If I am enclosing an RSVP card in my invitation, should I also mention on the invitation to RSVP by a certain date, or just let the RSVP card speak for itself?
2007-09-07 19:04:50 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You really should put a date they should respond by on the RSVP card, otherwise people will just ignore them all together. As far as mentioning it on the actual invitation, that isn't necessary.
Congrats on your upcoming nuptials.
2007-09-07 19:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what the correct etiquette is, but I would mention on the invitation what the deadline is to RSVP because you need to know how people are coming and stuff by a certain date and not at the last minute, so . . .
As far as I can recall, every wedding invitation I've ever been given or seen has that information on the invitation.
2007-09-07 19:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by Florida Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should list the RSVP date on the RSVP card. That is the point of the RSVP card. I would also suggest listing your RSVP date as about one to two weeks before you actually need a firm guest count. I know from my experience, there were several people who didn't sent the RSVP card within the week after they were supposed to have, or didn't send it at all. I spent that extra week calling people that I hadn't heard from to see if they were coming or not.
2007-09-08 03:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by elizabethgmims 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am assuming this person was invited to both the wedding and the reception. If this is the case, it is perfectly acceptable to say, RSVP by [date]
The purpose of this is so that you will know how many people to order food for. Your caterer has to know how many people approximately will be at the reception in order to have enough food and beverages. Also, it saves you having to buy more than you need.
If you haven't had an rsvp by that date, cross them off your list, or call and ask if there is any chance they forgot to return the card. Explain your dilemna.
Good luck to you and congratulations to your lucky fiance
2007-09-07 19:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recently received an invitation to a wedding for two friends and they did put a date on the RSVP card. It makes sense if you need a count for the caterer. Most people would understand I think.
2007-09-07 19:14:52 · answer #5 · answered by smilegal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to go out and buy something, fine, but it isn't neccesary, or expected. A thank you card isn't necesarily appropriate. Hallmark makes cards with no writing inside, you could do that. . Or if you have some nice note cards, or stationary, use that. Just write Mr. and Mrs. John Smith will be pleased to accept the invitation, two adults will be attending. Write out the full names of the people who will be attending, and indicate the total number. Often, someone in the wedding helps out with RSVPs, and may not know who Jim and Sue are, so put your last name[s] on the inside, too. Have fun at the wedding!
2016-04-03 10:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since rsvp cards aren't traditional, there isn't really any traditional format. Put whatever you want on them. However, I think you are going to be disappointed in the results. People who ignore the "RSVP" in the lower right of the invitation are also going to ignore the cunning little card, no matter how much you've gone to the trouble and expense of stamping and addressing it for them. And those who DO bother to fill it out and send are likely to do so in ways you did not anticipate, such as penning in "6 guests", when the question was "2, 1, or 0?"
My advice is to skip the costly, but mostly useless, things altogether and put a phone number below RSVP on the invitation. Doing RSVP by phone gives you more opportunity to assert control of your guest list AND an opportunity for guests to ask "What gift would you like?" Not to mention the savings on printing and postage.
You didn't ask, but please invite everyone by name, even children. Sloppy wording like "and guest" or "and family" carries its own punishment, especially where free champagne is involved. You can (but are not obliged to) ask singles "Is there someone special you'd like me to invite?" Consider how different this is from the "Bring a date if you can scrounge one up" implications of "and guest."
2007-09-08 01:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should put a date on the RSVP only. "Kindly RSVP before January 20th" is fine. Otherwise people may think they dont need to RSVP if they are not coming. And even so, there are always a few who cant put the RSVP in the mail for some reason!
2007-09-07 22:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all congratulations!!!! In our own personal experience we included the RSVP in the wedding invitation. It saves time. It saves stamps. Be practical good thinking.
But in our experience we invited some very old couple. and when they returned the RSVP they put zero on the number of people who will attend. So we had to call them and clarify. And sure enough they did not understand the RSVP. They were the only one whom did not understood the RSVP. Goodluck, best wishes!
2007-09-07 19:24:12 · answer #9 · answered by darkvadershield35 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I suggest make everything clear to avoid "I wish I have done that"- line of thinking later. Add RSVP by a certain date because some people take things for granted and has the tendency to be complacent.
2007-09-07 19:20:17 · answer #10 · answered by still 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋