OK well her boyfriends kid is annoying! were in the same grade and now im not popular because of her! She copys me like on my school description i said i love wwe skateboarding and stuff she said the same thing! she follows me, she does watever i do and i dont wanna say You Know your Annoying So Plz Stop because last time i made her cry!!! its getting outta hand shes just not getting the point!!! AND SHES SLEEPING IN MY ROOM WEARING MY MAKE UP AND IM VERY ANNOYED PLZ HELP!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-07 15:53:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to tell this girl these words exactly: "I am very flattered that you like to do things with me, but I belive that people need their own space sometimes. I think we should spend some time alone."
You should also ask your mom if your boyfriend's daughter and your mom could go makeup shopping together so she doesn't use your makeup. Make sure she gets her own little makeup box or something. Sharing can spread infections. (Don't be surprised if she buys the same brands and colors as you... at least for awhile.)
Then, you (yes, YOU) and your mother need to teach her how to put it on. Maybe if you just give this girl a tiny bit of attention each day, she will feel loved and bother you less.
If she still copies you, you need to say "Once again, I am very flattered that you like to do things with me. But I am my own person, and you are your own person, and I think it would be best if we spent a little less time together to develop our own personalities."
This girl obviously wants attention. Think this: maybe she doesn't see her mother that often and is looking for another person to look up to. If you are older or about the same age as her, this is most likely what she is doing. Give a little time to her each day... just smile at her when you see her in the school hallways, and if she tries to stop you say "I'd love to talk, but i have to get to class. See you later!" That see you later is important... it makes her feel like you would like to talk to her but can't.
And, if all else fails: have your mother talk to her.
I'm not saying lie to her and pretend you like her; just put up with her.
Good luck and God bless,
newsiesno1
2007-09-07 16:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by newsiesno1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may have heard the expression, "Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery". She obviously looks up to you. You are a role model for her. Try changing your perspective and seeing things through her eyes. Has she ever had a female role model? Does she have any friends?
Try becoming a friend to her or a sister instead of seeing her as an annoyance. Set some boundaries with her. If you don't want her to use your makeup, ask her to not use it. You can get your point across without being mean and making her cry. It's all in how you word things. Tell her you'd like to spend some time with her but you also need some time to yourself.
If you're not popular because of her is it really because of her or is it because of how you're acting? If people don't want to be your friends because this girl hangs out with you, do you really want people like that as friends in the first place? Maybe she's doing you a favor.
Be polite but be direct. Don't wait for her to get the point. Tell her what you like and don't like. Ask her why she does some of the things she does. If you try to communicate with her directly, person to person instead of annoyed to annoyance, you may find she's actually a likable person.
2007-09-07 23:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is the time that you sit down with your mother calmly, and I emphasize calmly. Explain to her that you are happy that she is happy with her boyfriend, but her decision to move in together was not your choice, but hers. Your space should not be invaded by someone who was raised differently in a different home. You two should also be in different school rooms. Most schools separate members of the same household. Have your mother request this. Finally, your property is yours. Your mother would not appreciate finding this girl in HER room, using Her things! Whatever you do, don't get into a screamfest with mom. If you feel you are losing control, excuse yourself, get a grip, and return when you're calm again. Most young people lose the attention and respect of their parents when they want to confront with drama, instead of a calm adult conversation. Good Luck! I've been there, only it was a new wife with 2 daughters. Still close to one, can't stand the other.
2007-09-07 23:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl P 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So are you saying you were popular before she was copying you?
If you had such great friends, why would they abandon you because of this poor, lonely girl?
She is trying very hard to fit in and it's not working. Can you make her your project? Find out what she likes. If she doesn't know, then help her to figure it out.
Tell your mom that this girl needs to get her own makeup. Go shopping with her and help her pick out makeup that would look on her and not on you.
See if she's interested in activities at school like chorus or something like that. Then tell her to ask her father if she can join.
Is this her first year at your school? How would you feel if you didn't know anyone and the person you DID know treated you badly?
Show a little compassion and give her a little help.
Do unto her as you would like someone to do to you if YOU were in her situation.
2007-09-07 23:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by autimom 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
They say imitation is the sincerest form of flattery... She probably really admires you and wants to be like you. You should be flattered, not so annoyed. She should have her own likes and dislikes though, and perhaps when she gains more confidence she'll be able to express herself better. In the mean time, be nice to her, and encourage her to pursue her own interests. By the way, I don't think her copying you would make you unpopular. Don't blame her for that, since people are sure to see you as separate individual from her.
2007-09-07 23:00:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
You can talk to your mom and let her no how you feel. It sounds like the girl is lonely and needs a friend. Have you try ed to be a friend to her? You can explain to her that some times people need there own space. Be kind to her, she might turn out to be a good friend. Patches.
2007-09-07 23:07:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be flattered that she thinks so much of you that she wants to be just like you! However, as you say that is annoying. Instead of telling her not to copy you (negative) try encouraging her to be her own person (positive). Make her aware that we are all different, with different strengths and weaknesses. She should find her strong points and maximize them.
2007-09-07 22:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by 88 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Tell your mother to
She is not a teenager and she does NOT want to date teenagers... it is against the law! She is embarrassing to behold in your makeup and clothes.
Take up a collection to GIVE her a gift certificate for a makeover... make her look mature and pretty.
Are there any other single dads among your friends' families that you could introduce her to?
You will either be popular or unpopular on your own. Be your own best self and don't worry about the little snot.
2007-09-07 23:03:11 · answer #8 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Hmm...i think the kid is quite ok...but it just wanted to follow u because she thinks u are good. Why don't u just tell the kid that stop doing what i am doing in a nice tone...if that does not work, you can tell your mother or ask your mother to tell her...
2007-09-07 22:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
sit her down and talk to her. If you are uncomfortable, then she is invading some space of yours. Just be honest about how you feel, don't be mean, just say how you feel when she acts that way.
2007-09-07 22:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by zonkflower 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋