My girlfreind has relativly small breasts. I could care less what size they are, I love her for who she is. The issue at hand though, is that she has brought this up several times. She will start talking about clevage, and bras tat give cleveage. I usually just pationtly listen to her, and it has become ovious to me that she has bad fellings toward the way she looks when it comes to her breasts. Next time she brings it up I want to say, "could care less what size your breasts are, or if you have cleveage or not. I love you for who you are, and to me you are the most beautiful person on earth. Some men might go after a woman for phisical features, but they are not worth it. You need to get past your breast size, and realize you have so much more to offer, and I love you notheless.
Would this be appropriate, would you girls like to hear this from your boyfriend?
2007-09-07 15:34:30 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
definately!!!!!!!! go for it!!!! =0)
2007-09-07 15:39:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am also a small-breasted woman (and YES, women CAN have small breasts!), and sometimes I get rather self-conscious about it too. My boyfriend has told me countless times what you have outlined above, and while it reassures me that he loves me, it doesn't erase the problem. So yes, tell her what you wrote here, and keep being patient with her.
Depending on what your girlfriend is like, you might also want to remind her that it is a relatively small problem. Are breasts everything? NO. My boyfriend has outright yelled at me before, and that has helped to put things into perspective. I am not defined by my boobs, and I will not let society pigeonhole me because I don't have the body of a supermodel. Very few people do. IT DOESN'T MATTER.
If all that doesn't work, reassure her that when the time comes that she has kids, they'll get bigger. Just Be Patient.
2007-09-07 15:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a completely sweet thing to say! I think that she would love to hear it, but you may need to find a way to prove it to her, or she might just think that you are just trying to appease her.
A lot of women are insecure about one physiucal feature or another that they have. it's just a normal effect that society has had upon us.
I have my own insecurities about my weight and breast size. I know that I am beautiful the way that I am, but sometimes I wish a weighed a couple of pounds less...or that my bust size was smaller (38DD)...sometimes it's just something that we women have to come to terms with. You can reassure her, but there is little that you can do aside from that.
My man could careless how I look, breast size, wieght wise, stretchmarks and all (I have a 3 yr old son). So, I completely understand where you are coming from. You are an amazing guy, and your girl should be thanking her lucky stars:)
Good luck, and I hope this at least helps a little:)
2007-09-07 15:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would shorten it a bit.
You don't want to point out "if she has cleavage or not."
Just keep emphasizing your love for her, how her body makes you swoon, how beautiful she is, etc.
Keep in mind, though, if this is a personal issue for her, you might not be able to make her see things differently. Most women who get breast augmentations do it for themselves, not for a man, despite what you may think. She may feel that she'd look better/ more proportionate in clothes with more on top. She probably knows that breasts don't make or break love, but it might just be something she's always disliked about her body, and really, nothing you can say will change that.
If she talks about breast implants, tell her that you'd support her if she wanted a head implant, but you think she's perfect as she is. But, if she's serious about it, support her.
2007-09-07 15:45:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
see today society has made us all feel usure of how we feel about our bodies. every one is different. it is a shame people judge so much by what they see and not for who the person is. she should feel lucky to be with you. i do think she is obsessing over her size. you know girls don't even stop to think how a man feels if he is tiny down there. some people need to step back and really think what they are doing to their self and others around them. you don't hear of guys running around crying they have small packages either. shame on all women for being so self absorbed. yeah some people like big boobs and some don't care. me personaly i rather have just the right size and not too much. the bigger they are the more bother they are. i rather think she is being a little to selfish. she should know you like her for her and not what she has. tell her you love her just the way she is. let her know if they were bigger it would not make a difference. if she continues to bother you with it she may end up driving you crazy. she still have plenty of time for them to get a little bigger. i am 30 and mine has gone from a C cup to a D cup in the past 6 years. they just grew. it could happen to her. as a teen i was a C cup. she should love her self and not her body so much. i feel for you to be burdened with the worry of her agony. just do what you can. you seem to be nice.
2007-09-07 15:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by trish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's appropriate to tell her that the size of her chest does not matter to you and you think she is beautiful the way she is. She may be needing that constant reassurance because she is insecure about her self.
Just hope she doesn't get a boob job because they look ridiculous.
2007-09-07 15:42:44 · answer #6 · answered by Lee B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you should tell her how you feel. Maybe she feels that guys are only into girls with big breasts, so she constantly complains about herself. The girl might realize how silly she's being if you just tell her that you love her for who she is, not how big her breasts are. I would say, go for it.
2007-09-07 15:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by alliep42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is appropiate- there is a time in life when we tend to feel insecure and full of complexs - There is no one better than the one we love to convince us otherwise. However, normally, that is not enough. If she is constantly pointing them out perhaps what she needs to hear, before or after you say that is something like, " Besides, personally, I think they are verrrryy sexy!" She probably needs to feel that you like them not that you are indifferent to them.
2007-09-07 15:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by ss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to work it out on her own, sure you can re assure her but its ultimately her insecurity so tell your there for her and you do love her unconditionally, but it could be an attention cry or she needs to work on her inner self and some problems are starting to manifest themselves. One day at a time, I have plastic surgery done I love mine, I did it for me becuase I felt insecure and now I love them and my ego has gotten a little bigger and I have the confidence that I needed for me, you have to love yourself first and then do you rbest to keep loving yourself
2007-09-07 15:43:10 · answer #9 · answered by defenseonly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honsetly, if i had a boyfriend, i would love him to tell me that, cuz its something no girl should worry bout, just tell her, that u think shes the most beautiful women on earth, and u would love her even if she had flat breasts, it doesnt matter, im sure she'll understand, if u show her how much u truly love her. :)
2007-09-07 15:40:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a nice thing to say. Some people worry about what society has to say about appearance, she just has to learn to like her self the way you love her.
2007-09-07 15:44:42 · answer #11 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋