Why do men...?

Question

...build you up to let you down. I can't count how many guys act like they're so nice and great then they disappear in a flash? It would be one thing if they didn't treat you right to begin with, but why do they have to act like they're the nicest guys in the world before they end up like creeps? They say they are simple creatures but they aren't. Sleep with them too early, they don't like it, wait too long, they sleep with other people. Tell you everythng you wait to hear, then bail like cowardly bastards. Men are the strong ones? Please! Why are they always coming up with some excuse to run away? They want a good woman, but get scared? Ladies, help me out. Men don't make enough sense and are therefore incapable of shedding light on this subject.

Answer 1

Classic examples of Hit and Run. Try on the glove before you buy it.you can kind of prevent this, be up front and honest, communicate your needs and what you're not going to stand for right up front,by communicating you let him know what your views and feelings are. if he can't respect that,if he does not agree with you.MOVE ON.

Men and women are always on a different page because there is a serious lack of communication.

When he starts building you up, being nice, DON"T GIVE IN play the game.

Be Strong and don't take no crap.

Answer 2

It's obvious. Guys are unpredictable and we can't really change that. The way they act and why they do is just another one of God's mysteries. The best way that girls can really deal with it is by either figuring out how the guy they meet rolls, or just not believe every word the guy tells you. It's hard to know whether or not a guy means what he says, so the best thing you can really do is take the compliment but don't put too much belief into it.

Answer 3

Guys are unique, just like women. They are not all weird and they don't all behave strangely. But many of them do and most of the time it's probably not on purpose to confuse or hurt you. They are confused and they are not good at recognizing or describing their feelings. I do not know whatever gave you the idea that men are the strong ones. That only applies to physical strength. Muscle-power. In every other way women are stronger. They are healthier. More male babies die than female starting at the time of conception. About 130 male embryos are conceived for every 100 female, but by birth there are only about 106 males for every 100 females. There are many, many more diseases that disable or kill males than females, due to the missing genes on their tiny y chromosome. Men are more emotionally devastated by relationship break ups than women. Men aren't stronger in any way but muscle-power. The men who run away may want good women, but they either don't want you, or they don't want someone now. And they generally have no clue how to leave a relationship appropriately. So they make a mess of it. The ones who run away like that are not usually worth worrying about. Find one of the good ones. I have it on good authority that there are at least three left and you only need one!

Answer 4

Why do men act nice....to get what they want
Sleep with them too early.....you're now too easy and they can't introduce you to their mothers.
There are many many mannnnny guys like the way you describe but it all boils down to the question if women have anything to do with it as well? Honestly when I start to date a new guy...i always think of the worse coz it would just get better from there....I even offered one guy a one night stand with no attachment....he turned me down and told me he wanted more out of me (now my fiance).

I always think men like children on Christmas Day....getting all excited because of their new toy, show them off to their friends, sleeps with them, keep them dirt free....after two weeks....toy just sitting with the rest of the old toys.

It all comes down to commitment. Forever is too long and it scares me sometimes too. The difference is I live through it one day at a time, with men quitting is easier.

Answer 5

Sounds like you've been attracted to alot of creepos.. Not all guys are like that.. But, when it comes down to sleeping or not with them, you do what you want and not just what you think will make them happy to keep them.. Alot of younger guys just want fun and no commitments..Imature, or whatever..I've been told that men are not by nature monogamus..Women crack the whip to try and tame them.. Some can never be.. It's just the nature of the beast.. Look for a really nice guy and good luck..

Answer 6

Wiplash kinda makes a point about coming back for more. It fits in with the idea of girls getting played but want 'good guys', but they never date good guys because they want the tough guy who just don't give a f---.

But for a real answer, you have to have a defense mechanism put up. If a guy leaves you because you won't sleep with him, then he's not worth it is he? Don't be desperate, just move on. Remember guys play games. Try dating a type of guy you normally wouldn't date. Next time your out with friends and you see the 'smooth and sexy' guys that you normally date, ignore them and grab that guy who's just chatting with a few friends, that might not even bother because he thinks your after those 'smooth and sexy' ones.

Reason I suggest this is obviously your targeting the same type of guy everytime you go out.

Answer 7

men will always be men- i refer that to both male and female. mind you, real courtship always starts when you say yes to a guy. if, you give your all... they would gladly accept the opportunity until you bore them. you have to put some limitations to his wants in you... keep some mysteries... don't lay down all the cards as you will be at the losing end. there should be negotiations... no dictates. true love exists with time under one roof... under different situations through thick and thin until you both grow wrinkles and gray hairs together. there is no true love in a boy-girl relationship... its more of "i lust for you"... for love is when both accepts, trusts, respect the other for his/her strengths and weaknesses tested by time. not even with 25 or 30 years of marriage a guarantee that men won't look for another...

Answer 8

You can never wait too long to sleep with someone who you are not committed to. They run the okie-doke by you to get you into bed. I always say, if we women would take more time to earn respect, we can get to the places we want to be.

Of course, if you want to sleep with one "too early" that is your choice but know what to expect. Don't be disappointed when they bail. If they bail before you are ready to sleep with them, then they aren't the ones you want to be bothered with anyway.

Answer 9

If you will allow one of the "simple creatures" to toss an oar in here...In your case, it would appear that males you meet are outclassed...We menfolk have to be in control and stronger than our women because we're supposed to be the dominant species (cough)...And if someone like you comes along, we freak...Whoa nelly!...Not what I bargained for, not what is supposed to happen...You could come up with any number of reasons as to why we behave this way and they would be valid...So, in being strong, we often show how weak we are.

You have very high standards for yourself and for any man you meet...Hold true to yourself and that one special guy will present himself to you and fulfill your expectations (and desires)

All the best

Answer 10

honey, i think the problem is that u sleep with them and all they really want is to hit it and leave it. don't do that, don't sleep around. be strong and the best guy out there will see that a woman of moral value is the one to keep. the ones that leave coz they didn't get some are the ones not worth your time