy. What ever the problem you need to address it as soon as possible, or it will be a virus that will eat and eat until it will consume you. If talk will help, then talk to someone, if it is something that takes some action then get some action going.
2007-09-08 09:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't tell your friend the problem she is going to stop asking and give up on you really, it will weaken the relationship you have with her, be honest, but as i do if i want to say something to my best friend but i dont want her to go nuts i will text her and make her promise to me she will stay calm and that she wont hate me for what i want to say, if she can't make that promise i simply refuse to tell her
2007-09-08 10:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, what you should do is bottle up all your emotions, and use them to fuel newfound rage and cynicism. Opening up just makes you look weak. Never show weakness, just dominate the ones that do.
2007-09-08 09:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by Jamaal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you should open up to those who are close to you or who ever you want to open up to. Do it privately if you don't want anyone to know about it.
2007-09-08 09:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by Taciturnity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iic
2007-09-08 09:26:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋