Whom to chose?

Question

im with my boyfriend for 2 yrs now and were getting stronger and steady everyday... my problem is i have this coworker who im also dating, he's someone whom i can say my type... at first were like friends but as time goes our feeling grows more deeper and we know we feel the same way...


he care for me more, i can say im happier with him
even if i am with my bf i always think of him...

but i don't wanna break up with my boyfriend cause im not so sure if my coworker feeling is true( i know its true but i just wanna be sure....)

i love my bf and i cant seem to let go of him and the memories shared...
but i want him and i don't wanna regret it in the future if i wont chose him cause i know we have the spark....

i know what i feel and what im doing is wrong thats why please help me guys whom to chose

guyz!! i dont wanna be a cheater cuz i know how it feels to be cheated... thats y i wanna chose!! i dont wanna hurt them in d future if i would continue loving them both thats y im asking for advices....

Answer 1

Sounds like you are a user. You know that you like your co-worker more than your bf but you want to make sure. Well, girl sorry to say there are times that when you want everything, you will have nothing.. If you really treasure what you and your bf have then avoid this co-worker. But if you love this co -worker more than your bf then take a risk, you will never know unless you try. If it doesnt work then face the consiquences. Good luck!
one thing is.... you cannot have everything.
in life there is always a failure to be a better person.

Answer 2

Okay... you do realize that you're using your current bf as a back-up, right?
Now, you're into this new guy - exciting, new 'relationship'. But since you already had the steadiness for the past 2 year with your bf - you don't really want to lose that, too (have you ever NOT with a guy? Maybe have attachment issue there ?).
Lose your bf - obviously (even though you said you do...) you don't care for him enough if you start and choose to be in a relationship with another person. And using him as a back-up just simply v. selfish on your part.
If your new guy doesn't really care for you then - he's not - just like you don't really care about your bf - Some people call it karma :). If he actually do care for you then... you got lucky (that's the better scenario, right)

Answer 3

first off may i say that your not sounding like someone whom i would want my son to be with. does your coworker know that you have a b/f ? if so, this could be a problem..... most people in the dating scene love a challenge and when the coworker learns that you broke up with your b/f he may not be as interested in you as he was when you 2 were just practicing, so to speak. it happens all the time. once the chase is over so is the thrill. i think your better off staying with the one your sure loves you not to mention you love him.
i dont however think your being fare to your b/f. he deserves to make a choice now aswell, does he want to stay with you knowing that you are not faithful? you should stop looking to replace him or break up and be single so when you see a spark you'll know it wasn't your wrath back firing !!!
good luck.

Answer 4

Pick who is in your heart. The one u think of all the time. But your not sure if your coworker feelings is true. You better find out. Seem like to me that you are only keeping bf around until your coworker tells you how he feels. Set your bf free…

Answer 5

well first of all you shouldn't be cheating on your bf and obviously there is something missing in your current relationship if you have been able to find something elsewhere, so you and your bf need to sit down and discuss what both of you guys want in a relationship and be completely honest. lay all of your cards on the table because the longer you and your co-worker keep dating the messier and more confusing it gonna get. another thing i don't generally recommend office romances but i know things happen. you just have to have some serious conversations with your bf and with self, to find out what really makes you happy and what you won't settle for. ~*~ MsThaiSmith~*~

Answer 6

Darlin', you aren't ready for a long-term or permanent relationship with either of them.

If you were you would be sure what you want. Best advice I can give you is to keep it fun, be honest with both guys and don't expect too much or lead them to expect too much.

The right guy for you hasn't come along yet.

Answer 7

You need to leave them both alone, if the feelings you have for either one of them were real you wouldn't be asking yourself any of these questions. You WONT have to talk your self into it, You WONT question or weigh the pros's and con's of each guy. You WILL know it when it happens and there wont be any questions about who you feel what for......

Answer 8

my suggestion is be true to yourself you have already know who is better you have already been with for 2 yrs and you really already know that he loves you very much and your co-worker you have only just known him for a while it does'nt mean he has already shown his true colors. but it does not mean you follow me just be true to your heart and be ready to face whatever is in front of you so just be true and i know you are already a mature person because your already old enough.That's All God Bless

Answer 9

Go to a lonely place (may be bedroom or toilet), cool ur breathe. Sit down, close ur eyes and see who comes in front of your eyes. He is the one right in ur heart and it would be good to go for him.

Answer 10

That is a good question
Ask your self, why did you start to date the new guy?