my mother in law heard my husband and i talking. we were speaking english and she mostly speaks spanish.
she pops into our convo and tells me im not stupid dont talk about me and dont talk to my son like that!! i said what we are talking about is none of ur business and then she says its my son and he is my business. my husband literally had to take her aside and explain we were not speaking about her and proceded to tell her what we werre actually talking about. this upset me becuz i think it was none of her business also he is grown and her being his mother was not a valid reason for her to be trying to eaves drop. am i wrong??
2007-09-07 15:15:20 · 5 answers · asked by 1glamchick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Again... establish boundaries with the human wedge.
She knows she is on thin ice with you and is feeling really defensive and sensitive.
You gotta take her shopping for her own place to live before she completely disrupts your home and marriage.
You have to give her a deadline to be out of your home.
If your husband will not stand up to her, then you have some choices to make... like whether you want to be in a three-way marriage with your MIL. Get ready to get stubborn.
2007-09-07 15:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some choices. Move. Teach her to speak English (she isn't living in Mexico). Tell her that your conversations with your husband are none of her business and you would appreciate her respect in that matter. Tell her that if you have an issue with her, you promise to simply tell her and not talk behind her back.
I'm glad to hear you are speaking the language of the country you live in. She needs to do the same.
2007-09-07 22:22:37 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK, she's a total pain, but still, you should show your MIL respect and be polite, and the respectful polite thing to do was not to tell her it was none of her business....you stooped to her level when you replied that way. You know she pushes your buttons, so you need to have a little saying that you play over and over in your head when she's around.....Perhaps if you turned your irritation into pity, she would be easier to deal with? Your saying could be, "poor misguided woman, having to get attention by being nosy and cranky" then perhaps you wouldn't get so worked up and you could have better control over your responses.
2007-09-07 22:22:51 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a manner of privacy between husband and wife I truly understand the frustration she had cause. Of you have to be respectful toward her, because that is your husband mother...Your husband is going to have explain to her that it is rude to eaves drop on someone conversation.
It really appears that your husband going to have to make some decisive decision, because you can not be rob of your own privacy. There's one more important element, you are your husband family now. He has to explain to your MIL that he has responsibility to you, and she has to respect you always...God bless
2007-09-07 22:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have said "I am not trying to be disrespectful to you, but this is between my husband and myself" and walked away.
2007-09-07 22:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋