Okay, 2 months ago i met this guy who goes to a military academy so he's in the army. At first we just had a sexual relationship, because i knew he was leaving his school is 1'000 miles away i tried not to get my emotions envolved, but then he told me right before he left he really started to care about me and wanted to keep his feelings for me and stay in contact. I also really started to care about him i still do, we im each other just about every nite and talk on the phone once a week, so what i'am asking is should i keep my strong feelings for him, i want to but i'am scared of getting hurt like he will forget me in time since he's so far away cause thats something he,s use to leaving the people he care's about. I'am a real caring woman and i would really love to care for this man, but i want to know if ya'll think from what i 'am saying on here if this man really cares for me, but being in the army he cant go to far..
2007-09-07 15:45:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
He is in the military, but not actively serving... yet. Someday, however, he will be, and most likely overseas. If you want to stay with him, you have to accept that fact.
You say that you "would really love to care for this man," but in order to deal with the separation, you have to care for him now. He gets less time off on holidays than his civilian counterparts, and much less time off in the summer, so you wouldn't see him much. Service academies aren't like any other schools in the nation.
Understand, he has friends there that will be his friends for a lifetime. They all will have/are having experiences that other people who don't go to a service academy just don't understand. His closest friends will be/are his classmates at the academy. It might be frustrating to relate to him at times.
This is not to say that no relationships work out when one partner is at a military academy, far away. The ones that work out are the strongest, however. Please don't think I'm being harsh on you; I have seen these types of long-distance relationships and have seen how hard it is on the academy-end.
I would keep in contact with him, talk to him on the phone more often than IM (it's more personal to talk to him by phone). Or, even better, hand write him letters. If you two really, truly care for one another, than you will discover that through correspondence. In this situation, don't try to force anything. Let it happen, if it's meant to be. But realize that it will take a lot of work, more so than other relationships, not only because of the distance, but the added stress of a military academy/military service as well.
Good luck!
2007-09-07 18:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he TOLD you he was in the Army, he's a LIAR. If YOU think just going to a MILITARY SCHOOL makes you in the military, YOU'RE mistaken.
The only MILITARY ACADEMY is WEST POINT (of course, before someone goes ballistic and points out that the NAVAL ACADEMY and AIR FORCE ACADEMY are military academies) where when you graduate you'll be a SECOND LIEUTENANT in the Army. Military schools are just fancy private schools with a military bent.
2007-09-07 19:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by AmericanPatriot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well daisy, Life is a risk and you have to make choices. You proably should not be sexual involved with anyone unless both people feel strongly about each other. But don't know you age or his so my best guess ia just let it go. by the way M.A. is not the Military.
2007-09-07 17:19:49 · answer #3 · answered by Ragnar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Military Academy ? thats not really the military, well if he is in the army he is probably lied to you about wanting you as the one, he has other ladies that he tells the same thing to. your just one of the many . think about this guys travels to lots of places with the opportunity to screw many different women without being caught. this guy is probably playing you
2007-09-09 01:17:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is hard! do you wanna take a chance. it does not matter if he close or far if its meant to be it will be. and if it isn't it wont. distance will not affect it if you two are really in love it will only strength your relationship. but the best thing to do is pray about it!!! ask the lord to keep your hearts together and if so then there you go. if not god has something better for you!! but good luck and remember that no matter what love is hard!!!
2007-09-07 15:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he is going to West Point, no he is not in the military, just because he attends a military academy. I don't know how old you are, so I can't say for sure what you should do?
2007-09-07 16:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sad truth, You can't control your feelings, and the truth is, the Army is rough, being away from family is rough, and if he doesn't feel the same way about you, he'll cheat on you.
2007-09-07 18:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by tasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in touch.... what else would you do, dump the poor guy? He made the first "move" toward a real relationship and that says something. I see no reason to end it.
2007-09-07 15:55:07 · answer #8 · answered by Colter B 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nothing guarantees us a tomorrow. Love him and stay in touch with him as long as you want. Not to love is not to live.
Go Girl.
2007-09-07 15:52:12 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Mel 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
had sexual relationship when emotions were not involved
i can see how real caring you are
2007-09-07 16:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by Ivan K. 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋