whenever i am nervous i get very hyper and end up embarrassing myself, and whenever i am around my crush i get nervous and make a fool of myself...
how can I calm down enough to seem normal?
2007-09-07 17:03:18 · 30 answers · asked by miss addicted 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen to yourself when you talk. Breath slowly. Practice in front of a mirror at night. Find ways to build confidence in yourself (nice clothes, jewelry, ect)
You're emmbarrasessed because you're afraid of looking stupid...so if you don't look stupid, no need to be embarrassed right? ;]
2007-09-07 17:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by Sara For Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay off the sugar a bit =). If that's not the case, do something you've always done (an activity) that you're familiar with - maybe swimming or something. Get as much time alone without getting too bored. While you're doing that, try and predict what people might say or act, and prepare some kind of answer or a sense of mind that you can stay in to control yourself. Listen to music by yourself or talk to just one person at a time.
Although, I think people might enjoy your hyperactivity more.
2007-09-08 00:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone once said that the best way to get over a crush is to get to know the person--warts and all. Why not see this person as a person instead of a god/goddess? Deep breathing, relaxation, slowing down, and meditation also help to keep you calm, aware, focused, and poised--i.e. cool. Positive self-affirmations can also help boost your self-esteem or alter your self-concept. If and when you can get a hold of yourself, your crush will stand a chance of becoming a friend--or more. Hope this helps.
2007-09-08 00:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by Indi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Embarrassing yourself is not a bad thing to do, but if you are confident to what you do it won't happen. Before you start to act you better think that you will do it good. Thought to your self that you are good enough. If people think that you weird forgive them. To calm yourself, don't talk to much. Speak like usual, but clear. Don't mix up your words. when you get nervous, your brain is out off control, so breath in and out slowly and think of your good memory or smile. Good luck!
2007-09-08 00:22:59 · answer #4 · answered by dana T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am hyper also in those situations. What I find works is getting to know more about the person. The more you interact the calmer you will become. Usually we put more importance on things than other people do. In other words, it probably doesn't bother anyone but you. You are probably all right just the way you are.
2007-09-08 00:11:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of someone who may act the way you wish you did. Whether it be someone who is fictional on tv or someone you know in reality. Relax and remember, that you are as good as the person you are trying to pursue. Don't talk alot or try to get alot of attention. Be coy. Lots of guys like girls who aren't so chatty and hyper. Mystery is one thing guys can't get enough of. Pretend your not all that interested and give off the vibe that he should be interested in you. Focus on your appearance and think out what you say before it comes out wrong.
2007-09-08 00:12:05 · answer #6 · answered by lzcffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just practice.
Talk to lots of guys. More importantly learn to be comfortable making a "fool" out of yourself. You might be surprised to find that no one else sees it that way.
Embarrassment is something that you control. Learn to take it head on. It's a mindset that will do you immeasurable good in the future.
Ever hear the one about the two kids dropping the lunch trays? Illustrates it perfectly.
2007-09-08 00:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey don't worry about it.. I think alot of people do the same as you... Its easy to be nervous around someone you really like... If you want to not be so nervous.. Just try to think more positively and be more confident in yourself... Tell Yourself that your a really great person and that guys will love to be talking to you... Anyhow.. my point is just to not be so nervous theres no reason to .. and just have fun The guy you have a crush is probally nervous being around you too cause you so hot ! ... :)
2007-09-08 00:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When in this situation, Try saying in your mind "there is no reason to be nervous" over and over again, usually calms me down.
2007-09-08 00:06:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough one, there is this one police officer that I liked before meeting my boyfriend and he makes me soo nervous to the point that when I see him I become a total clutz. He came to my job one day and I nearly messed up my whole workstation. Papers fell, pencils fell, folders, office supplies, and I nearly fell.I can't wait to see what others have to say in regards to your question because I want to know myself.
2007-09-08 00:08:17 · answer #10 · answered by Survivor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋