So here is the deal. In school my girlfriend doesn't like to hug, hold hands, me put my arm around her, lightly hold her waist or anything like that... but she told me that is was fine to do that.
Well, comes to find out that she talks to other people, and she told them that she never wants to touch me again, or for me to touch her.... just high fives.
We're 16, I would like a hug now and then, I mean I understand that at school ya know we don't have to, but like at vball games (she cant date yet) and stuff ya know a simple hug goodbye would do...
What should I do?
p.s. she doesn't know, that i heard she talked about this to other people... I mean i told her once that if she didnt want to touch then that was fine, i could just spend time with her, but what bothers me is that she cant approach me about this.
2007-09-07 14:53:31 · 45 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There were several people that told me and one was a little kid. I mean like in 5th grade, he came up and asked what was wrong because my girlfriend said she never wanted to touch me again
2007-09-07 15:03:27 · update #1
I understand. I personally like when my boyfriends hugs me and hold my hand in the hallway. I'm 16 to. I would talk to her about. Let her tell you what she told other people. If she doesn't then Tell her. You sound like a pretty understanding guy and she should appreciated that. Remind her again that its okay if you don't touch her. But honestly is it really? If she continues with that then you have a choice to make. And you know what to do.
2007-09-07 15:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by I can only be me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I would just back off for a while and let her come to you. I don't really see the point in having a girlfriend if you can't even hold hands. You are only in high school maybe you should just move on.
2007-09-07 15:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to advise you other than to say that you have every right to be annoyed. I will say that I had girlfriends who were like what you're describing but they did warm up in public after time. Maybe go along with her for now and let her know that you don't want any touching in public either -- then maybe she'll start wondering how much you really like her and change her tune.
2007-09-07 15:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by Stephen L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one thing that makes me glad I am not sixteen anymore. The transition from childhood to adulthood can be noisy, confusing, awkward, and painful.
As for your girlfriend, she is clearly not ready for such a relationship. Touching and holding young women will only excite you and leave you wanting more. For now be content just being her friend.
2007-09-07 15:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by kdanley 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k im a girl and she probably doesnt have feelings for u anymore or at all for that matter she doesnt seem ready to have a bf yet and thats cool some just take there time it could of been something in her past that happened to her which resulted in a fear of men im not saying that ur bad bt something bad could of happened try to talk to her ask her if she has feeling for u and take it to heart if she doesnt then move on bt be friends theres no reason why u cant be friends and besides that sounds like wat ur relationship is anyway
best of luck
-kay
2007-09-07 15:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what she is feeling right now, she's not allowed to date so she's being super protective, what if her parents see or someone else sees and tells her parents? then no one can really verify that she's dating. she is just being protective right now or maybe she just doesn't like public gestures
the fact that she would tell you/allow you to do that even though she doesn't like it proves that she likes you and the fact that she wouldn't tell you proves that she isn't sure if you REALLY like her or if you just want hugs or something
i think you should just talk to her and just don't name names and tell her what's been going on and tell her your feelings are genuine and if she doesn't want that then it's fine
a hug won't even make that much of a difference, everyone hugs everyone.
2007-09-07 14:59:52 · answer #6 · answered by Besch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly, so I suggest that you call and meet up! Get to the bottom of her decision and find out what's bothering her so much? Perhaps she isn't allowed, hense she isn't allowed to date yet? Or maybe it's the PDA? Just talk to her and be open with eachother! The key is communication, I hope you two will figure things out.
2007-09-07 14:58:13 · answer #7 · answered by Ally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, girls either dont want you to put your arms aorund them because they dont want people to know that you guys are together or she is embarassed of you. My advice is to talk to her openly. The best thing to do is be honest is ANY relationship. Trust me on that. So just honestly tell her whats on your mind and what is bothering you and then take it from there. If she really cares about you then you guys will talk it out.
2007-09-07 14:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She either isn't ready for a relationship, doesn't want one, or simply doesn't want one with you. ASK HER WHICH ONE. Just be blunt about it. OR she could just be a prude, doesn't like any physical affection in public. Just ask her. That's the best way to get the answer you're looking for on here.
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Kassy
2007-09-09 08:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Kassandra♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who high fives?? thats really weird. she definantly has a problem showing that she cares for someone. Hugging isnt even a sexual thing its a sign of affection not lust so she probably doesnt have feelings for you. Break up with her and tell her she needs to chill. I'm sixteen to and high fiving is not normal relationship behavior.
2007-09-07 15:13:58 · answer #10 · answered by xoblondie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋