wants me to use it to buy a house so he can renovate it and then we split it 60/40 (as in he gets 40% profit and I get 60%). Anyway he earns money now in a full time building job but earns crappy money and says my inheritance money is the only way for him to lose his current crappy job and get a 'proper job with proper money' and says as my partner i should be discussing the inheritance money with him and am selfish if i just wan t to put int in a savings account!!! I think thats rude its my money i can do what i want not what he wants and he says 'but we are partners' but thats funny, as we have been together and where is the marriage and kids i have been wanting?? I am 26. Is he using me?
2007-09-08 01:39:23 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes he is using you! He sees $ signs floating around his head and thinks it will get him into a better life. As for your relationship, it's already messed up. You wanted a permanent situation, he wanted a back door. He got what he wanted. Now he's offering you another temporary situation while he still has yet another back door. How many chances will you give him to do the right thing? I would take this $ and move out! He offered you a possible increase on your income with himself as the beneficiary. Get out, go to school (nursing is big right now) get yourself in a position to help yourself, then you can pick and chose a guy worthy of a relationship. Or continue with "back door Charlie" here. If you go with Mr. back door, don't cry when your $'s disappear because he doesn't know the first thing about renovations!
2007-09-08 02:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that he is using you so much as wanting you to spend the money on something he is interested in. He said you were partners I bet since he found out about the money that word has come in very handy for him. He is manipulating you with the partner talk. Like you said where is the marriage if your partners. I think he would prefer a business arrangement at this point not a wife. Whatever you decide it is yours not his, he may have to keep his crappy job for a minute, don't be surprised if he pops the question out of desperation also, you are not selfish. And if he gets to nasty about things you do or will have enough money to move away from him. This money should not destroy a strong relationship, but make it stronger if you love each other enough.
2007-09-08 03:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by blackpearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that he is using you for your "money" but I do think that he doesn't have much rights to tell you how to spend it. If you feel that you should put it in the bank for your future then do so. He says he wants out of his "crappy" job, and supposably you are the only one that can help with your money. Don't listen to that. He can easily find another job/career and he would have to do it if you two weren't together. Buying a home, and fixing it up to sell it for more money isn't something that you should do as a "career." Keep that in mind, if that is the only reason he gives to spend your money. Granted, if you were married then you could make the decision to flip the house...but since you have no "strong" ties to the man, I wouldn't give in to his assumptions. And I certainly wouldnt bring up marriage, because he would try to marry you just to get his way. If he hasn't asked you yet, and you have been together for more than 2 or 3 years, then i would just assume that he is "having other plans" with your money. =[ Take Care and goodluck to you! <3 Tab
2007-09-08 02:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by jzbebegyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is only thinking about himself, Cassie, not you, all his 'plans' are about what's good for him, you are not in the equation. Your instincts are right.
I guarantee you the moment you tell him to get out he will suddenly become so loving and caring and swearing eternal love. None of it is true it is borne out of fear that he might not get what HE wants.
You want marriage and kids and that's great, but he's not the guy to deliver, as hard as it is cut your losses, you cannot finsd the right guy while your still clinging to hope with him.
One of my sadnesses about women is you seem to find it so easy to fall in love and it blinds you to reality. He's got a crappy job because of his failings, if he ahd any get up and go, he would have doen something about it now and even the 60/40 doesn't make financial sense for you, all you would end up doing is getting your money back and he would make all the profit.
Tell him it s a good idea, but you will employ him to renovate the house and take all the profit, see how that goes down! Good luck Cassie
2007-09-08 03:18:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to make money online is by learning affiliation marketing. Here you can find a lot of useful information to start making money from today http://moneyonline.toptips.org
It's everything free! I have been doing that method and I am earning good money now.
Good luck!
2014-09-28 10:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. You are not responsible for getting him a proper job. That's his responsibility. Unless you are engaged to be married (with a wedding planned) the money is none of his business. You are not a bank. If he wants to buy a house and fix it up for profit, there are many ways that he can get financing for the purchase and repairs. He is looking for easy money, where he doesnt have to have the responsibility of paying the money back. Sounds like he needs to grow up and be a man.
2007-09-08 01:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by julie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is using you.
Because of his status in your relationship (he's just a boyfriend and not a husband), he is not in a position to discuss any money matters with you.
If this is a substantial inheritance, get advice from a professional financial advisor on how to use this money best. Savings account is not a good investment.
If he was in love with you, he would fix that house for you for free and would never demand his "share". Get rid of his worthless a*ss/
2007-09-08 01:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by OC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run away as fast you can. This guy is not too be trusted if he's already looking for your money. RUN AWAY now! He' will steal and rob you blind. Trust me.
You are NOT partners in any sense of the word.
If you get the money before you split up... you make sure it's hidden in an account that he knows nothing about. Talk to people you trust, get a very good financial adviser and invest your money in mutual funds, or safe investments for yourself. do NOT allow this jacka$$ to get his hands on so much as a penny! BE SMART!
2007-09-08 01:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by teritaur 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it unless you have control of this business deal.This is a business deal and its your money so if you do not have the ability and experience to make this investment work,don't get involved with it.Remember once you hand over the money to him its under his control and you have no say in the matter.If you want to go into a business make sure that you have the expertise to run that business yourself.He has no right to insist on you giving him any money for any reason.
2007-09-08 03:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by Julius C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he isnt offering you anything in return. and just because hes your partner doesnt mean sh#t. if you even think about coming close to doing this ,talk to a lawyer and make sure that you put the house in your name,you buy it. then tell him as far as what goes on the inside for repairs will be you matching him dollar for dollar .that you want the reciets on all purchases or you wont pay your half. go into it as a bussiness deal with someone you know nothing about. i would put half of the money in the bank and only put forth the other half only,period.if you choose to do it. if not tell him this is for your future ,not his.
2007-09-08 02:02:12 · answer #10 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋