I say all kinds of things that are offensive when I'm around friends. I'll do almost anything to get a laugh. The thing is afterwards I wonder what people really think of me and that I'm not a nice person. I feel bad about it. I'm so spontaneous and I say things I dont mean and a lot of sarcastic things that can be taken the wrong way. I worry I'm not a good person.
2007-09-07 17:16:59 · 13 answers · asked by sspence966 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
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2007-09-07 18:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying offensive things around friends, especially if they're the butt of the joke, doesn't exactly allow you to come across as a nice person, even if you aren't really bad. Personally, I think they'll appreciate you more if you change your image to that of a nice, caring friend, who cracks the occasional non-offensive joke, than if you're a funny guy whom they laugh with in public but detest in private.
2007-09-07 17:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jonnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it hard to be around people who make offensive comments, even if the comments are not directed to my group. Last night, even, I went to a party where one of the guests was incredibly negative toward people who were from a different state, etc. Then many of the people at the party started talking about one young man they knew and making fun of him. I was very uncomfortable, and left the party earlier than I normally would because I found the negative atmosphere depressing. It's possible to be funny and not make fun of people. Being uplifting is so much more attractive.
2007-09-08 12:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I make offensive jokes all the time. The thing is my friends are my friends because they like me the way I am. They know what to expect out of me and so they aren't usually offended. They know that if I say something to hurt them that I don't meant it and that if they told me I will honestly apologize. It's all in good fun.
2007-09-07 17:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by Reaper_666 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 23:07:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be tactful even when you are cracking a joke. Someone around might be offended. it is a good joke when everybody laughs at your joke but not at the cost of anyone in the group.
2007-09-07 17:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it means you might be a little insensitive to your audience and you might be a little short on self-control. You're probably a good person who just needs to practice at not trying to hard to get everyone to like you. Not everyone will...it's the hallmark of maturity to accept this.
2007-09-07 19:09:57 · answer #7 · answered by betternher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure your friends know you pretty well and if they thought you wernt a nice person i would say they wouldnt be your friend 4 very long.........so if you are losing friends then you might say your not a nice person.
2007-09-07 17:58:20 · answer #8 · answered by queeny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are times that ur jokes really offend people.. to u its just a joke but to them is irritating and offensive... aren't u aware of this??? and aren't u aware that ur just making a fool of urself to others...??? making u the laughing stock??? i think u better change ur attitude...
2007-09-07 17:27:29 · answer #9 · answered by zykoe1208 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naaa, you're just insecure. We'll see you on Dr. Phil with your divorced wife at some point in your future. :-)
2007-09-07 17:41:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't mean you're not a good person. I just means you're rude - insensitive and overall insecure.
2007-09-07 17:35:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋