i have been dating Justin for 2 years now, and he has always always always been the absoulte perfect boyfriend, the other day he got frustrated all at once because of all of these little, very minor things that he just keeps in side and all bottled up. He told me he wanted a break becasue he needs to figure out how to deal with his frustration but he keeps telling me that I am his soulmate and I am the one and he is not donig this because he doesnt love me, because he loves me very very much, and he says he just needs to clear his head...I feel so heartbroken! He said we will for sure get back together, HE IS THE LOVE OF MY LIFE!! but whyyy is he doing this to me if he loves me so much?!!?
2007-09-07 16:02:42 · 21 answers · asked by asdfghjkl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He does love you! I used to absolutely refuse to date guys for a while because I knew that I was depressed and I had some personal issues I needed to sort out before I took the risk of dumping all my issues on someone I love. I think that's what your boyfriend is doing to you. He wants to make sure that he doesn't hurt you, so he's taking care of his problems first.
Things'll work out!
Best wishes!
2007-09-07 16:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by blueJay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really great answers guys and girls. I also think he's probably found a new love interest. It would be best if he told you the truth, as horribly painful as it would be, it is best never to keep a person suspended and full of questions the way he is doing you.
You should go ahead and put him on the grill. Roast it out of him. It is your right, and you have a life to live with or without him. He is showing you a complete lack of respect, by causing you to plan your life around him either coming back or not.
It is a very, very cruel thing to do, and if he has some sort of personal issues, if he really and sincerely loves you, he will share those things with you openly and honestly, because you are his "soulmate" right?
Love is all about complete trust, and unconditional respect. I am mad at him now, and I wish I could rattle some sense into him. Your love for him is obvious, and I think it took a lot of guts for you to start asking people to give you some outside perspectives.
I'm really sorry for what you're going through. I've been there, and I think most everyone else has too.
It would probably be best for you to begin preparing yourself for the worst, and to start the process of getting on with your life without him. It really sucks, but YOU are the most important person here, not him.
You just buck up, and without showing too much emotion, tell him to go do whatever it is he feels he needs to do, and you will do the same.
Then go into your bedroom and cry him out of your life. Good things will come to you. Faster than you know.
HUG!
Nad
2007-09-07 16:24:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't usually break up with a person because they love him. People who love each other work through problems together, even if it's just one of them that seems to have the problem. They support each other. Could be that he isn't seeing the relationship working but he doesn't realize this exactly or doesn't want to hurt you. Or he might still really love you but feel that he wants to work these things out without hurting you and so he's telling you the truth. I know this doesn't help you too much, but it could go either way.
2007-09-07 16:12:30 · answer #3 · answered by Rockit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm going through the same exact thing right now. My advice to you would be if you love him, give him a chance to get his mind right and then see if things change for the better in your relationship. I wouldn't give him too much time because it is a possibility that he could be wasting your time and you don't need that right now.If you see that he's taking too long to make his decision he's probably scared to break up with you and if that's the case you don't need someone like that anyway! RIDE IT OUT AND SEE WHERE IT TAKES YOU BUT DON'T RIDE FOR TOO LONG...GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-07 16:19:51 · answer #4 · answered by Darilyn K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two were going to be getting back together, then what is the point of breaking up for a short period of time????? That makes no sense to me. There may be something else behind this, or he just might want to be single for a while. Let him have his space, and dont pressure him about wanting to be back together...there is an old quote that reminds me of your situation..."If you love someone, let them go. If they come back to you, it was meant to be, but if they dont, their love was never yours to begin with." Think about it!
2007-09-07 16:09:48 · answer #5 · answered by Miss MotoX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but it sounds like an excuse to me. Ive been in a relationship for 3 years now and I know how it is. If he says he needs to clear his head then leave him alone for a few days and see how he reacts. Put him on the backburner. He'll realize what hes doing.
2007-09-07 16:07:00 · answer #6 · answered by boser89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's seems like another version of the "It's not you It's me" but to be honest i think it's best that you two went your different ways because if he gets upset with the little things than one day he might get to Angry and take it out on you either verbally or physically so its probably for the better
Good luck Hun
2007-09-07 16:13:32 · answer #7 · answered by christina bedingfield 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry, but i think that he is takeing this time off to see if he can survive without you, because he hasnt been single for 2 years. maybe he misses it. Just prove to him that you are there for him, and tell him that this is hurting you. Also about how you dont understand why he would do this to you if he loved you. i mean why couldnt he just talk out his problems with you? it doesnt make sense. i think he wants to break up, but doesnt want to make you feel bad.
2007-09-07 16:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just needs some space right now, just let him have it, keep a distance, but be there for him if he is having issues that are bothering him that you may not know about. It doesnt sound like he wants out, just give him some space. and don't think of it as what he is doing to you, he isn't trying to hurt you.
2007-09-07 16:09:37 · answer #9 · answered by Count Chocula 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does love you, he just needs some space to think and get his life straightened out. If you two have been together for two years already then yeah it will work out you just have to give him a little bit of space to clear his head.
2007-09-07 16:08:40 · answer #10 · answered by jimmysgrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋