my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 3 and a half months. I always seem like im more dedicated to him..i get him presents for no reason (which he loses!) i make him cookies till 1 am (which he forgets about and throughs away later) i call him in the morning just to say hav a nice day ill think about u every minute! wen it was our 2 month aniversary, i told him i was in love with him, and he never said anything back....
we kinda fight alot bc hes so bad with his words and im really into expressing myself through words...we started talking on aim and we started getting into this fight and all of the sudden hes like "well sorry i dont think were gunna get married or somthing!!" i though that was extremly mean so we got into a bigger fight and he singed off.
i called him and told him we needed a break and he said he really didnt think we should, but i insisted bc i was so mad about him hurting me all the time.
2007-09-07 16:29:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the next few days we didnt talk and i realized taking a break wasnt wut i wanted...but wen i tried talking to him about it, he said i wan to stay on it longer, i have to think about stuff...and i said "wut do u hav to think about? if u want to break up with me, do it sooner than later!!" he said he didnt want to break up with me...and that he wanted to see how much he liked me...i said i was still confused wen he was the one who DIDNT want the break in the first place...he answered me with "just let me do this!!!i dont keep a daily journal on my feelings so stop analyzing this!!" theres no time limit, ill take as long as it feels right"
i really dont know what to do, we dont talk even tho he says he still wants to "be friends while were on our break and i asked him if he wanted to see other girls and he said no"
im just so confused and feed up and as much as im mad about him acting like an 8th grader, wen i think bout how happy i feel wen i look at him, i cant imagine breaking up
2007-09-07 16:29:56 · update #1
You dump him and move on with your life. Don't let him have that kind of control over you . He's just jerking you around.
Find someone who appreciates you.
2007-09-07 16:33:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both sound young and definitely not ready for something more serious than dating. He's made himself very clear in the fact that he needs a "break" from your relationship. There's nothing wrong with a boyfriend needing time for himself and for being with the guys. All guys need, and deserve "time out" like that. But when his "time out" is over he should want to be back with his girlfriend. By the way, time out usually happens once ever week or two. You also need to know that guys don't do the "talking" thing. Words don't come easy to them but actions do. His actions have shown you that you that he wants to move on. You should consider the same. I'm not saying it'll be easy, matters of the heart never are, but you need to see things for how they are and know that you will be okay because you are a woman and women are strong!!
2007-09-07 23:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by Country 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't ask you to do all those things. Doing them and then being mad that it isn't reciprocated is your problem and is wrong. You shouldn't do nice things to get something in return.
You cannot have a 2 month anniversary. The word anniversary means yearly.
You sound way too young to be thinking about marriage and pressuring your boyfriend into a relationship he doesn't want.
You need to figure out why you are so clingy and needy.
And it's spelled "Help" not "Halp".
2007-09-07 23:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well hun you have to ask yourself a ? what do you deserve,do you need someone to make you feel as important as you try to make them feel.you deserve the best and nothing less .you deserve little things that says i love you or really care for you just as you do them.im sure you dont want to only feel half loved and when you said i love you and got no answer that right there should have been a heads up for you. we all go through life caring for people but its the people who deserve it that makes the difference and he dont deserve you just think someone out there is feeling the way you are and wanting exactly what you want from him but he is not givin it to you..i understand you love him but he sounds like a jerk your self worth is everything show him you dont need him. because you really dont
2007-09-07 23:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes very confused right now. Give him some space to think and he will realize he loves you. If not, you have to talk to him and make him listen that you love him and that if he doesn't you just have to move on. I know it's hard to let go but You will thank yourself.
2007-09-07 23:34:05 · answer #5 · answered by WishIHadLighterSkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he might have another girl in the works. I'd say leave him and move on with doing your own thing. Your still young and have your whole life to find the one man who you can spend your life with. Good luck
2007-09-07 23:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by bigpoppapun33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a good person but he does not appreciate you. You don't need this kind of person in your life, he isn't satisfing to you in this relationship. Let this guy go, you deserve better. You don't need someone in your life that hurts you, come on, be good to yourself and dump him.
2007-09-07 23:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by *sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you messed up saying you wanted a break when you truly didnt. He took it that way and now that he feels it's a good idea, there's not much you can do except wait.
2007-09-07 23:34:42 · answer #8 · answered by Juvenile3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think your made for each otheer. you want more than he can or will give. your affectionate obvisouly hes not. i think you should stay on a permanent break and find your match. sounds like your both playing 8th grade games. let it go and go seperate ways.
2007-09-07 23:35:24 · answer #9 · answered by Fran J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he causes that much trouble, dump him. Dump him in a strict, clear, firm, way so that the breakup is clear to him. A relationship means being with a person that likes you like their own skin. Trust me, most bf/gf relationships do not last cause they are not taken seriously. Find another guy who is SURE that he likes you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-07 23:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋