Im married without any love.I work all the time to stay away from home.I started helping an older couple with mowing thier lawn for free.They seem to be hinting around about thier daughter.Im about to divorce my wife.I have tried to do everything to save my marrage but nothing has changed.Thies people have offered to let me stay at thier house rent free.My problem is that Im 50 and the daughter is 22,very cute,very shy.and always seem to show up when Im around and always smiles at me.Should I go for it?
2007-09-08 00:34:53 · 16 answers · asked by Robert K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get marriage counseling and forget this 22 year old girl!
2007-09-08 00:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by j b 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is every 50-year-old guy's fantasy, but I wouldn't recommend going for it - you don't have enough in common, and she's going to be interested in significantly younger, hotter guys; it's only natural. And if she's very cute, they'll be very interested in her.
The couple may not be trying to throw you hints at all; just enjoy talking about their daughter. Or they may be getting senile, or it may be wishful thinking on your part.
The daughter may seem to show up when you're around, because you're around there a lot and she also helps out her parents a lot. And when you see someone you know, or even a stranger on the street, smiles are often exchanged; it's common courtesy.
If you just can't let this go, let her make the first overt move. But I just don't recommend it. Very few people make a success of things with age differences of even 15 or 20 years. I suppose there's nothing wrong with making friends and going out for coffee or lunch or something, but I don't think romantic involvement is a good move, given your intentions and marital/emotional status.
2007-09-08 07:50:01 · answer #2 · answered by Bill F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get real - NO you shouldn't "go for it".
Don't know why that couple (her parents) would even suggest such a thing - or is it wishful thinking on your part?
You made choices with your life, and UNTIL you get your mess sorted out, don't drag that "very shy" girl into it. You won't fix anything by having an affair with her, and you will probably hurt her in the process. Get your divorce, sort out the mess, and only when you are free and clear, look at another relationship.
That's what you should do, if your any kind of honorable man.
2007-09-08 07:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Robert I would say from what you wrote that you are in the midst of a mid life crisis, my advice is you better walk very carefully. Are you 100% sure you are ready to toss your wife aside? Is it going to bother you when SHE finds her a new guy who wants to be with her all the time and thinks she is great? I can't imagine what older couple would willingly hand over their 22 year old daughter to a 50 year old! I smile at everyone! That is being friendly NOT a comeon. I think you are daydreaming too much. You may not know what you have got til it is gone.Also when your 22 yr old hits her prime in 10 years are you going to be able to handle that at 60? or maybe what goes around comes around?
2007-09-08 07:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by jade_2011 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
50... 22? Hmmm... unless you are ready for another failed relationship. More than likely there is nothing this girl can offer you in the form of a romantic relationship. Companionship? sure. She is probably smiling at you because she is a polite young lady. And she always shows up when you are there, because hey -- she lives there. Thats too much of an age gap, and if her parents are pushing her on you, thats really quite wierd in itself.
Get yourself settled emotionally from the divorce with your wife, and see where that leaves you before you go meddlin' with someone half your age.
2007-09-08 07:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by Jewls 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not as long as you are still married.When you have filed for a divorce,and are no longer living with (same house) your wife.Not until,why drag her into your mess.Your wife could name her as a reason for the divorce.I don't know about the age difference.You are old enough to be her father.You could be getting yourself into a real mess.Why is this very cute 22 year old wanting to date a 50 yr. old man?Is there something wrong with her?Better find out more about her before jumping off and dating some one that age.
2007-09-08 07:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should not go for this young girl, she could be your very own daughter! Think about that! try couple therapy. If that doesn't work out, divorce your wife. You'll find somebody that you'll love and spend the rest of your life with soon, I most sincerely hope.
2007-09-08 07:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those "if you need to ask, then the answer is no" moments. You sound like an adolescent and you clearly do not have any adult friends other than this elderly couple who know you are married and now they want to push their poor daughter off on you and you on her. This sounds phony but if not, put your effort into your marriage and quit only when you have made a full effort.
2007-09-08 07:41:43 · answer #8 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
okay you shouldnt go for it (atleast not right now)... as cute as she may be to you it wouldnt be right, thats almost a 30 year diffrence! but if you do "go for it" get to know her first find common interests in eachother... you might not wanna jump on it i mean your about to get divorced! I would tho take the offer to stay at there house so you can get to know her better plus it is free!! best of luckâ¥
2007-09-08 07:42:25 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no...even if something started with her, how long you think it'll last? she's 22 and shy or not, a 22yr old doesn't want to be tied down to someone old enough to be daddy.
try moving on with another woman that might be better suited for you:)
blessings and luck to you
2007-09-08 07:47:42 · answer #10 · answered by bishop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋