I am 26 almost 27, and i have been with my fiance' for 10 yrs, and we share 2 kids and I have just lost my desire to have sex anymore. I don't want any kind of sex, but the odd thing is I am still attracted to him! When we first met we had sex like 3-4 times a day, and now he thinks we should have it at least 3-4 times a week. I don't agree with this and it is ruining our relationship. I just don't want any sex, and that's how I feel! I don't consider myself selfish but rather concerned with if he can still love me and we never have sex anymore. We have been through a lot and have made it work this far, so I hope me not wanting sex any more won't affect our relationship, but it is headed that way! I am sad and I would like to try to get help, like I said, he is still very attractive to me, I just don't get turned on anymore! Please help...... anyone!
2007-09-08 01:07:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
see a doctor and let him refer to to someone specialised in the field
think of it this way
if your hubby loved you
and wanted you three or four times a day
then suddenly doesnt want you anymore
wouldnt you be hurt confused or worse
the question you have to ask yourself
is WHY
WHY dont you want to have sex
are you phycially tired ?
are you stressed ?
is sex becoming routine ?
perhaps you both need a lil more
romance ?
Intimacy is one of the three foundations
of a good realtionship
and if you say you have a good one
then its best to work at it
wP
2007-09-08 01:21:02 · answer #1 · answered by Warriorpoet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it or he's going to start looking elsewhere.
I have 6 kids and my hubby & I have sex every other day at least! I look forward to it. If you're having trouble with geting into it, use some lube or try something new. There are men on here asking questions ALL THE TIME that say
"My wife doesn't want to have sex and I am thinking about an affair"
You better do it or there will be some 20 year old where he works ready to give it to him...
It is UNFAIR to ask anyone to live in a sexless marriage and be faithful.
If you love him, you will get yourself together and do what you need to do!!!!!
Get it together!
2007-09-08 15:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say it but a relationship with no sex is probably not gonna work. If he is a normal man he is going to have sexual needs and if you cannot provide that for him he will probably look elsewhere for it. I don't know how open your relationship is but you could always allow him to have casual sex with someone else if you are open to that sorta thing. But asking him to never have sex again because you don't want to anymore is alot to ask. I think you better have a good talk about it with him and hopefully you can come up with a solution that will work for both of you.
2007-09-08 01:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by MrsMystic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a hormonal imbalance. I (although I'm a male) had lost interest in sex about the same age. After several years and nearly losing my wife, I finally got checked out and found I needed hormone replacement. Since then I'm back to normal and everything is great!
Hope this helps!
2007-09-08 01:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by Bear~~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes having sex too much can cause this. Or maybe you are stressed out or something.
I remember seeing posters in the hospitals and clinics: Is your medical condition affecting your love life:
-smoking
-diabetes
-stress
-etc
Don't worry, after not having sex for a while, the desire will return.......or check if you have those medical conditions....
I heard that fragrances can stimulate people sometimes.....
2007-09-08 01:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
c in the beginning u had 3 to 4 times.
its become a habit.
now at 27 ,this being the prime age u should go for 5 to 6 times.
try to eat better food & take health tonics and be with ur love.
reduce ur work if u r over burdened,but don't dissapoint ur love and u also enjoy, after all for a few moments and for few years.
c if u don't cooperate he will divert.
2007-09-08 01:16:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If one wants sex and the other doesn't that is going to affect your relationship. If you think that it is something you're not ever going to want to have again (or rarely) you should talk to him about it. At that point he can decide if he can live without it. One or both of you will have to compromise or the relationship will not last long.
2007-09-08 01:17:00 · answer #7 · answered by majestic_fool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are the adult males in many cases ineffective to a women or do they nonetheless have a objective? ~~~ women might might desire to pay for his or her very own fcuking dinners! in all probability starve. Having toddlers is their 'objective' in existence' All else is 'entertainment'!
2016-12-13 03:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by kieck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could have a chemical imbalance and need to see a doctor. if you dont ,then you know how men are and he wont keep going without it.have you tried new things ? is he trying to please you more then himself ? does he still try to make you feel attractive and desired ? is he romantic ? these can all play into it too. if everything else is ok then go to a doctor before he cheats and then you end up hating him for the rest of your life. havent you ever noticed that men never lose their desire but woman do. they can go on and on and on.
2007-09-08 01:19:45 · answer #9 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to see a doctor and find out if there is a medical cause of your problem... Lack of sex IS going to end your relationship...
2007-09-08 01:13:30 · answer #10 · answered by MC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋