Ok, so I've been talking to this girl. we recently met in person, but now our only contact is through e-mail. We get on to talk late night nearly everyday for 45 minutes or so tops. Anyway, we both play hard to get, but im more naturally sensitive than her. Anyway, it got bad tonight because I called her annoying. I was teasing, but she took it seriously and then I was like "i'll make it up by taking you out on a date." and she said "heck no! I'm gonna pass pal" (which was a turn-off) and then I proceeded to be a little "rude" by saying that she can take it or leave it. She then got upset and said I was being annoying. Anyway, the night ended OK but I still feel there is some odd tension. Now, is she really upset about it or is she trying to get attention? She knows im more sensitive but I'm trying to not come off as a pushover to her. Anyway, should I make a genuine apology tomorrow or sunday? Should I do it at all? And if so should I wait a few days? Help a bro out
2007-09-07 18:21:20 · 10 answers · asked by wblack528 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why did you call her annoying,
is she really annoying or is it something you didn't mean to say.
If she is annoying then forget her, if you messed up then apologize.
2007-09-07 18:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all.. if youve only seen eachother in person once, then you probably don't know her as well as you think, therefore how do u know that you really care about her and want a relationship with her? You never really know a person until you hang out with them more then a couple times.. believe me, I'm a girl, and ive met some guys and been txting them alot, and think i really like them, but then when we actually meet in person, and im with them a little bit, i found out tht there not exactly who i thought they were... this girl probably likes you, but doesnt want to be unfaithful to her bf. i say keep in touch with her, but lay off the flirting.. it kindof puts her in an akward position.. hope this helped (: good luck
2016-04-03 10:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, apologize. The sooner the better. And in the future be more careful about joking that is done when not in person. It's much harder (impossible?) to read people's faces and body language when you cannot see them, or even hear their voices.
You might say, I'm sorry. I have been enjoying our conversations and I'd like to do something in person. Make it a casual activity. Daytime. Not a romantic type date.
2007-09-07 18:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by treebird 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apologize and let her know sometimes you open your mouth and stupid stuff comes out! LOL I have a "friend" who does that to me and I think he really likes me then he will say something like that and it makes me wonder and upsets me. He always says "Im just picking" but I take it as a personal insult. By the way, are you black? Is that a black guy thing? My guy says he is all sensitive and stuff but wont share anything with me and then insults me and acts like he doesnt mean it. What is up with that?? Email me and let me know if you know!!!! LOL
2007-09-07 18:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well that depends when she's not used to being called like that.. she might have been really upset or hurt when you told her she was annoying.. if you're really interested in her, woo her and apologize and be careful next time not to offend her... if you're annoyed, tell her in a very constructive way.. since your means of communication is virtual, its harder to tell whether a person is serious or just joking..
anyway, you're still the master of the situation-- i hope you could do well and fix it...
keep us posted about it, okay?
ajahajah!!!
2007-09-07 18:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by yeoreum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well--since it seems that you two really don't know each other it seems like she is frusterated.
The bad part about online is that pixels are horrible at showing emotions...so, in my opinon writing her a email with a clear and blunt title, explaining your side of last night's experince , would be the best bet.
Good luck.
2007-09-07 18:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why be so sensitive with her ? there is no reason for you to play hard to get and tease in a way because of your own doubts and fear... tell her that your sorry for the way that you acted but in all honesty don't expect her to be all about you because she probably wont be after this, you acted semi rude and no girl wants a guy who acts like that period...
2007-09-07 18:32:39 · answer #7 · answered by I Heart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you kind of did the right thing by telling her take it of leave it. be straight up with her. dont apologize because you didnt do anything wrong. next time you talk to her, tell her that you are interested and that you want to take her out for a real date. if she says no then let her know you dont need anymore friends. remember if you get stuck in the "friend zone" youll be there forever.
********PS DONT LISTEN TO WOMEN FOR YOUR ANSWER. MOST OF THEM LIKE THE ATTENTION THAT GUYS GIVE THEM BUT REFUSE TO KNOWLEDGE THE REAL REASON THEY ARE GETTING IT....IF YOU WANT TO HOOK UP WITH HER TELL HER SO...BE A MAN
2007-09-07 18:32:47 · answer #8 · answered by madcaprex 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do u really like her/ do wat u need to do to get her back..beg her ..play romantic..tell her ur sorry and that u want to start all over again..sound sincere..dont wait for few more days...time makes the wall higher..its just a matter of pride..goodluck bro
2007-09-07 18:31:08 · answer #9 · answered by arnz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is funny, thanks for the laugh, your already fighting like an old married couple. lol. she will get over it, dont worry about it, if you two didnt break up over it, then calm down. dont dwell over it, then you will just stress yourself out.
2007-09-07 18:31:06 · answer #10 · answered by jen w 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋