I want to be able to be more natural in conversation, because I'm always tense and I have to think over my words three times to make sure I won't offend anyone. I'm always worried about what people who don't even notice me will think of me, I'm extremely tense ALL the time, I can't even have a normal conversation with my friends anymore because I have to think and think over what I'm about to say.
I'm overtly analytical, and while sometimes this is a good trait, it's getting in the way of even speaking sometimes. I don't trust anyone at face value and I'm continuously worried over little things that will never happen.
I think WAY too much about things that might happen and it stops me from being spontaneous or, well, fun.
I want to be more comfortable, relaxed in public, when speaking, even when I'm just thinking. Is there any way?
2007-09-07 17:18:53 · 6 answers · asked by Hailey 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Realize that everyone makes mistakes and stop being so afraid of offending people. As long as you are quick with a sincere apology if you do say something out of turn, most people worth knowing will forgive you. Unless you are the president of a country etc. I would not think quite so much before I spoke. People are more likely to think you are not interested in conversation with them if it takes you a min. literally to think before every sentence or response to them.
2007-09-07 17:27:25 · answer #1 · answered by mama29 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look into Lao Tzu and Taoism. That may be good for you. Studying the Tao can be very relaxing, and can help you relax even in a tight situation.
2007-09-07 17:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by justin schwan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honestly it may just be your personality - some people are just like that - it probably isn't that anything is wrong with you at all. you sound a lot like me. I'm tense around people I don't know also, but once I get to know people I'm fine.
2007-09-07 17:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by art_flood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try yoga, meditation, hypnosis and positive thinking
there is a relaxation tape available online at
http://www.hypnosis-kids.com/downloads/exphypno.mp3
when you go to deeply relaxed state, reprogram your mind to work in a way that you like.
2007-09-07 18:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by yes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-09-07 17:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddhism will be good for you.
2007-09-07 17:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by Aeonis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋